Sunday, October 14, 2018

Sinful Sunday: I Am Bisexual

Last week was prompt weekend for Sinful Sunday. I didn't get to post last weekend, so I'm posting it now.

The first thing that came to mind when I saw the prompt "I am..." was that I am bisexual. I love sex with men AND women very much. Definitely women a little moreso than men.

I tried to capture all of that here.





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Tuesday, September 18, 2018

TMI Tuesday: September 18, 2018

Welcome to sexy fun and playfulness at TMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. Which animal listed below represents your true sexual self?
a. Chipmunk – cute and cuddly
b. Monkey – all about being mischievousness
c. Tiger – I’ve earned my stripes

I would have to say mostly monkey with a little bit of chipmunk. I'm definitely mischievous during sex. During foreplay, I can be pretty cute sometimes.

2. Your partner is in the mood for sexy fun and you are tired – what do you do?
a. Start snoring. There is no way I’m giving it up tonight.
b. Trade. You give me a massage… and we will see…
c. That would never happen!

I don't do very well with lack of sleep. So, if I have to be up really early, I may say, "Not tonight" or that we can have a quickie. If sleep isn't an issue, then it doesn't matter if I'm tired. I'll still have sex.

3. Which of these sexual descriptive labels closely matches you?
a. Dominant
b. Submissive
c. Top
d. Bottom
e. Switch
f. Kinkster

Submissive. I have tried to be a switch but dominance just isn't in me.

4. Would you rather have your enemy eaten by a shark or die in an earthquake getting swallowed up by earth?
They both sound like pretty quick deaths. What's the point? I guess if I had to pick one, it would be the shark. At least the shark gets a meal.

5. For the next year, would you rather be dressed like a mime every day OR look normal but not be allowed to talk?
I'd dress like a mime. I don't talk much normally but I'd definitely like to be able to talk.

Bonus: What’s the most beautiful word in the world?
Melancholy



Husband:
1. Which animal listed below represents your true sexual self?
a. Chipmunk – cute and cuddly
b. Monkey – all about being mischievousness
c. Tiger – I’ve earned my stripes

Monkey; I definitely have a strong mischievous side, it tends to be exciting.

2. Your partner is in the mood for sexy fun and you are tired – what do you do?
a. Start snoring. There is no way I’m giving it up tonight.
b. Trade. You give me a massage… and we will see…
c. That would never happen!

B; trading favors for sexy fun is always great. Sometimes I am tired and may be extra sleepy, but I never have the mindset of "there is no way I'm giving it up tonight."

3. Which of these sexual descriptive labels closely matches you?
a. Dominant
b. Submissive
c. Top
d. Bottom
e. Switch
f. Kinkster

I think sometimes I feel like a switch, but I spend the majority of the time as a top.

4. Would you rather have your enemy eaten by a shark or die in an earthquake getting swallowed up by earth?
I am going to get dark here because I feel like I need more information. How big is the shark? Do they die from multiple bites or just one large one? How long are they aware and alive while being eaten by the shark? Do they die immediately from the earthquake, or do they slowly suffer buried alive? Do they have other injuries that would make their suffering last longer? To both, do I get to watch?

5. For the next year, would you rather be dressed like a mime every day OR look normal but not be allowed to talk?
I could dress like a mime for a year. Talking, even though it is not my strong suit, is preferable to not talking.

Bonus: What’s the most beautiful word in the world?
Bonus: Willow, Oblivion, Velvet

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Sunday, September 16, 2018

Sinful Sunday: Trickle

I took this picture a couple months ago for Jack. I came across it again today and decided to share it with you.





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Tuesday, September 11, 2018

TMI Tuesday: September 11, 2018

Deja vu TMI Tuesday as these questions were originally posted November 18, 2014. Except this is my first time doing this one, so it doesn't matter.




Fill in the blank

Ash:
1. When I can’t sleep I _____ .
Catch up on Twitter and/or masturbate

2. My dream bedroom would be full of _____ .
Kinky toys, mirrors, and lots of goth furnishings

3. If I could wake up anywhere tomorrow it would be _____ .
California

4. I need to _____ at night.
Be held
I have a lot of anxiety at night because of my C-PTSD. Having someone there to hold me helps to calm my anxiety.

5. _____ would truly be a nightmare.
Living alone
I would never make if I had to live alone. I have way too much anxiety when I'm alone.

6. Night time is the right time to _____ .
Have outdoor sex
I imagine you're less likely to be seen and caught. That's one thing that I really fantasize about a lot but I'm terrified of getting caught and having to register as a sex offender.

Bonus: Briefly tell us about your last dream–erotic or not.
I had a dream last night that my ex-bestfriend was my friend again. We were hanging out like old times and we had an intense make out session. It was such a realistic dream that when I woke up from it, I was crushed to realize it wasn't reality.



Husband:
1. When I can’t sleep I _____ .
Lay down and usually overthink

2. My dream bedroom would be full of _____ .
Four poster bed, chest for toys, mirrors

3. If I could wake up anywhere tomorrow it would be _____ .
Ireland. Or somewhere wild in Europe.

4. I need to _____ at night.
Cuddle and be touched

5. _____ would truly be a nightmare.
Losing my family

6. Night time is the right time to _____ .
Stare at the sky over a bonfire

Bonus: Briefly tell us about your last dream–erotic or not.
I can't remember the last dream I had.

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Sunday, September 2, 2018

Sinful Sunday: Macro Lips

It's the first Sunday of the month, so that means it's prompt time for Sinful Sunday. This month's prompt is macro photography.

I played around with a few ideas for this. After taking quite a few pictures of my clitoris, I wasn't brave enough to post any of them. So, Husband said he wanted to take a picture of my mouth, which he claims is very sexy. I hope you think so too.




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Tuesday, August 28, 2018

TMI Tuesday: August 28, 2018

Hello sexies! Welcome to TMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. What type of clothes make you feel sexy?
a. a specially selected casual outfit
b. lingerie or silky pajamas
c. elegant, dressy evening clothes
d. anything that leaves me almost naked


I hardly ever feel sexy in my casual clothes. I sometimes feel sexy in lingerie but mostly, I just feel self conscious. I love dressing up in fancy clothes. Dresses and skirts make me feel sexy a lot of the time. So, C is my answer.

2. Which do you prefer?
a. pillow talk
b. sexy texting
c. love notes


I prefer pillow talk. It's my favorite way to connect to my partner. It doesn't even matter what we are talking about. I just love being close and confiding in one another.

3. Which do you do best?
a. pillow talk
b. sexting
c. writing love notes


Pillow talk. I suck at sexting even though I try really hard at it. I'm not great at writing love notes either, though I do like to do it every once in a while.

4. You've been granted just ONE of the following in your favorite city/place in the world. Which would you choose and why?
a. 24 hours of romance
b. 24 hours of lust (intense, overwhelming sexual desire but not acted upon mixed with enthusiasm for life)
c. 24 hours of sex


Well, fuck. Why can't we have all of this? That sounds like the best vacation ever. Right now, I could really use the romance. I'm feeling very disconnected and unimportant, so the romance would really help. The 24 hours of sex definitely needs to happen as well though.

5. How do you tap into your sexiness?

I flirt with people who will flirt back. That makes me feel sexy and I just build off of it from there.

Bonus: Which is better–your digital sex life or your in-the-flesh sex life?

Definitely my in-the-flesh sex life. There is a lot that happens that I don't write about. I should definitely get back in the habit of writing more.



Husband:
1. What type of clothes make you feel sexy?
a. a specially selected casual outfit
b. lingerie or silky pajamas
c. elegant, dressy evening clothes
d. anything that leaves me almost naked


c. elegant, dressy evening clothes
I love going out wearing my nice kilt with a dressed up top and a tie, sleeves rolled up slightly. I feel in tune with how I look when I am dressed nice.

