TMI Tuesday – December 31, 2019

Happy New Year! Enjoy this last TMI Tuesday of the year 2019.

What’s new?

In 2019 did you
1. Get a new job?
I got a new volunteer job if that counts.

2. Get a new haircut?
Yeah, I've grown my hair out because Husband decided that he likes it long.

3. Get a new car?
No, but I did pay my car off.

4. Move?
I wish. But no, we will be in this place at least another year.

5. Get a new romantic partner?
I dated a couple new girls who didn't work out, unfortunately.

6. Have a kid?
Thankfully, no.

7. Take up a new hobby?
I've been trying to find the time to learn to crochet. I think with some practice, I could be good at it.

In 2020, will you?
1. Get a new job?
Probably not. Hopefully, I will get rid of some of my volunteer responsibilities.

2. Get a new car?
I really hope I don't have to.

3. Take a risk?
I don't like taking risks. They are scary.

Bonus: What will be important to you in 2020, that wasn’t important in 2019?
Time for myself. This is my resolution for 2020. I have filled all of my free time with volunteer work so that I could feel like I have a purpose. In doing that, I lost myself and had a mental breakdown. I have learned that having time for myself is important and it's okay to say no when I'm overwhelmed. It's going to be hard but I'm going to really try to make myself a priority.

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All Wrapped Up

Happy holidays!




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TMI Tuesday: December 17, 2019

TMI Tuesday, the Christmas edition.




1. Have you ever kissed someone under mistletoe?
Yes, Husband regularly catches me under the mistletoe on purpose.

2. Eggnog or hot chocolate?
I usually prefer eggnog but it really depends on my mood.

3. Colored or white lights on a Christmas tree?
I like colored lights on a Christmas tree but I like white lights on houses.

4. Real or fake Christmas tree?
Fake Christmas trees are less of a fire hazard and you don't have to water them. However, you do have to store them in your house.

5. What tops your Christmas tree?
A perler bead Grinch that I made myself.

6. Candy canes, yuck or yum?
Traditional flavor? No thanks. Cherry? Yes, please.

7. What is your favorite holiday dessert?
Pumpkin pie and sugar cookies.

Bonus: Are you going on holiday during the December holiday season? Where?
Yes, I am going to Chicago, Illinois.

TMI Tuesday: December 3, 2019

A new month, a new TMI Tuesday!



Ash:
1. What’s new with you?
I've been trying really hard to stop filling so much of my life with volunteer work. I had a mental breakdown a couple months ago because I wasn't taking care of myself. Trying to find that perfect balance is hard.

2. What do most people get wrong about you?
They think that just because I'm a very sexual person, I'm down to fuck. I may be a nympho but I am very picky about who I will have sex with.

3. Who in your past would you like to have sex with again?
My first instinct is to say J1. He is the guy I lost my virginity to. He was a narcissistic asshole but he was amazing at sex. I mean, it was because i taught him everything he knew and he was a very good learner. After we broke up, his new girlfriend raved about how amazing he was in bed. I was like, "Bitch, you're welcome." Haha!

My second thought is to say my ex-girlfriend, Kirsten. She was really yummy and I regret not eating her pussy when I had the chance.

4. What do you always have time for?
An orgasm. Friends who need a shoulder to lean on when times are tough.

5. What is it about you that a lot of people comment on?
My skin. Apparently it is insanely soft.

Bonus: Who has completely lost your respect?
My sister.


Husband:
1. What’s new with you?
Last week we brought two new things into our home, one of them being a new vacuum cleaner and the other a cute new guinea pig. I'm excited to try out the new vacuum as well as the bonding experience with the new guinea pig.

2. What do most people get wrong about you?
My age? I don't really know what people get wrong about me.

3. Who in your past would you like to have sex with again?
My third girlfriend. She's so hot. ( She's also Wife!) I would also have sex with Trystan again, because other than Wife that was probably the only other sex I remember enjoying . In a different dimension where my first girlfriend wasn't a complete asshole and a sadistic bitch I might consider sex with her because it's been such a long time ago that I don't remember much about the sex other than the emotional abuse from the relationship.

4. What do you always have time for?
Family, reading, breathing.

5. What is it about you that a lot of people comment on?
My weirdness. That I am funny and silly.

Bonus: Who has completely lost your respect?
I don't think I've completely lost respect for anyone recently. My boss tends to be someone who goes back and forth the most between gaining some respect and then blowing it terribly.

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Sinful Sunday: H is for Heels

It's Sinful Sunday and the prompt for the month of December is the "Letter H."

There were a few different H words that I had ideas for (heavenly, handlebars, honey). Husband wanted to do "heels" so I went with that.

I'm more of a "boots" type of girl but if heels are your thing, I hope you enjoy this image.





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TMI Tuesday: November 26, 2019

This is it! The waiting is over. TMI Tuesday is posted.

It's just me this time. Most of these things don't apply to Husband, so he's sitting this one out.

I may be a bit obsessed with pigtails.

1. What childish thing do you still enjoy?
Pigtails

2. From what movie do you know a lot quotes?
There are really too many to name. Friday, Austin Powers, Biodome, and IT are all movies I quote very often.

3. Would you say you use/recite movie quotes in conversations:
a. 10% of the time
b. 30% of the time
c. 50% of the time
d. 75% or more of the time
It really depends on the crowd I'm in. I would say at least B but sometimes C.

4. What’s your favorite movie line or quote?
Honestly? Probably, "Riiiiight" or "Sorry, I farted" from Austin Powers. I say those a lot.

5. What is your favorite euphemism for sex?
Fucking or sexy time.

Bonus: What’s the worst and best thing about being male?
I'm not a male but I've spent a decent amount of time in my life wishing that I were. So, I'll answer based on that.
The best thing about being a male is having a penis to play with. The worst thing about being a male is testicles.

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Kink of the Week: Fisting

The topic for Kink of the Week is fisting. If you're new to this, fisting involves inserting one's whole hand/fist into the vagina or anus for sexual pleasure. For the purpose of this blog post, I will only be discussing vaginal fisting, as I have never experienced anal fisting.

Fisting isn't a topic that I've always thought about in a positive light. In fact, it was a hard limit for me until five years ago. Having my vagina stretched seemed like a painful activity that I would never enjoy. Husband was very into the thought of doing it. He had brought it up multiple times and I always answered in the same way. It will absolutely never happen. End of story.


One night, things got very heated. We were both very aroused. Husband was rubbing my clit with his fingers while I was lying face-down on the bed. I was very wet and his fingers were gliding across my vulva with no resistance. I felt him stick two of his fingers inside me and thrust them in and out of my pussy. He would take his fingers out, suck the juices off of them, and then put them back in. Soon, he added another finger and continued to finger fuck me. It felt so good. I started to move my hips with his thrusts. I was so turned on, the juices were just leaking out of me. My pussy kept feeling fuller and fuller as time went on. It no longer felt like fingers were inside me but something much bigger. I started to feel a little scared about being so full but it felt so good that I didn't want to tell him to stop. I pushed the thought away and just went with it. As the feeling of fullness increased, I started to feel pain. It hurt but it felt good at the same time. I felt confused because I wasn't sure what was happening. I just knew I was enjoying it. I felt him plunge deeper and deeper, making me moan out in pleasure. I could hear Husband breathing hard and ragged. This sure was exciting him. A LOT! That excited me more. Finally, he asked, "Do you like feeling my fist inside you?" What?? The feeling was so intense that I couldn't even allow myself to be worried any longer. I let myself go and began to cum all over his hand. I squirted so much that night that I think I was dehydrated the next day.


