KOTW: Gifting

The discussion topic for Kink of the Week is Gifts. Gift giving/receiving is one of the Five Love Languages.

“You feel loved when people give you 'visual symbols of love,'” ~ The Five Love Languages Explained

I wouldn't consider gifts as one of my love languages. I mean, don't get me wrong. I do feel loved when people give me a gift but I don't ever expect gifts from my partners. I'd much rather receive quality time and touch from them. 

I do enjoy getting a meaningful gift from someone though. It feels good when people think about me. I also love to give gifts to others, especially handmade ones. Not everyone appreciates handmade gifts but I love them because I think about how important the person is to me the whole time while I'm making the gifts. So, those gifts are full of love. I just like to make people feel happy and loved. 

So, maybe gifts are only a small part of my love language, but are they a part of my kink language? Maybe. After reading that quote again, I decided to replace a few words. 

You feel turned on when people give you visual symbols of sexiness.

When I think about it this way, I'm pretty sure receiving gifts is a kink language for me. Getting kinky/sexy gifts from FWBs and fans really makes me feel special. I love that someone was having sexy thoughts about me and they thought I was special enough to send me something to let me know they were thinking of me. That is just hot. 

They are also gifts that keep on giving. Every time I wear or use something that someone sent me, it makes me think of them and I get turned on. I love knowing that people think I'm sexy. I will never get tired of hearing that. Having reminders that people think I'm sexy is fantastic. I will never get tired of getting sexy gifts. 

One year, for Christmas, Husband made up a stocking for me from Krampus. It was full of sexy and kinky gifts. I really enjoyed that. Much more than anything else he got me that year. So, yes, I would definitely say gifts are a kink language for me.

I don't have a d/s relationship right now but if I did, I'm not sure if gifts would be part of it. I have had a fantasy about having a Daddy that would bring me little gifts just because I am his baby girl and he likes to make me smile. That would be hot as hell. I'd definitely be into that!

So, while gift giving and receiving are definitely fun, I much prefer when those gifts are a bit more on the inappropriate side. I'm sure that comes as no surprise to any of you.

*For anyone that would like to send me a sexy gift, my wishlist is on my blogger profile.*

Kiss the lips below and check out who else likes gifts.

TMI Tuesday: December 28, 2021

So long 2021. The final TMI Tuesday for this year is posted.

Ash:

1. My favorite thing about 2021 was _____ .

Finally finding a medication that has helped control my anxiety.

2. What is something that happened to you in 2021 that you never want to forget?

I was given the honor of being number 60 on the Top 100 Sex Blogs 2021 list!

3. What would you like to do differently next year?

I would love to be social again. I'm an extrovert and sitting in this house alone every day is really draining me.

4. How do you honor the past while staying focused on the future?

Talk about it. Sharing memories of the past is an excellent way to honor it but also to remember things that were both good and not so good. Talking about the past can sometimes make it easier to make decisions about the future.

5. Next year I am excited to _____ .

add some new sex partners to my life

Bonus: Do you feel jaded at all?

Oh, for sure.

Husband:

1. My favorite thing about 2021 was _____ .

I think the re-release of HeroQuest is probably going to top this year. Plus also the getting to play some excellent game sessions with my family. This game is my favorite and the best!

2. What is something that happened to you in 2021 that you never want to forget?

Summer Camp with my Scout. I had such a great time and I learned a few new skills. I also was trained as an Assistant Scoutmaster for our troop.

3. What would you like to do differently next year?

Take more chances. Camp a hell of a lot more. Challenge myself more. Communicate more. Be a better husband, father, lover. 

4. How do you honor the past while staying focused on the future?

Talk and tell stories to open up conversations about the past and how we can bring it to the present. Research and learn to gain a better understanding of the past and the present so that we can be better and bring wisdom to the future.

5. Next year I am excited to _____ .

Hopefully spend more time with family. Play more HeroQuest. Paint my miniatures. Try new things! Read more books!

Bonus: Do you feel jaded at all?

Fuck, do I ever.

TMI Tuesday: December 21, 2021

Welcome to a special TMI Tuesday and Titty Tuesday mashup.