2. Which do you prefer?
a. pillow talk
b. sexy texting
c. love notes


All three are incredible. Love notes hit my emotional heart, sexting gets me all stirred up sexually, and pillow talk is a fantastic way to connect.

3. Which do you do best?
a. pillow talk
b. sexting
c. writing love notes


c. writing love notes; I have a talent for writing at times when my heart and soul flows out of my fingers and onto paper (or the keyboard). It is a knack for occasionally pinning down exactly what I am feeling to express my love.
I practice at sexting, sometimes I feel like I do a really good job of it, other times like I miss the mark completely. I do my best to not let it get me down.
I fail at pillow talk a lot of the time because I can quickly go from being awake and having a conversation to being asleep and being talked at without realizing the change.

4. You've been granted just ONE of the following in your favorite city/place in the world. Which would you choose and why?
a. 24 hours of romance
b. 24 hours of lust (intense, overwhelming sexual desire but not acted upon mixed with enthusiasm for life)
c. 24 hours of sex


a. 24 hours of romance; Even though I want to say 24 hours of sex. Romance jumps out at me the most, with sex being right behind it. I crave the romantic and physical intimacy and I think that romance might have a better shot at doing that for me.

5. How do you tap into your sexiness?

I have to think about it. I have to mentally go through possibilities and ideas and scenarios to get a good tap into my sexiness on my own. So basically I have to prepare for it ahead of time. That being said, if someone else taps into my sexiness for me it can bring it up to the surface rather quickly.

Bonus: Which is better–your digital sex life or your in-the-flesh sex life?

Real life in-the-flesh sex life is better. I love my in-the-flesh sex life. There are peaks and valleys due to all the things that come with life, but I thoroughly deeply enjoy my actual sex life. Wife is truly fantastic as a partner and lover.

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Sunday, August 26, 2018

Sinful Sunday: Birthday Spankings

Today is Husband's birthday! Happy birthday to him!

Last night, we went to a party full of kinky people. I told Husband to take off his pants and kneel on the spanking bench. Then, at midnight, I gave permission to 8 people to take turns giving him birthday spankings. Many impact toys were used on him and I really enjoyed watching. This was the result.




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Tuesday, August 21, 2018

TMI Tuesday: Aug. 21, 2018

Guess what time it is? Time to get TMI Tuesday sexy that’s what time.



1. What is sexy time to you?
When things turn sexual and sex acts happen.

2. Who’s sexier–women or men?
Women are far sexier than men. Men turn me on a lot but women turn me on so much more. Women are more attractive, softer, and taste better. Sorry, guys.

3. How did you learn to masturbate, and how old were you when you first succeeded?
I started masturbating when I was a very young child. The earliest I remember was when I was 4 years old. Honestly, I probably came out of the womb with my hand on my vulva. I was 14 when I had my first orgasm. Here is an excerpt from a post titled "Born a Nympho" in which I describe the first time I had an orgasm.

"One day I was sitting on the toilet masturbating, as I often did, and I felt this intense build-up and then a very powerful release. Pleasure shot through my body and I felt like I couldn't breathe. I whispered to myself, 'What the fuck was that?'"

4. Do you like taking naked photos of yourself?
Hmm, that's a tough one. I don't like taking naked photos of myself because I have self image issues. Sometimes when Husband is helping me take photos of myself, we get into arguments because I hate how I look in every picture. However, when I get a good picture, I am happy to share it. It helps my self esteem to hear/read positive feedback.

5. What is your biggest sexual fear?
I have a big fear of getting an STI. It's the thing that has stopped me from being more promiscuous than I am. I'm always as safe as possible but I still get nervous.

Bonus: To you, what does the ideal penis look like? (feel free to include artwork or photos).
I am a huge fan of average sized cock. A cock between 5-7 inches long is my favorite. If it has a slight upward curve to it, that's even better. An average girth is perfect. Nothing too slim that won't get the job done but also nothing too fat that will just hurt. I don't mind if it's cut or uncut as long as it's clean.

Something like this:


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Sunday, August 12, 2018

Sinful Sunday: Strappy Mini Skirt

Remember that outfit that I wore during our last failed dp attempt? I posted the top of that outfit back in July.

Now, I've decided that I should post the bottom part of that outfit as well.





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Tuesday, August 7, 2018

TMI Tuesday: August 7, 2018

Greetings & Salutations.
Another TMI Tuesday presented today to jump-start your writing, jog your memory, and spur deep thought. It’s tricky…




Ash:
1. Is falling in love effortless?
Yes, I would say it is. I haven't been in love very many times but every time it has happened, it was effortless. Meaning, I fell before I even realized it was happening and there was nothing I could do to stop it.

2. Is your significant other most like your mom or your dad?
I think he is more like my mom than my dad but really not much like either of them. He has a kind heart and loves helping others like my mom.

3. Which parent do you identify with most?
My dad because he's addicted to sex as much as I am.

4. What one thing are you lacking that you believe will make your life run smoother?
A house. We have outgrown our tiny apartment. It's too cluttered in here and I just need more space. I keep throwing things out but at this point, we don't have a lot of unnecessary things left and we just need a bigger place.

5. Which is sexier: constantly pushing the boundaries or playing by the rules?
A balance of both is good. If you push all the time, it's going to get overwhelming, however, if you always play it safe, then it gets boring.

Bonus: Do you think confessions make a relationship stronger?
Yes. If we are in a relationship, I need you to confide in me so that I feel connected.



Husband:
1. Is falling in love effortless?
For me, it always has been. I cannot remember a time when I fell for someone and it didn't just happen, slowly at first, but gaining momentum as time goes by. It is usually the climbing back out that is hard.

2. Is your significant other most like your mom or your dad?
I would say that mom in the good ways. She is kind and caring, smart and loving, loyal and adventurous. I almost don't want to say this, but in some neutral ways, she is much like my dad. She loves to bake, is social, and is independent. I don't feel like she leans really heavily towards being too much like either of my parents though.

3. Which parent do you identify with most?
My mom. I think we are anxious, a little off in the head, we think outside the box, we are easily distracted. The older I get the more I realize just how similar my Ma and I are.

4. What one thing are you lacking that you believe will make your life run smoother?
A house. We have outgrown each successive living arrangement we have had, even when supplemented by a storage unit. We just need more breathing room for all of the family, but also so that we can have a dog, and a larger area for our guinea pigs to have to live in.

5. Which is sexier: constantly pushing the boundaries or playing by the rules?
A mix is important, though if I were pushed to definitively pick I would go with playing by the rules because I have a tendency to play things safe. I like expanding and exploring, but slowly. We have done this most of our relationship and for me slowly pushing the boundaries works best.

Bonus: Do you think confessions make a relationship stronger?
I do. Unloading and connecting in this way has definitely been a life changing experience for me.

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Sunday, August 5, 2018

Sinful Sunday: Delicious Reflection

It is Sinful Sunday and it just happens to be the first Sunday of the month. The prompt for August is "Include a camera in the shot." Husband had this wonderful picture on his phone already and I thought you might enjoy it.




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Tuesday, July 31, 2018

TMI Tuesday: July 31, 2018

It’s the end of the month, don’t let it get away without playing TMI Tuesday!

Tell it to us straight or sexy


Ash:
1. One thing that you will never do again?
Electro-play. That was awful. I am super conductive and I do not enjoy the feeling of electricity running through my body. Keep those violet wands far away from me!

2. Who knows you the best?
My husband knows me the best. He knows things that no one else knows, things that go on in my head and things that have happened to me. I tell him everything.