That was my first experience with fisting and I ended up enjoying it even though I didn't think I would. I think the fact that Husband has smaller hands than most men helps a lot. They are only a little bigger than my own. I'm not sure that I would be excited to try fisting with a person with large hands. That's actually quite scary to me. I would like to try getting fisted by a woman. I'd also like to try fisting a woman. I'd love to feel what it feels like from the other end.

So, what exactly do I enjoy about fisting?

The feeling of being full is very intoxicating. There is nothing like it. It makes me feel very slutty. I like to imagine that multiple cocks are being shoved inside me and I'm being used by many men. Husband plays on this by calling me a slut or a whore and I get off so hard from it. It also makes me feel brave. I feel scared every time we try it. My anxiety is so high when we start. Will I be able to take it? Is it going to hurt? Will I have to tell him to stop? Though, after it's over, I feel like I have accomplished something. Especially if Husband calls me a good girl after (omg, yes!). All of that is great but honestly, the biggest thing that excites me about fisting is that it's a hand inside me. I have a hand fetish, which means I need hands on me and in me to get off. I love being fingered. It's one of my favorite things. Fingers thrusting deep and hard into my pussy. Mmmm. I can't get enough of that. Of course, the idea of having a whole hand in there is hot as well.

So, what are some things that I don't enjoy as much about fisting?

Fisting is something that I really have to be in the mood for. It's not something I can just convince myself to do if I'm not feeling up for it and sometimes it takes me a few days to get the nerve to go along with it. I would say that most of the time that Husband tries to initiate fisting, I really just prefer to have four of his fingers inside me. It makes me feel full enough that it's enjoyable, but not as painful as sticking the thumb and whole fist in there as well. I do like that he occasionally pushes my limits and goes for the whole thing though. I think I mostly just dislike the painfulness of walking around and sitting with a sore vagina the next day. Sometimes, I just don't want to deal with the mess either. Fisting can be very messy. It makes me squirt a lot, so we definitely have to put a mattress pad down before doing it.


Now that I know that I enjoy fisting, it still isn't something that we do often. I would say that we do it maybe three or four times a year. It's also not something that I talk about much. I am an open book in real life. I talk about my sexual experiences often but I have only talked about fisting twice with people who aren't my sexual partner. Why is this? Well, there is a stigma behind it. If you enjoy fisting, your vagina must be loose. If you allow yourself to get fisted, it will loosen your vagina. These are things that I've heard people say and neither one of them is true. The vagina stretches a lot but it doesn't stay that way. It returns to normal after stretching. As long as you are very careful (trim those nails or use gloves), use lots of lube (more than you think you need), go slowly (prepare for this to take a while), and communicate with your partner (make sure to stop if they are in too much pain), there shouldn't be any long term harm done to the vagina. Relax and enjoy the journey. It's definitely not for everyone but if you enjoy it, don't be embarrassed. There's nothing wrong with you or your vagina.

TMI Tuesday: November 12, 2019

This is it! TMI TuesdayTMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. Do you think taking a break in a relationship works? Have you taken a break? Why do you say it worked or did not work?
Sometimes it can work. Husband and I broke up for 3 years and then got married. We are happier now than we were before the break. We both had things that we needed to work on within ourselves and being apart helped with that. Sometimes a break makes you realize how you feel about someone. I say it's worth a try. If it doesn't work, then at least you tried.

2. What is your ideal “break” in a relationship:
a. we stay monogamous but relax expectations on each other and each other’s time
b. we can see/date other people
c. we can take time to explore sex with other people
d. take a break but there is no discussion about seeing other people
None of these apply to us since we are polyamorous.

3. Currently, how many healthy relationships do you have? How many unhealthy or toxic relationships do you have?
I only have one relationship at this time. I think my relationship with Husband is a healthy relationship.

4. Are there limits to your sexual creativity?
Lately, my mental health has been limiting me. Eventually, I'll snap out of it. I hope.

5. What one item in this life do you want to take to the afterlife? (For the purposes of this questions just assume there IS an afterlife)
Husband

Bonus: What life-altering thing should every human ideally get to experience at least once in their life?
Unconditional love. I waited a long time to experience that and I found it with Husband.



Husband:
1. Do you think taking a break in a relationship works? Have you taken a break? Why do you say it worked or did not work?
I can speak from personal experience that, yes, sometimes taking a break in a relationship works. Back when Wife and I were first dating things got rough and rather difficult for both of us and we took a break. Things weren't very clear for me, and I rebounded right into a marriage that lasted three years. That marriage was a disaster, as I was trying to find a replacement for the person who mattered most to me, which is impossible. Those three years apart though made me older, and I like to think wiser. So when we came together with the second chance, we didn't pass it up. We took that chance and have been keeping at our relationship ever since. We are much happier and evolved since our time apart, and I think that the time apart saved us.

2. What is your ideal “break” in a relationship:
a. we stay monogamous but relax expectations on each other and each other’s time
b. we can see/date other people
c. we can take time to explore sex with other people
d. take a break but there is no discussion about seeing other people
None of these apply to any relationship I have, being polyamorous for us renders this part a moot point.

3. Currently, how many healthy relationships do you have? How many unhealthy or toxic relationships do you have?
I have had many unhealthy relationships throughout my life, but currently, the only relationship I have is a healthy relationship, and that is with Wife.

4. Are there limits to your sexual creativity?
I believe my sexual creativity was stunted growing up by my upbringing, both by family and religion. I feel that now it has left me pretty open to creativity, but it is usually something that is inspired by others and I run with some shade of it that makes sense for me. I guess in short without a muse of some kind my sexual creativity dries up.

5. What one item in this life do you want to take to the afterlife? (For the purposes of this questions just assume there IS an afterlife)
I can't think of anything I would want to take with me. Things don't matter in this scenario for me. People on the other hand do, and I would choose to take people with me or to be there with them.

Bonus: What life-altering thing should every human ideally get to experience at least once in their life?
When I first read this question I thought of how every person experiences death in their life. I felt that witnessing birth as an opposite would be an incredible experience that everyone should be able to experience. Then I snuck a peek at what Wife put for her answer, and I think she has a much better answer. (For what it's worth, I love your answer - Wife)

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Sinful Sunday: Wash My Sins Away

No matter how much I wash,

I still get out just as dirty.

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TMI Tuesday: November 5, 2019

Hello kinksters! Let’s give it a go!



Ash:
1. What are your kinks?