Ash:

1. Do you have a favorite author? Who?

I discovered Francesca Lia Block when I was 16. I was living in California at the time and I went into a Barnes & Noble looking for a new book to read. I was getting bored of my boyfriend's Dragonlance books and wanted something different. I came upon the book Violet and Claire and decided to give it a shot. I fell in love with her writing and she's been my favorite author ever since.

2. Do you make your bed each morning? Why?

Hell no. It's a waste of time. The only time I make my bed is when I change the sheets and when I'm doing a photo shoot. Otherwise, what is even the point? You're just going to get back into it that night and mess it up again.

3. What is one recipe that gets you through busy, hectic times?

When it gets really busy around here, I usually make sloppy joes or spaghetti. Those are easy and quick to make. They are also two things that Husband makes really well, so I can put off the cooking to him if I need to get shit done.

4. For therapeutic venting, who do you call–friend, sibling, parent, significant other?

My husband. I don't really have any friends. Definitely not friends that I can vent to. My mom passed away and my dad doesn't really care about me. My siblings are kind of a mess and always have their own crap to deal with so they don't care about mine. So, really, all I have is my husband.

5. When did you last de-clutter the camera roll/pics on your smartphone?

It's been too long. I need to do that very soon. Thanks for the reminder.

Bonus: What is the subject of your next blog post?

I'm working on writing about something that happened to me in college. Hopefully I can finish it in the next couple of days.

Husband:

1. Do you have a favorite author? Who? 

Yes. Without a doubt, it would have to be Neil Gaiman. The magical chaotic webs of his stories resonate so strongly with me. From the very first Sandman quoted journal I came across to the present everything has drawn me into worlds and imaginings that are too strong for me to deny. I absolutely love his works.

2. Do you make your bed each morning? Why?

Absolutely not. I refuse on principles that when practically applied to almost anything else do not make much sense. There is no harm (as I currently see things) in not making the bed. I'm only going to get back into bed later in the day, why make more work for myself than needed.

3. What is one recipe that gets you through busy, hectic times?

A pureed nut spread with a strawberry relish reduction paired with a brioche bun. 

4. For therapeutic venting, who do you call–friend, sibling, parent, significant other?

For the most part, I don't call Wife to vent, I feel like it gets messy and I don't do well over the phone. Venting with her is usually in person. After this, it is a toss-up between calling my Ma or my brother. Depending on what it is about will dictate who I call first. Recently over the last two years or so though I have found myself calling my brother first before my Ma, not quite sure why though.

5. When did you last de-clutter the camera roll/pics on your smartphone?

I have yet to do this with my current phone. It is desperately reminding me that it should happen quite soon though.

Bonus: What is the subject of your next blog post?

I haven't a clue, it's been a very long time since I wrote in a blog. Let us just be playful and say it will be about Amazon's Wheel of Time series.

Sinful Sunday: Cum In My Mouth Baby

Recently, I had a conversation with a fan about how he has never had the pleasure of cumming in someone’s mouth. Ever since that conversation, I’ve been lost in thought about how hot it would be to be the first woman who swallows his load and I was inspired to take this photo.

Kiss the lips below to see who else is sinning today.

TMI Tuesday: December 7, 2021

Happy December! Just a few more TMI Tuesday blogs to go in 2021.

Ash:

1. Do you consider your sex to be “conventional”? Why or why not?

When you say sex, do you mean gender or sexual behavior? 

If we are talking about gender, I guess I'm kind of conventional. I look very feminine, I did the stay-at-home mom thing, I do most of the shopping and cooking, and I take care of most of the things that need to be taken care of. Though I'm also the dominant person in my marriage (outside of the bedroom), I pay the bills, and I'm definitely not soft-spoken and subservient (outside of the bedroom).

If we are talking about my sex life, I would say it's somewhat conventional these days. I'm very kinky but I really haven't been able to express that in a few years. Husband hasn't wanted to engage in those activities with me for some time and I haven't been able to figure out why. I do have some fetishes and I enjoy rough sex a lot. I wouldn't consider us vanilla but we are definitely much tamer than we used to be. 