3. Do you think a relationship should be 50/50 all the time?
I don't think a healthy relationship can realistically be 50/50 all the time. People go through things. They have struggles and hard times. Part of a healthy relationship is being there for your partner when they need extra love. Sometimes one partner may be giving more than the other and that's okay as long as the situations are reversed when needed. Honestly, I would say that the times that I have to give more than Husband are just as rewarding as the times that it's equal. Taking care of him makes me feel good. It actually helps to make me feel connected.

4. When was your most recent act of kindness? Was it appreciated?
Hmmm. This morning, I held the door for three people at the gas station and they said thank you. I gave my niece a bunch of school supplies that my daughter didn't need and I assume that they appreciated it. I give random strangers compliments almost daily and they are usually appreciative. I had a hard month, so it's been a while since I've done anything big for someone. I am planning on giving blood soon. I think that's a big act of kindness.

5. Are you a good friend? Why or why not?
I think I'm a very good friend. I'm always there for my friends when they need someone to be there for them. Either to listen, help them with a task, or even help them move. I do fail at communication often and I rarely invite my friends to do things because I almost always get turned down. However, when my friends invite me to do something, I almost always say yes.

6. What is something that you tried really hard to like but just couldn’t?
I think that would be 69. I tried so hard to like it. It looks hot as fuck. I just can't get into it. I like to really concentrate on giving or receiving oral. Especially since I have a hard time cumming from oral sex and I really enjoy sucking cock. I also find it to be very uncomfortable. Maybe that's because I'm short and fat. I don't know. I would just like to do them separately.

Bonus: How was your month of July? Did you do anything fun, interesting, new?
It was mostly crap. I fell down the stairs on the 4th and sprained my foot and ankle badly. I've been dealing with the pain from that all month and it's healing very slowly. The middle of the month was full of horrible panic attacks that really took a toll on me. I'm still recovering from that as well. The end of the month has been nice. We got to go to a lovely wedding and I went camping with my daughter's Girl Scout troop.


Husband:
1. One thing that you will never do again?
Subject myself to a relationship where I am degraded and put down constantly. I can't imagine trying to keep my mental state from falling apart again.

2. Who knows you the best?
Wife knows me best, sometimes even moreso than I know myself. Somehow she can look into my eyes and read the invisible ink on my soul.

3. Do you think a relationship should be 50/50 all the time?
I don't think any relationship is 50/50 all the time. I truly believe that each relationship shifts and moves back and forth as life happens. It should be a give and take that slides one way and then back the other always working towards trying to meet in the middle. Maybe that is actually what constitutes a 50/50 relationship after all though.

4. When was your most recent act of kindness? Was it appreciated?
I complimented a woman in the drive-thru about her hair color. I feel like it brightened up her day because it brought out a fun light-hearted conversation about her hair, the colors she uses, Wife's hair colors, and my daughter's hair colors. I feel like it put a good smile on her face and a laughter in her voice.

5. Are you a good friend? Why or why not?
I don't know. I like to think for the most part I am. I am not the best at staying in touch with people, especially when distance comes into play. I am one of those people who can pick up where we left off and start up all over again. I would love to feel like I am a great friend.

6. What is something that you tried really hard to like but just couldn’t?
Coleslaw. I have tried so many variations of this from so many recipes and people and have been disappointed every time but once. This has led me to turn it down almost every time.

Bonus: How was your month of July? Did you do anything fun, interesting, new?
I feel like there were some great moments and experiences as well as some really rough patches. We had a chance to attend the wedding of two workmates that was unbelievably gorgeous. I started to learn how to knit. We also had a really great 4th of July with the families of my daughter's friends.

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Tuesday, July 24, 2018

TMI Tuesday: July 24, 2018

How are you doing? Check yourself by playing this TMI Tuesday.

Free yourself. . .



Ash:
1. What do you need to learn but won’t admit to?
I need to learn how to take care of myself better. I am definitely lacking in the self-love area of my life. I'm way too hard on myself.

2. If you could erase one event from your life, which one would you choose? Briefly describe the event, tell us why you would erase it.
I would erase the event that caused my 2 week panic attack. That was really awful and I'm still recovering from it.

3. Who drains your energy, and why do you let it happen?
My big sister. I don't let her do it as much as I used to. I don't spend as much time with her anymore. I let it happen because she's my sister and I love her. She's just really hard to deal with most of the time.

4. Do you practice ‘self-love’ or ‘self-loathing’?
Oh, I'm excellent at self-loathing. It's one of the things I do best. I'm trying to turn that around though.

5. What must you do daily to keep yourself ‘sane’?
Cuddle with Husband. When I'm in his arms, I feel like I'm able to let go of all the things that are stressing me out.

Bonus: Who do you blame?
I blame my step-dad. He's the cause of most of the anxiety and stress in my life. His abuse created the C-PTSD that I struggle with today.


Husband:
1. What do you need to learn but won’t admit to?
I feel like the big thing I need to learn is that I am allegedly attractive. It's hard for me to see it, and to own it. I think a lot of it has to do with a modesty and humbleness that I can never seem to shake.

2. If you could erase one event from your life, which one would you choose? Briefly describe the event, tell us why you would erase it.
I think it would be the night my dad and mom came home from a party and my dad was over the top drunk and angry as hell about something. There was great potential for violence that night. I remember my dad slamming a can of baked beans on the counter or table and it exploded. I vaguely remember my mom calling the police, and then herding us into our playroom where we sat on the floor huddled up blocking my dad from getting in. I remember my dad banging the door trying to get in while I stared at Castle Greyskull sitting in front of me.

3. Who drains your energy, and why do you let it happen?
People at work drain my energy. Most of the time I do my best to not let it happen, but there are days where I am weaker than most and it gets under my skin and drains me.

4. Do your practice ‘self-love’ or ‘self-loathing’?
I probably lean more towards self-loathing, but I have been trying to practice self-love more often.

5. What must you do daily to keep yourself ‘sane’?
Currently I immerse myself into my family. Without their presence and touch I would lose touch with myself and go off the deep end rather quickly.

Bonus: Who do you blame?
I blame Trump for many things these days.

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Saturday, July 21, 2018

Stuck Inside a State of Panic: Part II

Just as I was losing hope that I would ever feel better, I did start feeling better during that second week. Very, very slowly.

On Monday, Husband and I were signed up for a class to learn how to knit. I thought it would be a good idea to try getting out of the house, so I told him that I was feeling up to going. The ride there was hard. Everything around me was making me panic. Just being jostled in the car was making me panic. I had a firm grip on the car door and just closed my eyes. I breathed through it and it was okay. When we got to the class, I was still in a state of panic. Once I started focusing on the knitting, however, I started to calm down a little. I still couldn't participate much in a conversation and I still felt lost inside, but I was finally feeling a little relief.

My sister was completely freaking out because she was worried about me, so we stopped at her house after the knitting class. Once I was there, I couldn't bring myself to leave again. Getting back in the car was too scary. The thought of going back home made me panic. I really didn't want to be alone when Husband went to work the next day. I told Husband that I just couldn't leave. So, we ended up staying the night there. Since I was feeling a little better, I decided not to take the anxiety meds that night. I couldn't sleep at all. I don't know if it was because I was used to having that medicine that basically acted like a sleeping pill for the last week or if it was just anxiety that kept me up. I just laid there in the darkness with my eyes closed, hoping that sleep would come to me. It didn't...until 6:30am.

The next day, I still didn't feel ready to go home, but we did anyway. I had a serious panic attack while walking into the house. I had to stop a few times and take some deep breaths. I kept it mostly together though. I didn't sleep again that night.

Nights are the worst. They always have been. I'm scared of the dark. I'm always convinced someone is coming to get me at night. This is all part of my C-PTSD. Combine that with my intense anxiety problems at the moment, and nighttime is just awful. Every little noise in the house fills me with anxiety. Adrenaline races through my body, causing me to panic even more. The worst part of it is lying in bed awake while everyone around me is sleeping. I feel so alone but I can't keep them up too. So, I just continue to lie there, hoping that one night, I'll finally be able to sleep again.