Well, I have a hand fetish but I'm not sure that's considered a kink? I'm submissive but only in the bedroom. I love impact, rope, needle, fire, and age play. I'm very turned on by consensual non-consent.

2. How did a lover last please you?

Husband always pleases me with his amazing cock. It's shaped perfectly for my vagina and always makes me cum. I love it so much.

3. When it comes to giving oral sex would you say you’re:
a. a Rookie – I know the moves but need to develop skill and probably incorporate tricks.
b. a Talented Intermediate – I have had lots of practice, I have some ways-to-make-you-moan tricks. I’m pretty competent and confident in giving oral pleasure.
c. a Proficient and Intuitive lover who knows what to do when, where, and for how long. Guaranteed to make a lover scream, moan, groan with pleasure. You can come from the thrill of my tongue.
d. an Expert at whole body pleasure and oral is merely a thrilling stop on the way to mind-blowing stimulation. The sheer anticipation of what I will do at your nether regions is enough to make you come.

I would say A for cunnilingus.
Husband says that I'm D for fellatio but I have a hard time claiming that. So, I'll say C.

4. Which on-screen sex scene would you like to re-create?
a. The Pottery Scene, ‘Ghost’: Demi Moore and Patrick Swayze
b. Monica’s First Time, ‘Love and Basketball’: Sanaa Lathan and Omar Epps
c. The Train Scene, ‘Risky Business’: Rebecca De Mornay and Tom Cruise
d. The Kitchen Scene, ‘The Postman Always Rings Twice’: Jessica Lange and Jack Nicholson
e. The Nearly Eight-Minute Sex Scene, ‘Blue Is the Warmest Color’: Lea Seydoux and Adele Exarchopoulos
f. Brokeback Mountain iconic love scene: Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal

Probably D. That scene really scratches my consensual non-consent itch. Though E is a very close second.

5. On a scale of 1 to 10, how happy are you with the amount of time you have for sex? (10 = super satisfied)

I'll go with a 6. It can definitely use some improvement.



Husband:
1. What are your kinks?

I get really turned on about anal play, something about it just really excites me; more so the giving of anal play than receiving, but I enjoy both. I enjoy the giving of pleasure and pain to Wife, especially when the two blur together. I love being touched. I like to be nuzzled and bitten, especially along my neck. I know that there are other things as well, but my brain is fuzzy at the moment and it is difficult to delve deeper.

2. How did a lover last please you?

Every time with Wife is a pleasure, she has magical sex goddess powers. Seriously everyone, magic.

3. When it comes to giving oral sex would you say you’re:
a. a Rookie – I know the moves but need to develop skill and probably incorporate tricks.
b. a Talented Intermediate – I have had lots of practice, I have some ways-to-make-you-moan tricks. I’m pretty competent and confident in giving oral pleasure.
c. a Proficient and Intuitive lover who knows what to do when, where, and for how long. Guaranteed to make a lover scream, moan, groan with pleasure. You can come from the thrill of my tongue.
d. an Expert at whole body pleasure and oral is merely a thrilling stop on the way to mind-blowing stimulation. The sheer anticipation of what I will do at your nether regions is enough to make you come.

I'd like to think that I am at least a C that borders occasionally on D, and I am going to be positive and stick right there. I do love oral, I love the taste of Wife. She is magically delicious.

4. Which on-screen sex scene would you like to re-create?
a. The Pottery Scene, ‘Ghost’: Demi Moore and Patrick Swayze
b. Monica’s First Time, ‘Love and Basketball’: Sanaa Lathan and Omar Epps
c. The Train Scene, ‘Risky Business’: Rebecca De Mornay and Tom Cruise
d. The Kitchen Scene, ‘The Postman Always Rings Twice’: Jessica Lange and Jack Nicholson
e. The Nearly Eight-Minute Sex Scene, ‘Blue Is the Warmest Color’: Lea Seydoux and Adele Exarchopoulos
f. Brokeback Mountain iconic love scene: Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal

I've only seen two of these movies, and I may change my mind after seeing the other scenes, at this time though I am leaning heavily towards the Pottery Scene.

5. On a scale of 1 to 10, how happy are you with the amount of time you have for sex? (10 = super satisfied)

It's not a 10. My work schedule has recently changed and it is more all over the place rather than a static schedule, which has made timing feel off. I'm not happy with the amount of time available for sex. I know some of the lack of sex time is because of poor scheduling choices on my end, and it is something that I plan on working towards creating a better intimacy outcome.

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Sinful Sunday: You'll Float Too

"You'll float down here.
We all float down here."

Though it's quite odd, I've accepted the fact that I am very turned on by Pennywise. When I saw that the Sinful Sunday prompt for November was "quote me a Halloween," I knew I had to do something revolving around my sexy clown. I hope you like what I came up with and don't forget to give the lips a kiss below to see more from the other sinners. 

Sinful Sunday: A Peek Outside

Or a peak outside. Good morning, neighbors. I hope you enjoy the view.

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TMI Tuesday: September 24, 2019

How is it already time for TMI Tuesday again? The last week was a blur.

Expectations



Ash:
1. What makes you insecure?
Society's view of the perfect body and my anxiety.

2. What do you expect from a romantic love relationship?
I expect my partner to give as much effort as I do in a relationship. I expect my partner to show that they care. I expect my partner to make time for me. Quality time and touch are my love languages.

3. What do you expect from a friendship?
I expect my friends to show that they care about me when I'm struggling and to make time for me.

4. What do you expect from a Friends-with-Benefits situation?
I expect my FWB to use protection with their other sexual partners so that they don't put me at risk and to get tested for STIs regularly.

5. What expectations do you have for yourself?
I expect myself to be honest, friendly, and helpful to those that deserve it.

Bonus: Post one picture (art, photograph, drawing) that depicts how you feel today.




Husband:
1. What makes you insecure?
Being asked to demonstrate skills, being in front of large groups of people and the center of attention.

2. What do you expect from a romantic love relationship?
I expect love languages to be attempted to be met, meaning trying to accommodate a partner's love language needs. Communication, honesty, intimacy, sex, compassion, support.

3. What do you expect from a friendship?
Basically the same things as with a romantic love relationship, but without the intimacy and sex.

4. What do you expect from a Friends-with-Benefits situation?
I don't even know what I would expect from a friend with benefits situation; I suppose everything from a romantic love relationship, minus the intimacy.

5. What expectations do you have for yourself?
To provide for my family whatever is in my power to give them, to be a decent human being, to always stay young at heart.

Bonus: Post one picture (art, photograph, drawing) that depicts how you feel today.


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TMI Tuesday: September 17, 2019

TMI Tuesday - Do your thang!

I'm going to do my thang by going back to last week when I missed the TMI Tuesday questions.




Ash:
1. Which of these do you do the most with your significant other? List in order of frequency from done the most to performed less frequently. If you don’t engage in any of this with your significant other write N/A (not applicable)
a. Eat meals with your significant other without smartphones, tablets, TV or any device.
b. Exercise together
c. Share a morning kiss that lasts longer than six seconds.
a. We don't do this as often as we should. I do try more often than Husband does but we could both do better. We tend to not be on our phones when we eat out at a restaurant though.
b. We go on family bike rides, hikes, and other outdoor activities. We have also worked out at home together occasionally. I'd love to do this more often but he doesn't have a lot of time for it.
c. We don't often kiss for an extended amount of time, especially in the morning.