2. Gender Identity–How do you describe yourself?

a. Male
b. Female
c. Trans Male/Trans Man
d. Trans Female/Trans Woman
e. Genderqueer/Gender Non­Conforming

f. Different Identity

b. Female

3. Sexual Orientation

a. Heterosexual
b. Gay
c. Lesbian
d. Bisexual
e. None of the above, specify if you wish.

d. Bisexual - I could say pansexual here but I refuse to use that word because it's just another form of bi-erasure. The definition of bisexuality is "the potential to be attracted to people of more than one gender." That includes all genders. Male, female, trans, non-binary, and anything in between. Bisexuality has always been about challenging binaries of all kinds, including gender. There's no need for a new word.

4. Is understanding the causes and effects, and the formation of gender stereotypes important?

Yes. We need to understand why gender stereotypes exist and acknowledge the harm they are doing so that we can crush them. 

Bonus: Your thoughts on this–“I’m in a committed relationship, and it feels like asking for consent every time we have sex is overkill—is that wrong?”

If your partner needs you to get consent before making a move, then you need to do that. Period. I would suggest talking to them to find a comfortable way for you to get that consent that doesn't make you feel so awkward. In my relationship, I'm fine with my partner making a move when they want sex and if I don't feel up to it, I would say so. But if your partner isn't okay with you making a move at all until they have given consent, you better get consent first. If that's too much for you to deal with, then you should just stick with masturbation. Sorry, not sorry.

Husband:

1. Do you consider your sex to be “conventional”? Why or why not?

I think that sometimes my sex may be conventional, but definitely not all the time. 

2. Gender Identity–How do you describe yourself?

a. Male
b. Female
c. Trans Male/Trans Man
d. Trans Female/Trans Woman
e. Genderqueer/Gender Non­Conforming

f. Different Identity

a. Male

3. Sexual Orientation–Are you exclusively?

a. Heterosexual
b. Gay
c. Lesbian
d. Bisexual
e. None of the above, specify if you wish.

d. Bisexual

4. Is understanding the causes and effects, and the formation of gender stereotypes important?

Yes.

Bonus: Your thoughts on this–“I’m in a committed relationship, and it feels like asking for consent every time we have sex is overkill—is that wrong?”

If my partner felt that it was important to them that I get consent each time we had sex I would do my absolute best to respect their wishes. If it ever got to the point where I felt it was overkill I would discuss that with them then.

Sinful Sunday: Color Splash

It's the first Sunday of the month, which means it's time for the Sinful Sunday prompt. This month's prompt is color splash. Color splash in photography is when you take an image and make most of it black and white while just a small piece of it pops with some color. This is the first time I've ever done this and I'm kind of in love with it. 

Kiss the lips below to see who else is sinning.

I Need More

Husband and I had some really great sex Wednesday night. I wasn't expecting it at all because I knew he was really tired from having to go in to work extra early that morning. I sure am glad he had the energy for it though because I've been lost in thought about it ever since. So, I thought I'd write about it.

As we got comfortable in bed, he started to massage my back. I thought he was just being nice since I have been complaining of bad back pain lately. So, I just laid there on my tummy and enjoyed it, moaning as he hit the sore spots and worked them out. 

After a few minutes, he made his way down to my ass. Now, I love ass massages, so I still wasn't sure this was going to lead to sex. As he rubbed my cheeks, I could feel him getting closer and closer to my ass crack. Maybe this actually was more than just a massage. 

When his fingers slipped into my ass crack and found their way down between my thighs, that's when I knew this was going to be much more pleasurable than I first thought. He rubbed my vulva, putting just enough pressure that I felt it in my clitoris. I rocked my hips a bit in motion with his hand. Then, his finger slipped between my labia. I could tell he was excited to feel how wet I was. 

Suddenly, he grabbed my leg and forcefully pulled it aside so that my legs were spread, giving him easier access. He rubbed my clit a bit before slipping a finger inside me. I moaned softly as he played with my pussy. Then, he went back to rubbing my clit some more. His fingers slid across it so smoothly. It felt incredible. I was so turned on.

I felt his lips kissing my back, his beard gently tickling me. He kissed his way down to my ass, where he started to lick my asshole. Then, he put two fingers inside me while he continued to rub my clit. I arched my back, lifting my ass higher. I wanted more. He put another finger inside me. I took a deep breath and it caught in my throat. My pussy felt very full and I was loving it. 