The next day, I had my monthly sewing class. It was the first time that I drove myself anywhere since this all started. It was a little rough but I did pretty well. I did have a pretty intense panic attack during the class though. I was running behind everyone else and feeling overwhelmed with the project we were making. My heart was racing, I was sweating a lot, and I was shaking badly. I just kept breathing deeply and carrying on, not letting it control me. I overcame it. I now had hope again. I was going to be okay.

Last night, I was finally able to listen to music again. It gave me a sense of calm instead of panic. This actually helped a lot. Any creaks and little noises in the house were drowned out by the music and it gave me something to focus on rather than the thoughts in my head. It still took me a very long time to fall asleep and I woke up every thirty minutes or so in a panic, however, I was able to fall back asleep more quickly.

I'm feeling hopeful now. I know I'm on the road to recovery from this. I am definitely not 100% better but I'm working on it. I caught myself thinking about sex today, which is huge. I'm finally getting back to my old self and it feels so good. I'm trying to hold off celebrating too early because I am still dealing with a lot of anxiety at this point. It is definitely WAY better than it was before though. I can actually function somewhat well.

I really have to thank Husband for being so amazing during all of this. He has stayed calm the whole time and helped me through it. He has continued to reassure me that I am going to be okay, even when I didn't believe him. He never got frustrated or annoyed with me. I know that he really helped me get through this and I'm not sure if I could have done it without him. He is an amazing husband and I'm so lucky to have him. I love him so much.

The idea of going to see a therapist has always been something that causes me a lot of anxiety. I have had bad experiences with it and I haven't wanted to try it again. I am now changing my mind about it. This is the first time I've ever experienced a panic attack that was this bad, however, I do often deal with intense depression. I think that having a therapist may be helpful. So, once I'm feeling better, I'm going to try to find one. Hopefully, this will be a good thing.

It took me a long time to decide whether or not to post about this. Like I said before, I know mental health issues are not sexy at all. I just thought that it would help to get this out and maybe it could help someone else know that they aren't alone in their struggles. I will try my best to get back to the sexiness. I just need a little time.

Friday, July 20, 2018

Stuck Inside a State of Panic: Part I

You may have been wondering where I've been. I've basically been hiding out for the last two weeks and dealing with some serious mental health issues. I know what you're thinking. Mental health issues are not sexy. You are right about that. I usually try to forget that I have mental health issues. I hide them away as well as I can so that people on the outside can't see them. Though, they always seem to find a way to pop back up at the worst time possible. I'm finally at the point in my life that I am accepting that mental health issues are just part of who I am. Either people accept that or they don't. Regardless, this is my life.

I've always had anxiety issues, even as a child. I had a very abusive childhood, which has caused me to have C-PTSD as an adult. This has made my anxiety issues worse. I mostly deal with the symptoms of C-PTSD quietly inside myself. Occasionally, I will reach out to Husband and he is very supportive. He really doesn't understand though. Although he does his best to help me when I'm struggling, I thought it was easier to just deal with it all alone and not bother anyone else. I thought I had my anxiety under control. I would take deep breaths, close my eyes, and calm myself down when I would have a panic attack. Everything was fine. I've been coping very well. Then, something happened to make me realize that I really don't have it under control and I can't do it all alone.

I don't want to talk about the incident that happened because I am afraid it will send me back into a panic attack. Let's just say that something happened that made me convinced that I was going to die. When my brain latched on to the belief that I was going to die, my whole body flushed. I had an intense hot flash and my heart started racing. I started to sweat and it felt like the temperature of the room had increased by fifty degrees. I felt like I couldn't breathe and I was hyperventilating. It felt like something heavy was sitting on my chest. My stomach was in a tight knot and I felt like I was going to vomit. I was shaking so badly that I could barely text Husband. I sent him some panicked and hysterical text messages. I was completely freaking out. He was at work, so there was nothing he could do. I'm sure he felt awful for not being there when I needed him. I was all alone and very scared.

On his way home from work, he stopped at the store to get a gift for me. His heart was in the right place but I don't think he realized just how far over the edge I had gone. I freaked out even more because he was late coming home from work. I was convinced something happened to him. I just needed him there with me. So, I called him in a panic. He assured me that he would be home soon and I tried to calm myself down. It just wasn't working. I tried all of the tricks that I'd learned for dealing with panic attacks. None of them worked. I had completely lost touch with reality.

When Husband got home, he found me in the bedroom, hiding under blankets, in the dark. He held me and I just started crying hysterically. I was a complete wreck all night. Nothing he did could calm me down. At one point, after I had finally fallen asleep, I woke up screaming. I could only sleep for about twenty minutes at a time before I'd jump awake in a panic. It was so awful.

The next day, I was just as bad. I called a nurse line and was told to go to urgent care to get checked out. So, I did. They quickly realized that I was in a state of panic and tried to calm me down. It wasn't working. So, they sent me home with some anxiety meds. I was somewhat relieved because I really wanted to feel better at this point. It had been over 24 hours of a constant panic attack and I was exhausted.

I went home and thought about taking the medication but that made me feel even more scared because I had never taken anxiety meds before, so I didn't know what to expect. I decided to wait for Husband to get home so that I wasn't alone. That night, he was so tired from me keeping him up the night before, that he said he would rather I wait to take the meds because he would likely pass out so hard that he couldn't watch me for a bad reaction. So, I didn't take them. That ended up being a bad idea. It took me a long time to fall asleep. When I finally did, I woke up screaming again. It was another night of waking up every 15-20 minutes in a state of panic.

I was hoping that I would wake up feeling better the next day. That didn't happen. I was still hysterically crying. I was in a rolling panic attack. Just when I thought I was coming down from my panic, it would roll over me like a large wave, drowning me again. Everything around me felt like a dream. There was a haze around reality. I couldn't function at all. The two biggest things in my life are sex and music. I couldn't even have sex or listen to music anymore. I was in a very deep depression. That day, I took the anxiety meds. It did numb my anxiety a lot, however, it also made me sleep. I just passed out and slept. And slept. And slept. I still couldn't function.

For a whole week, I was stuck in this panic attack. I was so lost. I would take the anxiety meds at night so that I could get some sleep. During the day, when I wasn't crying, I was just staring off into space lifelessly. I couldn't laugh or hold a conversation. I could barely eat anything because my stomach was so upset. I was lost inside the worst panic attack I've ever had. I didn't know how to get out of it. I kept reassuring myself that I was going to be okay. I repeated it over and over. It didn't help at all. I finally lost hope.

Tuesday, July 10, 2018

TMI Tuesday: July 10, 2018

Guess what time it is? TMI Tuesday!

Here’s looking at you. . .



Ash:
1. What is the most marvelous thing you have ever seen?
The birth of my niece. I was my sister's birth coach and I helped her through delivery while the doctor was trying to force her to have a c-section. My niece kept flipping over, making it really hard for my sister to push her out but I knew she could do it. When my niece was finally born and I got to cut her cord, it was very emotional for me.

2. Are you a starter or a finisher?
I'm definitely a starter. I start so many crafts and projects. I always mean to finish them but I keep putting them off. I think I usually finish them...eventually. It sometimes takes years though.

3. When did your heart last ‘skip a beat’? Why?
When my husband took me to the spot he proposed for an anniversary picnic dinner.

4. What does your perfect day look like?
A day with my family at the beach.

5. What would you call your autobiography?
I Won't Let My Past Define Me. I don't know. Maybe that's lame. Something to do with overcoming a horribly abusive childhood with a shitty family and growing up to be the strong woman I am today.