2. Briefly tell us about a time when things felt helpless but you knew you would pull through.
When Husband broke up with his boyfriend, Trystan, I was heartbroken. I had fallen in love with Trystan and Husband just didn't feel the same way. There was a lot of emotional pain to sort through during that time. Things got very dark and cold between Husband and myself. I knew we would eventually pull through but Husband didn't think we would. I still hurt but I've moved on.

3. Would you rather have sex in a posh romantic hotel suite, on a secluded tropical beach or in your own bedroom? Why?
It's definitely between the first two. I love hotel sex. It's pretty amazing. I've never stayed in a posh romantic hotel suite but I love the thought of it. Then again, the beach is my favorite place. I love the ocean so very much. One of my unfulfilled fantasies is having sex on the beach, however, I don't like the idea of getting sand in my vagina. So, it would depend on the surroundings. Are we actually in the sand or is there a nice little hut or something? That would be the deciding factor.

4. Have you practiced orgasm denial? Did you like it? Would you do it again?
I hate orgasm denial. Husband enjoys doing it every once in a while and it annoys me every time. If I'm going to cum, then why not let me cum? I see it this way, if you keep edging me for an hour, then I only get to have one orgasm once we are finished. If you allow me to cum when I want, then I could have multiple orgasms during that time. I don't understand why you would choose the former over the latter.

5. Finish this line: I doubt I will ever tell you _____.
Where I live.

Bonus: Would you pay good money to have the kind of sex you want, when you want?
Nah, Husband usually gives me exactly what I want. The stuff that he can't give me (sex with a woman) isn't something that I'd ever want to pay for.



Husband:
1. Which of these do you do the most with your significant other? List in order of frequency from done the most to performed less frequently. If you don’t engage in any of this with your significant other write N/A (not applicable)
a. Eat meals with your significant other without smartphones, tablets, TV or any device.
b. Exercise together
c. Share a morning kiss that lasts longer than six seconds.
A, C, B -n/a I would like to do more and longer kissing for sure, however I do a lot of hugging. Hopefully we can start exercising together at some point.

2. Briefly tell us about a time when things felt helpless but you knew you would pull through.
There are many times when I feel helpless, and the majority of those times I have a difficult time feeling like I am going to pull through. I wish it was as easy as just knowing things were going to be okay, but most of the times it just doesn't. The cloud is too dark, and things feel too hard. Thankfully those times I don't rely on hope or the light at the end of the tunnel, I don't look up, keep my eyes on my feet and plod along, one foot in front of the other for as long as it takes to make it out alive.

3. Would you rather have sex in a posh romantic hotel suite, on a secluded tropical beach or in your own bedroom? Why?
I would much rather be in a fancy hotel, and the biggest reason for that is that I can stay in comfort and not have to worry about cleaning up after ourselves. I know that it may seem rude, but this way I won't have to worry about ruining our own bedding!

4. Have you practiced orgasm denial? Did you like it? Would you do it again?
I have practiced orgasm denial on Wife. It is fun to keep bringing her close to orgasm and then stopping and then going at it again, just to hear her beg. However after talking about it later, it ended up not being as appealing to me as in the moment, because it was unpleasant for her. If I would do it again, it would be short term denial.

5. Finish this line: I doubt I will ever tell you _____.
I doubt I would ever tell you how much I hurt.

Bonus: Would you pay good money to have the kind of sex you want, when you want?
I don't have to pay any money to have the kind of sex I want when I want it, because Wife is amazing and her body is magical.

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Sinful Sunday: Little

A couple months ago, Jacob bought this lingerie for me. I finally got around to trying it on, so I took some pictures for him.

I really love how this lingerie makes me feel so little and innocent. It makes me feel like I should have a lollipop in my mouth.

Go check out the other sinners on this lovely Sinful Sunday. Kiss the lips below.

TMI Tuesday: September 3, 2019

Would You Rather, TMI Tuesday edition!




Ash:
1. When you’re old, would you rather die before or after your significant other?
This is a pretty shit question. I'm probably going to be the one that dies first but I'd rather not be. Losing Husband would be very hard though. I'd like to say, "Can't we just die together?" I wouldn't want to put my kid through that though. Losing both parents at the same time would be awful.

2. Would you rather live at the top of a tall apartment building, in your favorite city, or at the top of a mountain?
I would rather live at the top of a mountain, though I hope it isn't too tall because I'm cold intolerant and thin air is a bitch.

3. Would you rather have to sew all your clothes or grow your own food?
I love the idea of growing my own food! I kill every plant I touch though. So, I'd rather sew all of my clothes.

4. Would you rather have your debt forgiven or have guaranteed good health for a decade?
I would definitely choose good health.

5. Would you rather take a bubble bath with your boss or fuck your neighbor?
I don't have a boss, so I guess it would be fuck my neighbor by default. It's okay, I have a couple hot neighbors.

Bonus: Would you rather have the details of your financial life or your love life be made public?
I share things from my love life pretty openly already. I don't have anything to hide.



Husband:
1. When you’re old, would you rather die before or after your significant other?
When I'm old I would rather survive Wife, if only to spare her the heartache she may suffer at my loss. I would hope that somehow if it is required that we pass, that we would be able to do it together. We have had discussions about who we think is going to live longer before many times. Wife always says she is going to die first. I am always saying that I just refuse to die.

2. Would you rather live at the top of a tall apartment building, in your favorite city, or at the top of a mountain?
I would most definitely choose to live on the top of a mountain over a tall apartment or city. Preferably not a really high altitude mountain because I don't want to deal with thin air or real cold temperatures. I imagine the morning and afternoon views would be breathtaking.

3. Would you rather have to sew all your clothes or grow your own food?
I like to grow food, but don't know how reliable or well I could supply sustenance with that grown food. I think I would rather grow food. Wife could then sew clothes. She has a black thumb, so her growing would yield less than her sewing skills and abilities would provide clothing.

4. Would you rather have your debt forgiven or have guaranteed good health for a decade?
I would choose guaranteed good health for a decade. Financially we do better than a lot of our peers because we live within our means almost all of the time. I would much rather have good health guaranteed because I'll be more able to enjoy the time I have without worrying about health issues.

5. Would you rather take a bubble bath with your boss or fuck your neighbor?
I'd rather fuck one of my neighbors. I'm not a fan of my boss, and not someone I find attractive.

Bonus: Would you rather have the details of your financial life or your love life be made public?
I'll go with love life being made public because that is pretty much how I live now. I end up sharing (or oversharing) with people I work with or know when the conversation steers that way. I usually do not start the conversations with others because of fear of making someone uncomfortable, but if the conversation is started by others I don't have any problems joining in.

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TMI Tuesday: August 27, 2019

I disliked the TMI Tuesday questions for this week, so I'm going back a month to a set that we missed.