As he fucked me with his fingers, I could feel them hitting my g-spot over and over. There was so much pleasure, I felt like I was going to lose my mind. I moaned and rocked my hips in rhythm with his thrusts. My pussy got tighter, signaling that I was going to cum soon. He stopped licking my asshole and started to fuck me harder with his fingers. My breathing quickened and my body tensed up. He slid a finger into my ass and I moaned out in pleasure. He laid his body on top of mine and continued to fuck my holes and rub my clit with his fingers. Fuck, it was so good. I buried my face in my pillow, gripped the bed with my hands, and moaned loudly as I came all over his fingers.

After I orgasmed, Husband quickly shoved his cock inside my pussy and fucked me for a moment. I could tell he was very turned on. He got up and asked me to get on my knees. Then, he slowly slid his cock inside my very wet cunt. I could feel it grip around him, needing him deeper inside me. He fucked me a bit harder and faster. He kept hitting all the right spots and it made me want to cum again.

I grabbed my vibrator, turned it on, and placed it on my clit. Almost immediately, I felt like I was close to cumming. He put his cock inside me once more. I was so tight and swollen from being so turned on that I couldn't help but moan as he entered me. He started fucking me again, more slowly this time. It was so good that I had to keep taking the vibrator off of my clit to prevent myself from cumming too soon. His pace quickened a bit and my pussy started sounding VERY wet, a clue that I was about to squirt. I wanted to stop. We didn't put anything down on the mattress to protect it. If we kept going, I'd get the bed all wet. I couldn't stop. It felt too good to stop. I needed this. My pussy clenched down on his cock and he said, "Yes, cum for me!" I immediately started to cum and he said, "Good girl!" Oh, fuuuuuck. As soon as he said that, my pussy exploded and squirted all over him, which made him cum as well. 

I collapsed and tried to catch my breath. I didn't want to move. My whole body was in a state of ecstasy. When I finally got up to go to the bathroom, I saw the mess I made. "Oops, I'm sorry." He replied, "I'm not." Then, he got a towel to cover it up so I didn't have to sleep in the wet spot.

I couldn't stop thinking about how good it felt all day yesterday. I tried to get more last night but he was too tired and ignored my advances. I'm hoping I can get more this weekend though. My pussy is such a needy bitch sometimes. Never satisfied. Always wanting more.

Sinful Sunday: Mood Lighting

We are at my in-laws’ house right now. They have fancy mood lighting in the bedroom and I’m loving it. We have decided that we need this in our bedroom at home. 

Kiss the lips below to see who else is sinning today. 

TMI Tuesday: November 23, 2021

It's time for TMI Tuesday!

Ash:

1. Would you buy a self-driving car and use the self-driving mode?

I would be very nervous about it but I can definitely imagine scenarios where this would be useful. The Doctor has a Tesla that has self-driving mode and he's teased about going on a road trip and using it while I give him road head. I would be very into that.

2. What is your favorite three-word sentence?

My good girl. I want you. Cum for me. How can I pick just one?

3. What would your pet say about you if we asked for a reference?

Depends on which one you ask. Millie doesn't like me because I'm the one that gives baths and clips nails. Rosie loves me though. She thinks I'm the best. I think they would both say that I'm very caring and sweet though.

4. Have you ever been stood up by a date? Did you attempt another date with that person?

Yes, I've been stood up a couple times. I didn't give them another chance. One time, I was stood up and then the person texted me and said it was because they didn't realize I was fat. Apparently, they showed up, saw me, and then ran away. My self esteem took a big hit that day.

5. Have you ever checked through your phone media to remember the night before?

I've never had a night that I didn't remember. I don't drink or do drugs though, so I imagine that would be why.

Bonus: Never have I ever _____ ?

Had a successful vaginal/anal DP. I'd like to change that.

Husband:

1. Would you buy a self-driving car and use the self-driving mode?

I don't know if I would ever buy one. I don't really see them becoming any kind of affordable in my lifetime. I wouldn't mind using the self-driving mode if it was essentially automatic transport. Meaning, I enter in a destination and it gets me there with no further interaction needed. 