Bonus: How does it feel to be photographed?
Uncomfortable. I have awful self esteem from my past traumas. I definitely need guidance with posing because I am horribly critical of myself.



Husband:
1. What is the most marvelous thing you have ever seen?
The most marvelous thing I have ever seen was the birth of my daughter. There was so much emotional static buildup leading to her birth, it was just a glorious magical moment.

2. Are you a starter or a finisher?
I am definitely a finisher, but a starter by impulse. By this I mean that in most instances I am unlikely to initiate because I tend to live life reactively, I take what comes my way and roll with it, I adapt accordingly. However I am also riden by impulsivity at times and will initiate or instigate some sort of start.

3. When did your heart last ‘skip a beat’? Why?
The night we had Wife's FWB over and she came out of the bedroom in the glory of her newest outfit. This was followed rather quickly by her turning around to give us the entire show and I saw the gleam of silver between her exquisite ass cheeks, knowing that meant there was a plug in her ass.

4. What does your perfect day look like?
A day with my family (immediate: Wife and Daughter) spent making breakfast together and enjoying each other's company around a small table. Followed by some outdoor exploration for the majority of the day. Curling up around a fire for a fire cooked meal for dinner before putting my daughter to bed. Followed by some intimate nake time with Wife under the stars and moon before falling asleep in each other's arms.

5. What would you call your autobiography?
The Grey Lantern

Bonus: How does it feel to be photographed?
As long as I am directed as to what to do I am content. I don't think I am an incredible subject for shooting, but I can forget that in the moment. If I am not directed I get really uncomfortable and anxious. I don't have an eye for photography or a shot unless struck by inspiration and that isn't something I am able to force to the surface.
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Sunday, July 8, 2018

Sinful Sunday: Kinky Titties

In my last post, I tried to describe the sexy outfit that I wore for Husband and Jacob. I didn't quite do it justice. So, I decided that you needed some pictures to show just how sexy it is.






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Friday, July 6, 2018

Another Failed DP Attempt

Saturday night, I was looking at some threesome porn on Tumblr. I was getting pretty turned on by it, so I decided to text Jacob to see if he'd like to come over. We made a plan for him to come over Sunday afternoon. When Husband got home, I told him the plan and he was excited about it.

I asked, "Is there anything you would like to do?" Husband responded, "I want to DP you. Me in your ass and him in your pussy." My whole body flushed like it was on fire and I stuttered a bit. "I...well...I'll try." I don't know what it is about DP that scares me so much. Maybe it's the thought of being so full. I have never been a size queen. "The bigger, the better" has never been my motto. Even fisting was a hard limit for me until four years ago when Husband basically tricked me into trying it. The idea of being so full is just very terrifying...and exciting. When I watch DP porn, it turns me on and I do want to try it. It just causes a lot of anxiety that I have to overcome. We've done it with toys and it was great. Honestly, it's all just in my head and I have to learn to relax about it.

Fast forward to Sunday afternoon. I was still getting ready when Jacob arrived, so Husband entertained him for a few minutes while I finished up. When I walked out of the bedroom, both of their jaws dropped as they looked at me. I was wearing an outfit that Jacob recently bought for me, a faux-leather crop top and mini skirt. The top wrapped around my breasts and was held together in the front by 4 metal clasps. The skirt was super short and my ass was bare in the back except for 4 elastic straps. As I approached them, I said, "Do you like it?" They couldn't even form a complete sentence, which I took as a compliment. I turned around, bent over, and pulled apart my ass cheeks, showing off the butt plug I had put in my ass while I was getting ready. Surprise! Husband was very excited to see that. I could tell it really turned him on.

Jacob walked over, grabbed a handful of my ass, and kissed me. I thanked him for buying the sexy outfit and he said, "Oh no, thank you for wearing it!" I told him to follow me into the bedroom. Jacob and Husband took off their clothes and I took off my skirt. I bent over onto the bed and waggled my ass at them. They started to caress and spank my ass together. I moaned as their hands made contact with my ass, biting my lip and feeling myself get very wet. Feeling their hands all over my ass and back felt amazing. I closed my eyes and took it all in. After a while, I grabbed a pillow and threw it on the ground. I knelt down on it and started sucking Jacob's cock. I licked the head a bit, swirling my tongue around like it was an ice cream cone. I slowly stuck it in my mouth, teasing him. He moaned, wanting more. I took it in deeper, slowly, until his cock was deep in my throat. Suddenly, he lost control and began fucking my throat. I dug my fingers into his thighs and relaxed my throat. Eventually, I had to pull away so I could take a breath. Tears were streaming down my face. Jacob reached down and wiped the tears away with his fingers. Oh god. *Swoooooooon* I turned to Husband and did the same to his cock. Teasing and then deep-throating him. As I was pulling away from his cock, Jacob moved in closer so that I could suck them both together. I licked their cocks, getting them nice and wet. Then, I rubbed their heads together. I swirled their heads around each other and listened to them moan out in pleasure. It turned me on so much. I stuck their cocks on top of each other and licked them all over. Then, I started sucking them again. They took turns fucking my throat and I loved it so much. Jacob suddenly pulled away and then knelt down next to me. He started to suck Husband's cock and I was completely taken by surprise. It was his first time doing that and I was so happy to experience it with him. We shared Husband's cock. Licking, sucking, and making out together. It was so fucking hot.

When my knees had had enough of kneeling on the floor, I got up, removed my top, laid down on the bed, and waited for the guys to join me. Jacob laid to my left and Husband knelt on the bed to my right. Jacob started making out with me while Husband rubbed my clit with his fingers and pinched my nipple with his other hand. Suddenly, Jacob pulled away and put his face between my thighs. He slid his fingers inside me and started to lick my clit. I sucked Husband's cock again while he continued to play with my nipples. I was close to cumming so many times, but my body was just not cooperating. I'm pretty sure that it was because I hadn't been awake for very long. I was very turned on and I would get almost to the peak of orgasm and it just would not let go. My body hates morning sex and it makes me so sad.

Jacob eventually gave up on trying to make me cum and crawled up to shove his cock in my throat again. I sucked his cock while Husband rubbed my clit with his fingers. I grabbed Jacob's hand and shoved his fingers in my pussy. Both of their hands were in/on me and it was fucking amazing. My hand fetish was so satisfied at that moment. I still could not cum though. It was incredibly frustrating. Husband took a turn going down on me. He fucked my pussy hard with his fingers. I continued to suck Jacob's cock and tried to relax enough to cum. Feeling desperate, I reached down and moved Husband's head away from my pussy and started to rub my clit with my fingers while he continued to finger fuck me. Finally, I started to cum and squirted all over the bed. It was the first time that Jacob got to witness that and it seemed like he enjoyed it. He went back down and licked my cum off of me. Mmmm.

I asked Jacob to grab a condom and I flipped over on my hands and knees. He slid his cock in my pussy slowly. I still had the butt plug in my ass, so it was a bit of a tight fit. He fucked me faster and let out a few exclamations of "Wow!" and "Oh my god!" Hearing that turned me on even more. He fucked me for a few minutes and then I said that I was ready to try DP. Jacob laid down on the bed and Husband slowly removed my butt plug. I straddled Jacob and tried to get his cock inside my pussy but by then, he was too nervous and lost his erection. This exact same thing happened the last two times I've tried to do DP. I am not upset at Jacob and I know it isn't his fault but I am feeling quite discouraged about the whole thing.

We tried for a while to get his erection back, but it just wasn't happening. I stood up and bent over the bed and started to suck Jacob's cock while Husband fucked me from behind. I had given up on the DP thing but I was determined to get Jacob's cock hard again so he could at least cum. Husband fucked me harder, shoving Jacob's cock into my throat. Then, Husband emptied his load into my pussy. I laid back down on the bed and Jacob went down on me, cleaning up the mess that Husband had made. That's been a fantasy of mine for quite some time and it was so fucking hot. I could tell it really turned Jacob on as well because he had his full erection back. He grabbed another condom and started fucking me. It didn't take long before he was cumming.