Ash:
1. If you were a sex worker what kind of sex work would you NOT do?
I would not do anything with fluid exchange. Everything would have to be protected. I've actually wanted to be a sex worker since I was a teenager. I'm not sure where I would fit in though.

2. You are a sex worker and you must have a specialty. Which ONE of the following would be your specialty and why?
a. Live sex shows
b. Professional domination
c. Camming
Well, I suck at domination because I am very submissive. I'm also pretty shit at video chatting, so I'm sure I would be awful at camming (even though I really want to do it). So, I guess the thing I'd be best at is live sex shows.

3. What is your secret fetish?
I sometimes fantasize about watersports. I have never tried it and don't know if I ever will but it pops up in my head every once in a while.

4. Anal sex can be pretty alluring? Tell the truth, which do you prefer, anal or vaginal sex?
I enjoy anal every once in a while but I love vaginal sex.

5. What is the most embarrassing thing you have said during sex?
Probably one of the times that I said I wished there was another person fucking me at the same time that my partner was. My fantasies sometimes slip out at the moment and I don't realize that they may make people feel like they aren't good enough. That's definitely not what I mean though.

Bonus: Is your g-spot in your ass? If no, where is it?
My g-spot is most definitely not in my ass. It is located on the front wall of my vagina.



Husband:
1. If you were a sex worker what kind of sex work would you NOT do?
I don't believe I would have it in me to be a sex worker. It's never been something I've thought about doing. I don't think it would be for me.

2. You are a sex worker and you must have a specialty. Which ONE of the following would be your specialty and why?
a. Live sex shows
b. Professional domination
c. Camming
If I must have one of these specialties, I guess I would choose live sex shows. I've been part of a few group sex adventures and I know it isn't really the same, but I know that I used to be uncomfortable with other people around during those times, but I've reached a point where it doesn't bother me anymore.

3. What is your secret fetish?
I don't have a secret fetish. Anytime I have come across something that excites me I've brought it up with Wife.

4. Anal sex can be pretty alluring? Tell the truth, which do you prefer anal or vaginal sex?
I truly do enjoy anal sex, but despite how much I enjoy it, I do prefer vaginal sex more. Wife has a truly magical pussy.

5. What is the most embarrassing thing you have said during sex?
I get really embarrassed during sex when I am talking dirty and I stumble over words and they come out messed up.

Bonus: Is your g-spot in your ass? If no, where is it?
The g spot is not in the ass, even before I was knowledgeable about sex I didn't think it was in the ass.

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Sinful Sunday: Filth

It was a long hot day. It feels good to wash the filth from our bodies. Well, maybe not all the filth.




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Kink of the Week: Summer

"I remember every moment of those endless summer nights.
I still recall the walks along the beaches
And the way your hair would glisten in the sun
Rising in the afternoon
Making love to you under the moon." - Richard Marx

My favorite season is summer. I am pretty sure that I love it more than the average person. Hot sun, swimming, barbecues, and long days. Those are just a few of the things I love about summer. I may love summer but do I consider summer a kink for me? I'm not sure. Maybe?

I love spending time outdoors in the summer. Going to outdoor nudist events is always fun and my most favorite summer activity is swimming. Naked pool parties are the best! While a lot of people would rather sit inside in the air-conditioned house, I prefer to be outside. So, what do I love so much about being outdoors in the summer? The hot sun makes me feel very warm inside, which in turn makes me feel horny. I love feeling the sun on my skin. The warm weather is like a big hug wrapped around my whole body. It turns me on so much and I just can't get enough.

Summertime definitely puts me in a good mood. I have seasonal affective disorder, which means that I'm very depressed in the winter but very happy in the summer. It could be that I feel extra sexy and turned on in the summer because my mood is better. Or could it be something more?

The hot days of summer mean dressing in less clothing. People show a lot more skin in the summertime, which makes my mind go to dirty places a lot more often. There are many women walking around in summer dresses, which is fantastic. That gets my heart racing for sure. I love wearing summer dresses as much as I love admiring other women in summer dresses. Short shorts, crop tops, bikinis, and sandals. All of these are wonderful things we get to enjoy when the weather is hot.

Not only do I love the hot summer days, but I also love the warm summer nights. I absolutely love to sleep with the windows open on warm summer nights. Lying in bed and feeling the breeze blow across my body feels so erotic. I remember being turned on by this even when I was very young. I would sleep in the nude, toss my blanket off, lie there next to the open window and just get lost in that feeling. This also comes into play when Husband and I have sex outside on our balcony. Feeling the breeze on my skin while he is fucking me is almost too much to take. Fuck, it's just amazing.

I've known people who just can't tolerate having sex when it's too warm. I love it, though. In the winter, the house is always cold and I don't want to come out from under the covers to have sex. This always creates an awkward situation where I try to have sex while still wrapped up in a blanket burrito. In the summer, the house is warm, so I can toss the blanket off of me with no problem. We are also nudists, so walking around the house in the nude is a lot easier when it's warm. We tend to wear a lot more clothing in the fall and winter out of necessity.

Now that I've talked about the things that I enjoy doing, maybe I should list a few things that I fantasize about doing in the summertime. I want to have sex on the beach. Sure, it sounds cliché, but I have such a connection with the ocean that I just think it would be really amazing to have sex next to it. I would love to have a romantic picnic that includes some hot outdoor sex. One of my biggest fantasies, though, is having sex while stargazing on a warm summer night. Maybe this outs me as a country girl at heart but I would love to lie in the bed of a pickup truck, listening to music, looking up at the stars, cuddling with my partner, and then having it turn into some hot fucking. Yes, please. I have been fantasizing about that since I was a teenager. Maybe I need to start dating someone who owns a truck!

So, maybe summer isn't exactly a kink for me but I do very much enjoy it. I wish I could live in a place where it's summer all year round. I wouldn't even miss the changing of the seasons. Give me all the sundresses and swimming pools. I'll be quite content.



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TMI Tuesday: August 13, 2019

Welcome to a new week and a new TMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Why? Sex is a difficult topic for partners to discuss, yet sex can draw couples closer together.
Well, I think sex is a difficult topic for most people to discuss. I usually don't have an issue talking about it though. I probably talk about it too much. If I'm discussing a problem with our sex life, that can be a little uncomfortable because I'm not sure how my partner will react. Sex can draw couples together but only if those people have a healthy sex life and actually enjoy having sex. Sex definitely makes me feel closer to my partner and it's something I need with any partner I have. Relationships without sex just don't work for me.

2. Who did you first come out to and why did you choose that person?
I came out as bisexual to my mom first because I knew she would understand. She was also bisexual.

3. Has someone come out to you? What was your reaction?
I have had quite a few people come out to me over the last 20 years. I have had friends come out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender. I've been nothing but supportive of each of them. I always give them all the love.