2. What is your favorite three-word sentence?

As you wish.

3. What would your pet say about you if we asked for a reference?

I think they would give shining reviews. "10/10 would live with this two-legger for as long as I live. He gives me foods and snacks."

4. Have you ever been stood up by a date? Did you attempt another date with that person?

I can't recall ever being stood up on a date before. Circumstances surrounding being stood up would determine whether another attempt was made.

5. Have you ever checked through your phone media to remember the night before?

No. I don't get to a point where I don't remember and need to check. Plus also I don't post often so it wouldn't likely help much.

Bonus: Never have I ever _____ ?

Never have I ever had the pleasure of sharing Wife's pussy with another man while I am inside of her ass.

Sinful Sunday: My Favorite Toys

I love getting new toys to play with. It's exciting and so fun, however, no matter how many toys I've tried, there are two toys that have been my favorite for a few years. 

The Shibari Mini Halo is the best vibrator I've ever used. I love the shape, the size, and the power. I love it so much that I actually own three of them. A purple, black, and pink one. Of course, the purple one is my favorite. 

The rainbow dildo is the best insertable toy I've tried. The length is almost too much for me but the girth is just perfect. I got this dildo to use on my ex-girlfriend but we broke up before I could give it to her. I'm so glad because I got to keep it for myself. That thing makes me cream and squirt like nothing else. Mmmm.

Shout out to Jacob for buying both of these toys for me.

Kiss the lips below to see who else is sinning with me.

TMI Tuesday: November 16, 2021

 It's time for TMI Tuesday!

1. You went to dinner on a first date, and your date took care of the bill. But when you get home you get a text from your date that is a Venmo request (money transfer app i.e., TransferWise, Paypal Worldremit Azimo) for half the cost of dinner. Do you;

a. Pay the Venmo amount in order to up your chances of a second date
b. Only pay for what you actually consumed
c. Pay nothing because the date supposedly picked up the tab and did not discuss halfsies when you were face-to-face
d. Call the date and yell “WTF?!”

A little of A and B. In this case, I would be quite irritated because my date should have said that they would like to split the bill in the first place. It's pretty shady to go ahead and pick up the bill and then send a request for money later. Regardless, I would pay for my half of the bill but probably wouldn't ever go out with them again.

2. Does anyone owe you over twenty dollars? How many different people?

Yes. Two people.

3. Are you one to sneak food into movie theaters?

I don't usually sneak food into the movie theater but I do sneak a drink in. 

4. What do you want to brag about?

I want to brag about my husband. I use this product called Dripsticks. They are after sex clean-up sponges. You put it in the vagina, it soaks up all the cum, and then you're not leaky and smelly from the cum later on. It's seriously an amazing product (if you want to try it, please use my link for a discount code). It's been pretty life-changing for me. Seriously. Anyway, I'm in a FB group for people who use this product and I mentioned that my husband does the clean-up for me. After he cums inside me, he puts the dripstick in, gets all the cum out, goes to get a warm rag, and then cleans the rest of me up. He even cleans up any sex toys we use. Some of the women were surprised and jealous that he does this for me. It's the best after-sex care ever. So, yes, I'd like to brag about my wonderful husband. 

5. What do you get in trouble for the most?

For talking bad about myself and putting myself down. Husband really hates when I do that.

Bonus:  What is in your attic?

Brown recluse spiders. Seriously, we have a ton of them.

Sinful Sunday: Sweet Spot

That moment when he hits the sweet spot and you turn to mush. Unf. Yes, right there. 

Don’t forget to kiss the lips below to see who else is sinning today.

Sinful Sunday: Face Fucking

It is the first Sunday of the month. That means, it’s time for the monthly Sinful Sunday prompt! The prompt for November is “motion blur.” 

I love it when Husband fucks my face, even when he comes out a little blurry in the photos. Mmmm. 

Sinful Sunday: Happy Halloween

I had an idea to do a sexy Pennywise photoshoot but then I left my lingerie for it at home. Since we are still on vacation, I had to change it up. Hopefully, this is still sexy. Happy Halloween! 