Jacob apologized multiple times for being the "weak link" in the DP situation. I know he felt really bad about it but things like this happen all the time and men can't really control how their penis acts. Losing an erection, not being able to get hard, and cumming too early are just things that happen sometimes. I don't ever hold that against the man. Regardless of the fact that I'm disappointed that it didn't happen, I'm not upset with Jacob at all.

I'm trying hard to not go down the road of blaming myself since this is the third time something like this has happened. I know it isn't my fault. I'm just feeling so discouraged. Hopefully one day I will be able to experience vaginal/anal DP. Sunday just wasn't that day.

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

TMI Tuesday: July 3, 2018

Thought-provoking TMI Tuesday blog post here for your enjoyment.


Ash:
1. Picture the child you once were, what did that child do very well?
What was little Ash good at? Well, my second grade teacher said I wrote amazing stories. She made me promise that I'd dedicate my first book to her. I don't think she could have ever imagined that I would end up writing smut, however, if I do happen to write a book, I will most definitely dedicate it to her.



2. What are you really good at now?
Oh, dear. Some people say that I'm still good at writing. I'm my harshest critic though. I think I give a really good blow job...

3. Did you ever expect love in return and not get it?
So many times! One of my problems is that I love very deeply. I've only received love like that from one person. My husband. Even my family is incapable of showing their love. I spent my whole childhood just wanting to be loved and accepted. My family has finally accepted me but I still haven't quite gotten their love. I've given a lot of love to many women who have shot me down as well. Story of my life.

4. Who do you need to get in touch with because it has been so long?
My siblings on my dad's side. I didn't meet my dad until I was 25. I have two sisters on my mom's side that I grew up with. When I met my dad, I found out that I had two brothers (now three) and two sisters on my dad's side. I hung out with one of my brothers for a while but then he stopped talking to me. My sisters never really showed much interest in getting to know me, so I just left it alone. Recently, I did a DNA test and found proof that my dad is in fact my real dad, so I have been considering coming to them with the proof just in case they doubt that I'm really their sibling and that's what's keeping them from having a relationship with me. I'm just not sure how that will come across.

5. What are your thoughts on this: “Every woman deserves her special day. I get that. But does it really have to cost so much fucking money? I mean, c’mon. If you’re serious about building a future with a guy, why bankrupt him?”
I...I just don't really understand this statement. Maybe it's because I'm not that type of girl? So, is the special day her wedding day? If that's the case, it doesn't have to cost a lot of money. I splurged on one thing for my wedding and that was my wedding dress. I had it custom made because I couldn't find what I was looking for. Everything else was very minimal and cheap. I did most of it myself. I don't like spending money. I'd rather save money and have fun experiences, like vacations and traveling. I don't get my hair or nails done. I don't shop often. I'm definitely not high maintenance.

So, how do I feel about women who are high maintenance? Well, I try not to judge but it is a bit annoying. I think that if you have the money to have an elegant wedding just the way you want it, then you should be able to have it. But if you're bankrupting yourself, then there's a problem. I'm not sure why people feel the need to have so many material things. I mean, like I said, I'm not really understanding this because it's not the kind of person I am. I say, if the man doesn't have the money for it but the woman insists, then maybe she isn't the girl for you afterall.

Bonus: What is your number one priority?
My number one priority is raising my daughter to be a decent human being.



Husband:
1. Picture the child you once were, what did that child do very well?
I was good with imagination. Reading, playing with LEGOs, playing X-Men by making up our own mutants, my brain has always been overactive imaginatively.



2. What are you really good at now?
I am great at finding things that other people have misplaced. It has become something strange, but definitely something I am good at.
[Editor's Note: I can confirm. Every time I lose something, I tell him and he finds it. It's creepy and wonderful at the same time.]

3. Did you ever expect love in return and not get it?
I think my first relationship was completely this way. It scarred me in ways that I am still trying to overcome. I also think that there have been many times where I did not get the love I was hoping for; for example with my Dad. While I do not doubt that he loves me in his own way, it is nowhere near the kind of loving relationship he had with my Grandpa.

4. Who do you need to get in touch with because it has been so long?
At this point there are so many people I should try to get in touch with. I have some truly incredible friends who live far away that I have not seen or talked to in what feels like forever. At this moment though, I feel like my focusing on trying to build up anything I have with my Dad is really important. Finding out the random striking of his skin cancer throughout his body has made it pretty clear that I have no idea how much time I will have left with him, and I would very much regret not trying to make something work and to the better of us both.

5. What are your thoughts on this: “Every woman deserves her special day. I get that. But does it really have to cost so much fucking money? I mean, c’mon. If you’re serious about building a future with a guy, why bankrupt him?”
This question feels so lacking in information. What is this "special day" and what about it "costs so much fucking money?" My thoughts on this are that they don't apply to me and Wife. We do not spend outrageous amounts of money on each other to make the other happy. There are times when a large ticket item sounds fantastic, but I know that if I were to buy said large ticket item it would not go over well. Communication here goes a long way. If there is something overly costly that is not needed I will discuss it with Wife and we will jointly make a decision on it. Wife is not a material girl and I love it.

Bonus: What is your number one priority?
My number one priority is providing for my family and keeping them safe. Almost everything that I do definitely revolves around them. I love them so much.

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Sunday, July 1, 2018

Sinful Sunday: Diptych

It's the first Sunday of the month and July's prompt is diptych. I'm a little amused that my Sinful Sunday prompt post for June happened to be a diptych as well. Since last month featured myself, I decided that Husband should be the model for this one. And what a fine model he is. Mmmm.





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Tuesday, June 26, 2018

TMI Tuesday: June 26, 2018

Heyyyy! TMI Tuesday time again.





Ash:
1. Is your sex life more fantasy or reality?
It's a little of both, I guess. I have a great sex life with my husband, however, I do fantasize often about things that I can't have. For example, sex with women and people who I am crushing on.

2. If you could hook-up with a past lover (with no repercussions or regret), who would it be and why? (No need to use real names just briefly describe the person and their relationship to you.)
My husband's ex-boyfriend, Trystan. I'm still very attracted to him. The three of us had some amazing sex together. I miss it so much. I would definitely hook up with him again.

Also, I'd love to fuck my ex-girlfriend, Kirsten again. We had a foursome with Trystan and Husband once and it was very hot.

3. You can only indulge in one of the following sex acts for the rest of your life, which would you choose to enjoy?
a. oral sex, only giving
b. 69
c. oral sex, only receiving
d. mutual masturbation

Well, fuck. This list is rubbish. Shit. How am I supposed to choose? Alright, fine, I choose A. I don't think I could give up sucking cock. I love that too much.

4. With each lover do you pay attention to what they want or do you have a repertoire that you stick to when having sex?
Of course I have key moves that I always use but if I know a partner likes certain things, I will definitely do those things. I also pay attention to their reactions to find out what they like.

5. Do you initiate sex for healthful benefits, e.g., to sleep better or relieve pain?
I definitely use sex to help me get to sleep. If I can't sleep and I'm alone, I will masturbate. If I'm with my partner, I will try to initiate sex.

Bonus: Do you understand the clitoris?
That's a difficult question. I understand my clitoris. Every clitoris is different though. Each one likes to be touched differently. I absolutely love to get to know the ones I don't understand yet.



Husband:
1. Is your sex life more fantasy or reality?
I definitely feel like my sex life is grounded in reality. There are things that I imagine/fantasize about and things that come to me, but the majority of them we are able to do.