4. Recent studies show that smartphones are causing decreased intimacy among partners. In your relationship is the smartphone a saboteur or helping hand?
Honestly, smartphones do negatively impact the intimacy level in my marriage. There are times when we have alone time and we use it to play around on our phones instead of communicating with each other. I tend to catch up on Twitter or play a game on my phone at night to wind down and disconnect from the stress of the day. Husband usually takes that as a signal that I'm not interested in sex, which isn't true. I'm sure there are a lot of changes that we could make when it comes to smartphone use to improve the intimacy in our relationship.

5. Tell us something that you do that could cause someone to say “What Will the Neighbors Think?”.
I walk around my house naked with the curtains open. I also have sex on my balcony when the weather is nice.

6. What was your most recent motivation for masturbation?
I saw a very hot video on Twitter and it turned me on.

Bonus: Do you regularly view porn? What’s regular?
Yes, I view porn almost daily on Twitter.



Husband:
1. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Why?
Sex is a difficult topic for partners to discuss, yet sex can draw couples closer together.
I agree. Despite being raised with the understanding that sex is for procreation only, among many other stipulations, I know that sex is a great thing that doesn't just need to be used to breed like the Duggars. Just because I know that sex is just sex doesn't mean all that learning hasn't affected my thought processes. I still have a hard time bringing up sex in conversation. I do most definitely believe sex can draw couples closer together, but that is reliant on how important sex is for that person. Sex for me is the ultimate connection between a partner and myself because touch is my most prominent love language. This I know is only for me speaking, not for any partner.

2. Who did you first come out to and why did you choose that person?
The first person I came out to was Wife, who was then Girlfriend. I chose to come out to her because I felt comfortable with her. I felt comfortable sharing feelings that I had kept private and hidden up until that time.

3. Has someone come out to you? What was your reaction?
I don't think anyone has come out to me. I think I tend to hear about people coming out through the grapevine, never actually firsthand.

4. Recent studies show that smartphones are causing decreased intimacy among partners. In your relationship is the smartphone a saboteur or helping hand?
I feel like at this point me blaming anything on a phone is just me being lazy about dealing with my circumstances. I've been lazy an awful lot lately.

5. Tell us something that you do that could cause someone to say “What Will the Neighbors Think?”.
Being nudists is easily one of the first things I think of that throws people off. I've had so much random negativity about it, that I spend more time sounding defensive than actually being informative for the people who are curious.

6. What was your most recent motivation for masturbation?
Probably not having sex.

Bonus: Do you regularly view porn? What’s regular?
No. I used to watch it on Wife's phone when she would scroll through Twitter, but lately, I've been falling asleep. I don't even know what "regular" viewing of porn is. I feel like any input I have here would throw off the curve, like having a zero factored into your grade average.

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Sinful Sunday: Struggling

I've been struggling lately.

I found this picture fitting.

Retreating

Things have been difficult lately. I've been having issues with depression and anxiety. My self-confidence is seriously lacking right now. I don't feel sexy or attractive in the least bit. There's been so much stress in my life that I've just retreated from everything.

This all started a year ago. I fell down some stairs last summer and sprained my foot badly. This prevented me from working out in the gym as I normally did every day. I couldn't get out much because of the pain, so I did a lot of sitting around at home. I was lonely and depressed, so I self-medicated with food. I also started having intense anxiety around this time. Just as my foot finally started to feel better, I had to have emergency surgery. So, that put me in the same position as I was just about to get out of. During this time, I gained a lot of weight and I feel so gross. It's been about six months since I've been fully healed and I just haven't been able to motivate myself to get back into the gym. My stamina is way down and I'm basically starting from the beginning. It's painful and I just don't want to do it. I know I need to but I have to push through this depression to make it happen.

My sex life has definitely suffered. I can't bring myself to initiate sex because I feel so undesirable. Husband doesn't like to initiate things because he's convinced that I don't want him for some reason. So, he isn't initiating sex either. I tried to hint to Jacob a couple times that I would like to hook up with him, hoping that maybe he would help me feel attractive again but he declined. That means sex just isn't happening for me.

For a few months, I wallowed in my depression and accepted that this is just how my sex life (or lack thereof) is going to be from now on. Then, summer came and we had 2 weeks child-free. I felt desperate for a spark of excitement. I walked around the house naked every day. I would bend over at just the right moment in hopes that Husband would grab me and just start fucking me. I tried to get his attention every day and it just kept failing. I think we had sex once during that whole 2 weeks and that was because I woke him up with a blow job. So fucking depressing. After that, I basically just gave up. I feel defeated and unwanted.

Of course, because I'm not getting sex, I'm also feeling super irritable. Husband and I have been arguing a lot about stupid shit. That, in turn, makes us feel even further apart emotionally. It's definitely not helping the situation.

I don't really know what the answer to all of this is. Things are just very difficult right now. All I can do is retreat and hide in the dark place in my mind. Hopefully, I find some motivation soon and things turn around. I'm just so exhausted. I guess until I can start to feel sexy again, I'll just fake it.

TMI Tuesday: August 6, 2019

Do tell! Tell it all at TMI Tuesday blog.


Ash:
1. Do you or did you have an “our song” with a current or past significant other? What is the song?
Husband and I have a couple songs that mean a lot to us. Tangled Up In You by Staind, Sound of Pulling Heaven Down by Blue October, and Never Stop by SafetySuit.

2. What is your most annoying habit?
I put myself down a lot. I'm really hard on myself.

3. You have been offered free plastic surgery for one part of your body, what will you fix?
I would get a breast reduction and lift.

4. A meteor is headed for your house. You have saved family, pets, your computer, and smart phone. You have time to save one more item, what will you save?
Family photos.

5. Would you reveal a deep dark, shameful or embarrassing secret about your partner for one million dollars?
Never. I keep secrets very well.

Bonus: Which one of these do you have the most of: a sense of humor, sense of time, sense of direction, sense of adventure?
I have an uncanny sense of time. It's like I have a built in stop watch in my head. I know how much time has passed and usually how much time something will take. I know exactly when a timer is about to go off. I can tell you how much time we've spent somewhere or randomly tell you what time it is. It's actually pretty freaky.



Husband:
1. Do you or did you have an “our song” with a current or past significant other? What is the song?
To Make You Feel My Love, The Sound of Pulling Heaven Down, and/or Tangled Up In You. Three songs that have held large spots of emotional song energy in our relationship.

2. What is your most annoying habit?
I make all the food in my mouth crunch ( loud and annoying noises).
***This is true. He can make mashed potatoes crunch in his mouth somehow.

3. You have been offered free plastic surgery for one part of your body, what will you fix?
Can it be my teeth? I would kill to have my teeth made nice.

4. A meteor is headed for your house. You have saved family, pets, your computer, and smart phone. You have time to save one more item, what will you save?
My cigar box of little treasures. It has things from Wife, my daughter, things that belonged to my brother, just lots of things I wouldn't care to lose.

5. Would you reveal a deep dark, shameful or embarrassing secret about your partner for one million dollars?
I wouldn't share any secret of my partners without their say so, regardless of the potential monetary gain.

Bonus: Which one of these do you have the most of: a sense of humor, sense of time, sense of direction, sense of adventure?
Wife says better sense of adventure. I guess I would have to agree with her when she gives me her perspective.