Caught In Your Web

It’s the first day of the spooky weekend. My favorite time of year! It’s also Fishnet Friday. So, here I am caught in a web, ready for you to devour. 

Lounging in Lingerie

Sometimes you just want to put on some lingerie and then lounge around looking sexy. The lounging never lasts long once you catch your partner’s attention though.

Red Version

I decided to finally try on the red version of this lingerie and I was not disappointed. I was afraid it wouldn’t look good with my skin tone but I think it’s pretty hot. Happy hump day!

So Soft Lingerie

Day 26 of the 31 Days of Lingerie challenge and it’s Titty Tuesday. This lingerie is velvet on the front and mesh on the back, with lace on each side. It’s gorgeous and feels absolutely amazing to the touch. I wish you could feel it too.

Almost Forgot

I spent the day driving to Chicago and totally forgot about posting a photo for the 31 Days of Lingerie challenge. So, I just found an old photo on my phone that I never shared before.

This photo is from last summer. I actually have this outfit in red as well, though I haven’t tried the red one on yet. I should do that soon.

Sinful Sunday: Baby Girl

Last month, I posted an image for Sinful Sunday in this same outfit. I talked about how it made me feel like a sexy woman and a cute little girl all at the same time. 

I’ve always been a Little. To those that don’t know, a Little is someone who acts/feels younger than they actually are. It’s kind of like having an alter ego that is a little kid.

Up until a month ago, I really thought my Little side was completely separate from anything to do with sex. Then, I started talking to D. He sent me a message on Twitter and we just hit it off from the beginning. Something he said triggered the Little in me and I just latched on. My brain saw him as Daddy and it turned me on so very much. This was the first time I ever felt that way. The idea of being someone’s baby girl. The idea of having a Daddy. It was intoxicating.

I’ve been trying to sort all of that out in my head for the last month. It’s been a whole process. To get back to the photo though…

This lingerie makes me feel like a cute baby girl. And if I was your baby girl, this is the view you could enjoy as I get in position for you to take me as you see fit. Yes, Daddy. I am yours. 

Hotel Mirror

We went on a short road trip today. We will be staying in a hotel for 2 days before continuing on to our next destination. Since there is this lovely mirror in the room, I decided to revisit the “lingerie and a mirror” prompt from the 31 Days of Lingerie challenge. 

Full-body Fishnet

I have always had a love for fishnet. Maybe it’s just the goth in me but it makes me really happy when I wear it. I love that it can be an accessory to any outfit or lingerie by itself. 

Lingerie Alterations

Here's a throwback from a couple years ago with some lingerie that I fell in love with as soon as I saw it.

Sometimes, you really love a piece of lingerie but it doesn't look amazing on you like you'd hoped. This is one of those pieces. The outfit is great except for those little ribbons that run down the middle of the boobs. This essentially digs into my boobs and makes it look like they are being cut in half. It's not cute.

So, it has been in a pile of lingerie that I intend on altering but I haven't gotten to it yet. Hopefully, this post will inspire me to get it back out again and fix it up. 

Lingerie That Feels Good

We are about 2/3 of the way done with the month and I’m still doing this 31 Days of Lingerie challenge. Woohoo! I wasn’t sure I was going to make it through but now that we are at the tail end of it, I’m feeling confident that I’ll make it. 

I own a lot of lingerie. I would say about 80% of it is uncomfortable in some way. Every once in a while, you find something that just really feels good. Not only does it make you feel sexy but it’s also super comfy. This is one of those outfits. I love wearing it. I definitely wouldn’t mind wearing this under my clothes on a date night.

Nipple Tasting

Sometimes you just need to taste your own nipple. You know, for science. Happy Titty Tuesday!

Lingerie and Masturbation

Since it's Masturbation Monday, I give you "Lingerie and Masturbation" for the 31 Days of Lingerie challenge today. This photo is from four years ago but it's still just as sexy as the day it was taken.

Sinful Sunday: Lustful

I once asked someone to describe me with one word and the answer they gave was lustful. That's probably pretty accurate. I do have very intense sexual desires and I drip sexual energy everywhere I go.

So, Lustful is my second L word for the Sinful Sunday October prompt.