2. If you could hook-up with a past lover (with no repercussions or regret), who would it be and why? (No need to use real names just briefly describe the person and their relationship to you.)
If I could hook up with a past lover it would be Wife, because I get to cheat this answer because it has come to pass that way. We dated back in 2001-2002 and then split apart because we were both very young. Now I get to have that amazing sex with more experience and understanding under my belt. I feel like a much better lover that is able to satisfy my lover's needs and desires.

3. You can only indulge in one of the following sex acts for the rest of your life, which would you choose to enjoy?
a. oral sex, only giving
b. 69
c. oral sex, only receiving
d. mutual masturbation

Mutual masturbation would be the best for me in both giving and receiving. This is some pretty slim pickings for the rest of my life though.

4. With each lover do you pay attention to what they want or do you have a repertoire that you stick to when having sex?
I have a repertoire but it is not set in stone. I am adaptable and able to change depending on the needs and the feedback I receive from my lover.

5. Do you initiate sex for healthful benefits, e.g., to sleep better or relieve pain?
I do! Sometimes I do it for myself, but mostly I will initiate sexual contact in the hopes that it will help Wife recover from what ails her.

Bonus: Do you understand the clitoris?
I do my best to listen and respond.

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Tuesday, June 19, 2018

TMI Tuesday: June 19, 2018

Hi there! Let’s play TMI Tuesday.

Take a Look at Me Now.



Ash:
1. What was your biggest worry five years ago, do you still have that same worry or feel the same about it at this minute?
This was a very difficult time for me. Husband broke up with his boyfriend, Trystan, and decided that he was going to be monogamous. I had fallen in love with Trystan, which made the whole thing extra messy. I was very depressed and suicidal at the time. My biggest worry was that I was going to carry out my suicide plan. Thankfully, I made it through. Recently, we started talking to Trystan again. I had missed him so much. I still have an ache in my heart but I'm so glad that he's in a good place with an amazing fiance.

2. Do you have a positive or negative body image? What factors contribute to your self body image?
a. advertisements
b. media and social media
c. comments from others
d. introspection and analysis of self

It really depends on the day, but it's mostly negative. I can usually fake confidence really well. Every once in a while I feel really sexy and I love those days. I would say that all of those things effect my body image. Advertisements usually focus on thin women being beautiful, the media often talks bad about full figured women and praises thin women, and sometimes strangers say mean things to me about my weight. All of those things negatively effect my self image. However, nice comments from others help me to feel beautiful. So, that positively effects my self image.

3. How confident are you as a person?
a. no confidence at all
b. confident around friends and family
c. confident at work, and in my job
d. very confident in my surroundings–work, social settings, with strangers

I'll say B. I am confident around family and sometimes friends. I tend to be awkward and doubt myself a lot.

4. How creative a person are you? Why?
a. not creative
b. average creativity
c. creative in some situations
d. very creative

I'll go with C. I'm an excellent party planner and cake decorator. I get very creative with that.

5. Do you resent things being uncertain and unpredictable? Why?
a. agree
b. undecided or Don’t Know
c. disagree

Yeah, I do prefer when things are certain. I don't like when things are "up in the air" and uncertain. I don't have any problem with being occasionally spontaneous, but I do like having a plan. Unpredictability makes me feel anxious.

Bonus: What do you wish you had invented?
A super strength goth sunscreen that prevents me from getting tan in the summer when I want to spend every day in the pool.



Husband:
1. What was your biggest worry five years ago, do you still have that same worry or feel the same about it at this minute?
My biggest worry five years ago was trying to find my way after breaking up with my boyfriend. Things were dark and scary because of all the hurt that rippled through every one involved.

2. Do you have a positive or negative body image? What factors contribute to your self body image?
a. advertisements
b. media and social media
c. comments from others
d. introspection and analysis of self

I would say that for the most part I have a neutral body image, which dips into the negative from time to time. Factors that affect it would be both B and D. I think about my health and how I should be doing so much more to better myself. Social media usually makes me see others that Wife is attracted to and then I look at myself and question my body. I see how it stirs her, and then worry that I don't.

3. How confident are you as a person?
a. no confidence at all
b. confident around friends and family
c. confident at work, and in my job
d. very confident in my surroundings–work, social settings, with strangers

B and C for sure. I feel really good around both family and friends, and it bolsters confidence that might not really be that strong. I feel most confident about my work though. I know the areas where I really shine and I keep them polished while always trying to learn more and practice so I can become confident in those skills as well.

4. How creative a person are you? Why?
a. not creative
b. average creativity
c. creative in some situations
d. very creative

I have varying degree of creativity in varying situations or subjects. Sometimes inspiration is really difficult for me to find and connect with. I am not nearly as creative as I used to be years ago though. I enjoy when my muse rides me though, the outcomes are usually pretty intense and amazing. 

5. Do you resent things being uncertain and unpredictable? Why?
a. agree
b. undecided or Don’t Know
c. disagree

For the most part yes I agree. It is the biggest reason I don't do bets or gambling because I want to know with certainty that the outcome is in my favor. However when it comes to life in general I know that certainty goes out the window when looking at the big picture, and I try my best to accept how things go and adapt myself accordingly. I feel like in this I excel beyond the majority of people.

Bonus: What do you wish you had invented?
Oh boy. I wish I had invented a cryowave. This would work similar to a microwave, but would chill things rather than heat them up. Want to make ice cubes really quick, fill the tray and throw it in the cryowave. Need to cool something down, cryowave. I just think it is something that would be pretty damn awesome. Granted it hasn't been invented, but if one day it does, I definitely will have wanted to have invented it.

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Sunday, June 17, 2018

Sinful Sunday: Red

Husband and I went to a kinky play party on Friday night. Even though I was really hoping for some needle play and didn't get it, we still had a really great time. We were able to hang out in the hot tub with friends while naked, which was fantastic. It always feels amazing to be naked in water. I love to watch my boobs float. Husband also put me on a spanking bench and beat my ass. This is what it looked like when he was done. The bruises never show up very well until the next day. It was very numb and sore at the same time.





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Tuesday, June 12, 2018

TMI Tuesday: June 12, 2018

What do ice-cream and sex have in common? We discuss both this TMI Tuesday, that’s what.





Ash:
1. If you were an ice-cream flavor, what would you be and why?
Well, I took this quiz and the result sounds accurate.



2. What are the best sexy skills you bring to a sexual relationship?
Hmm. I've been told that I'm really good at sucking cock. Hopefully there is more that I can't think of.

3. What is the single largest problem causing you angst in your romantic relationship (current or most recent relationship)?
The largest problem right now is my husband's boss who keeps making my husband work 3rd shift. Our sex life really suffers because we just don't have the time to have sex when he's on that schedule.

4. What is the best part about being in a relationship with you?
I fall hard and love strongly. I show my partner that I care and I love making them feel special. Also, I want sex all the time, which could be a good or bad thing.

5. What is the biggest misconception that people have about you?
That I would be constantly humping your leg because I'm horny all the time. While I do want sex all the time, I don't like to initiate all the time because I don't want to be overwhelming. I'm much more likely to do/say something sexy/cute to make you know that I want you and then hope you make a move. Though, I will still wake you up with oral sex or jump on top of you from time to time.

Bonus: When you look at old photos of yourself, do you like what you see?
Sometimes. I wish I was the size I used to be in high school, though I was seriously depressed and suicidal back then. So, it really depends on the picture.




Husband:
1. If you were an ice-cream flavor, what would you be and why?
Chocolate and peanut butter ice cream with a chocolate shell. I'm dark, but comforting with a hard outer shell.

2. What are the best sexy skills you bring to a sexual relationship?
I am good with my hands, good with my tongue, good with directions, and I am always eager to please.