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Kink of the Week: Humiliation

When I first entered the kink scene, I didn't think that I would ever be into humiliation. I'm not interested in humiliating others and the thought of being humiliated myself turned my stomach. I thought it was just too much for me to handle mentally. I am a person who has a lot of psychological trauma. Some of the things that I've seen in humiliation scenes are things that could cause me to withdraw into a very dark place in my mind and my mental health would be deeply damaged. There was no way I could put myself through that.

I have since realized that humiliation is a subjective issue. Each person is turned on by different things and my scene wouldn't have to be the same as another person's scene. It's okay to have hard limits to protect my mental health. Since realizing this, I have felt more comfortable treading carefully into the humiliation scene.

A big part of humiliation is words. Words make you feel things. They can make you feel good or they can make you feel bad. The point of erotic humiliation is to shame a person in such a way that it causes them to feel turned on. It isn't meant to tear a person down to the point that you can't put them back together again. The Top must be sure that what they are saying isn't going to damage the Bottom's mental health or trigger anxieties that they have difficulty dealing with. It's a very good idea to go over hard limits before engaging in a humiliation scene so that damage is not done.


There are a few things that are an absolute no-go for me when it comes to humiliation. One thing I do not enjoy is having my physical flaws pointed out. I don't want to be made to feel ashamed of my body. I would have a hard time feeling comfortable being naked in front of someone if they made me feel that way. I also do not enjoy being called derogatory names unless they have something to do with me being a slut. Don't call me fat, ugly, worthless, pathetic, stupid, etc. That is a huge trigger for me.


So, what aspects of humiliation do I enjoy? There's actually a larger list than I anticipated when I first started thinking about writing this. I'll try to break them down a bit.

Words are a huge turn-on for me. Not just the words themselves but the way they are said. Call me a dirty slut or a filthy whore. Point out how desperate I am for your cock. Make me beg for it. Tell me that I'm just your fuck toy, that you're going to use me to get off. Tease me about how turned on I am. "Wow, you're already wet and I haven't even touched you yet." Say all of these things in a way that makes me know you want me as much as I want you. If you sound disgusted by me, that's going to turn me off immediately.

I'm also into some things that could be considered physical humiliation. Shove your cock in my mouth and fuck my face until I gasp for air and have tears running down my cheeks. Fill all three of my holes because I'm such a slut. Hold me down and fuck me even though I scream out for you to stop. "Shut up and take it, you fucking slut." All of these things will turn me on more than you can even imagine.

There are a few things that I want to try that could fit the definition of humiliation. Bukakke is a huge fantasy of mine. I just want to be covered in all of the cum. I also want to have a consensual non-consent scene where I am belittled and possibly slapped in the face. This one would have to be explored carefully due to my psychological trauma but I definitely want to try it. Another thing that I have thought about is having my partner pee on me. It's something that has always piqued my interest but I'm not sure if I would enjoy it or not. I've always been too embarrassed to bring it up in the past.

I've saved the biggest one for last. I fantasize a lot about being sexually subservient. I want to be used for sexual purposes. For example, being on the receiving end of a glory hole. Just having random men shove their cocks in the hole and me being forced to pleasure them. Or an even bigger fantasy, being pimped out. Having my husband whore me out to others. Maybe they pay for sex with me or maybe I'm just forced to pleasure his friend. I'm not sure if any of these would realistically happen, but the thought excites me so much.

I've come a long way from feeling like humiliation is not for me. I am definitely not hardcore about it but I do enjoy certain aspects of humiliation very much. This is one reason that I'll try almost anything twice, just to be sure if I like it or not.

TMI Tuesday: July 23, 2019

I didn't care for this week's TMI Tuesday questions, so I went back to one that I missed last month.




Ash:
1. How many sexual partners do you currently have?
My husband is the only sexual partner that I have right now. I do have a FWB, Jacob, who I occasionally have sex with but it's kind of rare. I wish I had more.

2. Do you have any sexy secret kinks you have not told a current lover, and why are you so secretive?
A. I don’t want to do my kinks with my current partner
B. Partner would be shocked
C. Partner may get upset
D. I have no secrets
I can think of only one thing that I haven't discussed with my partner. I guess the reason that I haven't is B. I'm afraid he may be put off by it.

3. Have you ever been naked in public? (e.g., nude beach, nudist camp, randomly)
A. Yes – loved it
B. Yes – but would not do it again
C. No – but would consider it
D. No – would not ever do that
A. I've been to a nudist camp and I've gone to nudist parties. I love the nudist crowd. They are very accepting. There is something very freeing about being nude outdoors.

4. When at home I prefer to be:
A. Naked
B. Dressed
Naked. We are nudists. We spent a lot of time nude at home. If you show up unannounced, we will probably be nude.

5. Would you rather wrestle naked in a pool of Jello or chocolate pudding?
If the Jello is not cold, I pick that. I think it would feel really good. Warm pudding would also feel nice. I definitely go with Jello though. I'm imagining what it would feel like squishing around my body and I think it would be amazing.



Husband:
1. How many sexual partners do you currently have?
One.

2. Do you have any sexy secret kinks you have not told a current lover, and why are you so secretive?
A. I don’t want to do my kinks with my current partner
B. Partner would be shocked
C. Partner may get upset
D. I have no secrets
D. I have no secrets. I think that whenever I discover something else that I enjoy kinkily it ends up being a topic of discussion over dinner or while in bed.

3. Have you ever been naked in public? (e.g., nude beach, nudist camp, randomly)
A. Yes – loved it
B. Yes – but would not do it again
C. No – but would consider it
D. No – would not ever do that
Yes and loved it! I've been to a nudist camp with Wife before, which was my first time. I fell in love with nudity at that time. I never really knew it was a thing until then. Since then I've attended three World Naked Bike Rides, one just this past Saturday, and they were all incredible.

4. When at home I prefer to be:
A. Naked
B. Dressed
Naked at home, prefer nudity as often as possible and acceptable.

5. Would you rather wrestle naked in a pool of Jello or chocolate pudding?
A pool of Jello sounds more enjoyable to me, I've never been party to either one, and I honestly imagine that I am picturing it differently than it actually would be.

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Sinful Sunday: Red Light

Husband recently took this photo while I was swimming in a friend's pool after dark. I love how artsy it looks.




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Kink of the Week: Knife Play

Knife play. It sounds scary but what exactly is it?

Knife play is a kink in which knives are used as edgeplay tools. Edgeplay is when a Top takes the Bottom to the very edge of their psychological limits. So, essentially, knife play is used by the Top to push the Bottom to the edge of what they can handle by either cutting, scratching, or instilling fear.

When I first found out what knife play was, I was absolutely against it but not because I was feeling judgy and thought it was wrong. I had a serious self-harm problem from the time that I was seven years old until my mid-twenties. I have it under control now, but the thought of possibly going back down that road was very scary to me. After watching knife play scenes at play parties and reading stories written about experiences that others have had, I've realized that I'm very turned on by the thought of having it done to me and I don't think that it would trigger me in that way.

I've always been intrigued by the dark things in life. The more twisted and creepy something is, the more I'm into it. I'm a goth girl who decorates her house with bats, spiders, and other creepy things year-round. I read books about serial killers and watch murder documentaries. I very much enjoy watching rape and torture scenes in movies. So, I'm not surprised at all about the fact that knife play turns me on so much.
(Note: I am very much against murder, sexual assault, and torture in real life. It's all just fantasies in my head and I promise that I'm not a horrible person.)

I'm going to break down a few elements that I like about knife play.

One thing that really turns me on about knife play is the sensation that it would create. I am a huge sensation whore. I love being touched and I want to feel all the things on my body. Sensation play is the only thing that has ever gotten me to subspace and I love it so much. It is my most favorite scene to have. I want to feel the end of the knife poke me. I want to feel the cold metal against my skin. I want to feel it scratching me. I might even like feeling it cut me. Thinking about it is giving me goosebumps.

The marks left behind are another thing that excites me about knife play. Scratches, welts, and cuts are all possibilities of marks left behind after a knifeplay scene. Imagining myself running my hand over the welts left on my body from a knife leaves me breathless. The knife could be used to draw a picture, like a heart or a star. It could even be used to write words or draw lines in a pattern. I would love any and all of those things. Marks left on my body are always very exciting for me.

Though I've had a fascination with vampires since my teenage years, I'm not a fan of drinking blood. I don't enjoy that copper taste at all. I am very excited by the thought of being covered in blood though. So, the potential for blood play is another thing that excites me about knife play. Being covered in blood, rubbing it all over my body, having dirty words written on my body with it, watching it flow down the drain as I wash it off. Fuck, that turns me on so much. I've also been thinking about buying a vampire paddle for this purpose. A vampire paddle is a stiff leather or wooden paddle that has sharp metal pins that stick out 2-3 millimeters, just long enough to prick your skin and make you bleed. The idea is that as you are being spanked, the pins are also poking through your skin to give extra sensation. I have never used one but I love the idea of having it used on me!

The idea of the knife being used to cut clothing off of my body sends shivers down my spine. That is so fucking hot. I'm imagining Husband being so turned on by me that he just can't take it anymore. He needs to be inside me right now. So, he cuts my panties off with a knife and then shoves his cock into my pussy. Oh, fuck! Yes! Or, maybe he would use it to cut off my clothing in a consensual non-consent scene.

Consensual non-consent is a huge turn-on for me. I've fantasized a lot about using knife play in those scenes. I know that extreme care would have to be taken in order to be completely safe but I know it would really get me off. The idea of someone threatening to do awful things to me if I don't do as they say feels equally terrifying, intense, and exciting. I can feel myself getting wet at this thought.

The mind fuck of knife play is very intriguing to me. How do I know if a knife is sharp or dull? How can I be sure if the sharp or dull side is scraping across my skin if I can't see it? What if I flinch and he cuts off my nipple? What if he accidentally hurts me? The element of fear is very real when doing a knife play scene. I know that I'm safe and that he wouldn't hurt me but the knowledge that he could hurt me if he wanted to is enough to make me feel terrified. I imagine that it's a constant fight to reassure your brain that you will be okay. It very well could be too much for me when all is said and done but I'll never know unless I try it.


I have always loved knives. They are scary and sexy all at the same time. We even own a large collection of knives (way more than is pictured above), however, we have never used them in a scene. I've mentioned quite a few times that I want to try knife play but Husband and I have yet to do it. We have gone to a class to learn more about how to do it but I don't think Husband is feeling confident enough to try it yet. Honestly, I'm not sure what is holding him back. Probably the fear of hurting me. I've just given him space to figure it out and tried not to push for it. Now that I've written all of this, I think I should make a point to bring it up again. Hopefully, we can try it soon and I can write an update about how I feel about it.

Sinful Sunday: Grab a Handful

I don't often post full body shots. I'm usually too hung up on picking apart my flaws. I'm trying really hard to love my body and to stop being so hard on myself.




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Kilted Eye Candy

The Sinful Sunday prompt for July is One Shot Two Ways. For this prompt, I decided to shoot one subject in two poses.

I had been thinking about doing a photo shoot of Husband in his kilt and this seemed like the perfect opportunity.








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TMI Tuesday: July 2, 2019

Hello my sexies! Let’s get it on with TMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. What excites you beyond belief?
Hands. I have a hand fetish and nothing excites me like a beautiful pair of hands. Soft skin, long fingers, well manicured fingernails. Yes!!! Stick them inside me, please!

2. Your significant other has asked you to sleep with his cock in your mouth, what are your first thoughts? Would you say yes or no? Why?
Umm, is this a thing? It doesn't sound safe. What if I grind my teeth? What if my nose gets stuffy and I need to breathe through my mouth? I think that's going on the list of hard limits. I love having a cock in my mouth but that just seems too risky...for both of us.

3. Have you ever had someone sleep with your cock in their mouth?
No. I've also never slept with someone else's cock in my mouth. I have slept with a cock in my pussy though.

4. Fill in the blank: Spank _____ .
Spank my ass, please. It's been a while.

5. Write a sexy sentence (or two) and use the phrase ‘harness of rope’.
He tied a harness of rope around her chest. She loved the security that she felt under the rope. Then, he bound her hands behind her back. She felt helpless and secure all at once. He looked her in the eyes and said, "That's my good girl." She melted instantly upon hearing those words.

Bonus: Who do you laugh and play with more often– your friends or your significant other?
My significant other. I don't really have many friends.



Husband:
1. What excites you beyond belief?
When Wife tells me to do things to her. When I go down on Wife and she grabs my head and holds me tight against her when she is close to orgasm. When Wife trails her fingers along my body. When Wife rides on top of me or when she puts her ass in my face. When Wife licks and sucks and nips at my neck.

2. Your significant other has asked you to sleep with his cock in your mouth, what are your first thoughts? Would you say yes or no? Why?
First thoughts would be curiosity about the whole thing, because it isn't something that ever occurred to me to try. I'd likely say no because I grind my teeth in my sleep and that might be a dangerous sleeping situation for them.

3. Have you ever had someone sleep with your cock in their mouth?
Nope. Not something on my wishlist of things I'd like to have happen.

4. Fill in the blank: Spank _____ .
Spank it, spank it real good.

5. Write a sexy sentence (or two) and use the phrase ‘harness of rope’.
At the last play party Wife and I attended there was a couple doing rope play and were working up to do a suspension. It got me thinking about how it would play out for Wife and I to be working rope in our hopeful future basement. Where I would be able to wrap her up in a harness of rope and lift her off the ground bound tightly in security and my love.

Bonus: Who do you laugh and play with more often– your friends or your significant other?
More with Wife than friends, and the reasoning is more or less simply because I don't spend very much time with my friends with most of them being in other states. That doesn't mean that I would rather laugh and play with my friends over Wife, because I love that time with her. If we include my workmates, then it fluctuates depending on how much extra time I am stuck at work.

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