3. What is the single largest problem causing you angst in your romantic relationship (current or most recent relationship)?
My work schedule. Currently working overnights is making timing very difficult and restrained. Before that it was due to an earlier schedule causing disparity between our sleep schedules. So basically my work is cock blocking me all over the place.

4. What is the best part about being in a relationship with you?
I am kind and affectionate, and not afraid to show how much I care.

5. What is the biggest misconception that people have about you?
I honestly can't think of anything.

Bonus: When you look at old photos of yourself, do you like what you see?
I usually see a really carefree happy kid before the ravages of mental illness took over. I generally love seeing that, there are times it makes me sad and wistful, but then I think of all I have become and wouldn't change a thing.

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Sunday, June 10, 2018

Sinful Sunday: Bubbles and Breasts

I was not prepared for Sinful Sunday this week. I've been so busy that it really snuck up on me. So, you get another picture from my last bubble bath playtime.




Sinful Sunday

Tuesday, June 5, 2018

TMI Tuesday: June 5, 2018

Hello! It's time for TMI Tuesday!


Ash:
1. Are you addicted to any social media (twitter, instagram, snapchat, etc.)?
I'm definitely addicted to Twitter. Though, I have been taking somewhat of a break from it for the last month. I've been posting every once in a while but I haven't been keeping up with people that I usually do. I miss interacting with those people. I think I'm finally ready to get back into it.

2. You know a secret about someone. What do you do with that information?
a. I keep it to myself
b. I tell my best friend
c. I wait until they hurt me and use it as ammunition
d. I tell everyone I can, I don’t mean to, I just cannot keep a secret

I either keep it to myself or talk to my husband about it. Husband never shares it with anyone else. I'm really good at keeping secrets.

3. You see someone breaking the rules at work, what do you do?
a. Pretend not to see what is going on
b. Inform upper management
c. Advise the co-worker that their actions are frowned upon and can lead to job loss
d. Tell everyone else in the office what you saw

That would depend if it effects me or not. If it doesn't, then I ignore it. If it does, then I'll say something to the person doing it. If it continues and it's a big deal, I will take it to management at that point.

4. A friend has a new hairstyle that is un-becoming, and not really age-appropriate on them. They ask you how they look. What is your reply?
a. You look just fine.
b. You look much better this way.
c. OMG, you look a bit ridiculous.
d. *Silence*

I would tell them nicely if it didn't look good. Though, as someone who regularly wears pigtails, I don't like the age-appropriate comment.

5. How helpful are you at home?
a. I come home and immediately veg out on the couch/bed.
b. I cook and clean a few times a week.
c. I am extremely helpful.
d. I do what I am asked and nothing more.

I do most of the things at home. Husband does help when he can though.

Bonus: In your opinion, what is the best city in the world? Why?
Probably a city I haven't been to yet. If it has a beach nearby and it's warm, I'm happy.



Husband:
1. Are you addicted to any social media (twitter, instagram, snapchat, etc.)?
I don't feel like I am addicted to any social media. I check in sporadically, but I know that occasionally I get anxiety about it and just rush through quickly catching small glimpses of things.

2. You know a secret about someone. What do you do with that information?
a. I keep it to myself
b. I tell my best friend
c. I wait until they hurt me and use it as ammunition
d. I tell everyone I can, I don’t mean to, I just cannot keep a secret

I tell my best friend, who happens to be Wife. People can confide in me about anything and that is as far as it ever goes.

3. You see someone breaking the rules at work, what do you do?
a. Pretend not to see what is going on
b. Inform upper management
c. Advise the co-worker that their actions are frowned upon and can lead to job loss
d. Tell everyone else in the office what you saw

Honestly I would have to say I pretend to not see it. It is typically a safety issue that is not any more or less dangerous than something that would be done outside of work. I'm not saying it happens with everyone, or that it happens all the time, just that when it does happen I look the other way. If it is a big deal I will talk with them about perhaps a better way to do it next time.

4. A friend has a new hairstyle that is un-becoming, and not really age-appropriate on them. They ask you how they look. What is your reply?
a. You look just fine.
b. You look much better this way.
c. OMG, you look a bit ridiculous.
d. *Silence*

Likely silence followed by an honest tactful answer. I'm not going to lie and say it looks good if it doesn't.

5. How helpful are you at home?
a. I come home and immediately veg out on the couch/bed.
b. I cook and clean a few times a week.
c. I am extremely helpful.
d. I do what I am asked and nothing more.

A combination of a, b, and c depending on the day. I try to be helpful all the time, I don't do much cooking, but I try to help with keeping dishes and laundry under control. I do random cleaning when I see it needs doing, maybe not as well as it should be. Sometimes I do get home and I don't feel like doing anything productive and I just relax.

Bonus: In your opinion, what is the best city in the world? Why?
Whichever city has my heart, which means where my wife and daughter are.

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Sunday, June 3, 2018

Sinful Sunday: Underneath

It's the first Sunday of the month, which means it's prompt weekend. The prompt for June is underneath. Molly left this up to interpretation. Being that I just received some new lingerie in the mail this week, I decided that I would show you what was underneath my dress.




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Sinful Sunday

Tuesday, May 29, 2018

TMI Tuesday: May 29, 2018

It's time for TMI Tuesday! So much excitement!





Ash:
1. If you had a whole week (no work, no kids) to do things with your significant other, what would you do?
I would like to go to a beach where I would swim and have lots and lots of sex. Maybe not sex ON the beach because sand does not belong in my vagina. Sex somewhere near the beach would be perfect. Maybe somewhere that we could have sex outside where I could still feel the breeze off of the ocean on my bare skin.

2. What is your idea of a long-term relationship?
A long-term relationship is when two people are committed to each other. It's not just a fling to pass the time. Basically, two people who are in it for the long haul. They have feelings for each other and are doing their best to make it work.

3. What is a healthy relationship?
A relationship in which both people communicate openly and honestly, they are respectful and supportive of each other, and they nurture and love each other.

4. How did you meet your current (or last) lover?
I met my husband on AoL 18 years ago. Holy shit! I feel old. I met Jacob on the internet about 12 years ago.

5. What is the first thing you do after having sex?
I go to the bathroom to pee and then I go to sleep.

Bonus: Do you have any bad habits that you hide from your significant other? You can tell us…or not.
I think the only thing I hide from my husband is my self harm and anorexia. He knows I struggle with both of these but I don't tell him when I fail. He can usually figure out when I've been starving myself though and he almost always sees the marks from self harm because I'm naked around him every day. So, even though I don't tell him, he pretty much finds out anyway.



Husband:
1. If you had a whole week (no work, no kids) to do things with your significant other, what would you do?
A road trip to somewhere, most likely a coastal beach area, stopping frequently at random places to explore, all the while enjoying each other intimately in as many places as possible.

2. What is your idea of a long-term relationship?
I think anything over six months starts treading into the long term relationship label, then again I have never really given much thought as to what constitutes a long term relationship. *shrug* I dunno.

3. What is a healthy relationship?
A healthy relationship is something that requires a lot of work and heart. It isn't something that just happens. Trust, communication, honesty, common goals, common ideals all help navigate towards a good model of a healthy relationship.

4. How did you meet your current (or last) lover?
Online, back when AOL was a big deal, and your ability to customize your online profile meant searching for alt codes for interesting characters and looking up codes for colors.

5. What is the first thing you do after having sex?
Lay down, stretch out, and breathe (sometimes nod off for a bit). I usually will grab myself something to drink as well.

Bonus: Do you have any bad habits that you hide from your significant other? You can tell us…or not.
I used to not communicate my thoughts and feelings very well and would hide them inside, which covers that question quite well I believe. I have worked pretty hard to turn that around and be open and honest. I have to be diligent because it is easy for me to fall back into myself.

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