Tuesday, January 16, 2018

TMI Tuesday: January 16, 2018

Hey, what’s a nice person like you doing in a sexy place like this? Oh, playing TMI Tuesday.

Tell the Truth



Ash:
1. A friend gave you a pie touting it as a favorite family recipe, and you ate this pie and got sick–or had an allergic reaction. The friend calls a few days later to ask, “How did you like the pie?” What would you say?
I would tell them that I appreciated the kind gesture but that the pie made me sick. I couldn't lie about it and I'd want them to figure out what they did wrong that caused the sickness so that it wouldn't happen to anyone else.

2. Your significant other really wants to try the “swingers’ lifestyle” but you really do not want to do this. Do you:
a. Tell him/her no, you are not interested
b. Do it, and go along to make her/him happy
c. Say yes, because you’ll try anything once
d. Say no, with no explanation and forbid your significant other from venturing into swinging.

While my first reaction is to say A because I don't think that I would be interested in the swinging lifestyle, I do always say, "I'll try anything twice." So, I would probably try it but then I'd be honest if I didn't like it.

3. Have you texted nude photos to someone and had it come back to bite you in the ass–as is someone taking revenge for your misjudgement?
Not that I know of. I don't share nude photos with many people.

4. Have you or would you ever stop having a relationship with someone who had a weight problem, and their physique drastically changed?
If I was only in a relationship with someone because of the way they looked, the relationship was not very strong in the first place. I would never leave someone because they gained or lost weight.

5. Would you rather find true love or win the lottery with winnings of $10,000 (usd)?
I've already found true love, so I hope that I could keep my love and win the lottery. If I would have to give up my love for the money, I wouldn't do it. Money doesn't mean much to me.

Bonus: Which topic of conversation do you avoid at all costs–politics or religion?
I don't have any problem discussing politics with someone who knows how to have a healthy debate. I actually enjoy discussing politics. Even if the person doesn't know how to debate properly, it feels nice to get rid of all the people who are filled with hate and stupidity after discussing politics with them. I hate discussing religion though. I will do it, but I get anxiety about people judging me for being an atheist. I've been told too many times that I'm an awful person with no morals and that I'm going to hell. I'm just done with all of that talk. I hate religion.



Husband:
1. A friend gave you a pie touting it as a favorite family recipe, and you ate this pie and got sick–or had an allergic reaction. The friend calls a few days later to ask, “How did you like the pie?” What would you say?
I would be honest saying that I did not care for it, but leave it at that. I would not want to make them feel bad.

2. Your significant other really wants to try the “swingers’ lifestyle” but you really do not want to do this. Do you:
a. Tell him/her no, you are not interested
b. Do it, and go along to make her/him happy
c. Say yes, because you’ll try anything once
d. Say no, with no explanation and forbid your significant other from venturing into swinging.

The most likely answer I would give would be A. We have had conversations talking about swinging in general, and it is not something either of us is interested in.

3. Have you texted nude photos to someone and had it come back to bite you in the ass–as is someone taking revenge for your misjudgement?
Thankfully no. I have not sent nudes to many people at all. Lack of direct requests, lack of comfortability, or excessive modesty are all directly related to my not sending nudes.

4. Have you or would you ever stop having a relationship with someone who had a weight problem, and their physique drastically changed?
Never. I am not having a relationship with someone's weight.

5. Would you rather find true love or win the lottery with winnings of $10,000 (usd)?
True love over money every time.

Bonus: Which topic of conversation do you avoid at all costs–politics or religion?
Politics mostly. I can thoroughly enjoy religious conversation, topics, debates. Politics gets me either aggravated because of current situations, or out of my depth because of a lack of understanding.

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Tuesday, January 9, 2018

TMI Tuesday: January 9, 2018

We’re getting nosy. After all, this is TMI Tuesday!

Nosy

What does a nosy pepper do? Gets jalapeno business. 😀


Ash:
1. How old is your longest living relative?
I'm the black sheep of the family, so there are a lot of people who don't talk to me. The oldest relative that I am in contact with is my grandpa, who will be 81 next week.

2. Do you hope to live to this age? Why?
Sure. As long as I'm not alone and unhappy, I'd love to live for as long as possible. Getting old doesn't sound appealing but it's better than dying.

3. What is your family’s native language? Your native language?
English. We're boring, I guess.

4. How old were you when you started dating?
I was 13.

5. How old were you when you first had sex–any kind of sex?
I was sexually assaulted when I was 14 and forced to perform oral sex on a 22 year old man. If we are talking about consensual sex, I was 15 when I started giving oral sex to guys. I lost my virginity at 16.

Bonus: How would you describe your sense of humor?
My sense of humor is often dark and inappropriate. I'm not easily amused, but when I am amused, I laugh so much that I cry. I enjoy a dry sense of humor.



Husband:
1. How old is your longest living relative?
My uncle is 65. All my grandparents have sadly passed away within the last five years.

2. Do you hope to live to this age? Why?
I hope to live forever. I don't plan to die. There are so many experiences to be part of and places to visit that I could spend the rest of many lifetimes a part of this life.

3. What is your family’s native language? Your native language?
English for both. Nothing fancy to see here, please move along folks.

4. How old were you when you started dating?
I was 17 and extremely naive.

5. How old were you when you first had sex–any kind of sex?
Also 17 and naive.

Bonus: How would you describe your sense of humor?
Dark, morbid, dry.

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Tuesday, January 2, 2018

TMI Tuesday: January 2, 2018

Happy 2018! Don’t know about you but my year 2017 was less than a blur. I hope your 2018 is healthy, happy, and prosperous. Here’s the first TMI Tuesday of the new year.





As usual, let’s review the past year.


Ash:
1. Did you make any resolutions at the start of 2017? If yes, how did you do at keeping them? What one thing are you still doing?
My only resolution was to give Husband more blow jobs. I started off really well for the first half of the year, but I didn't do so well during the second half. If at first you don't succeed, try try again, right?

2. Pick three words to describe your year 2017.
Fail. Lonely. Overwhelming.

3. What was your biggest personal change in 2017?
I stopped making myself feel bad for the things I need in my life to be happy.

4. What was totally unexpected in your 2017?
My girlfriend broke up with me and I didn't see that coming at all. When that happened, I confided in a friend, Jack. We started talking every day and I fell really hard for him. I didn't see that coming either.

5. What was the best thing that happened to you in 2017?
My LDR with Jack.

Bonus: Did you make new year resolutions for 2018? Share a few with us? Any of them repeats from 2017?
I didn't make any official resolutions for 2018. I plan to continue the blow job one from 2017 and I'm also making it a priority to travel to see Jack at least once this year.



Husband:
1. Did you make any resolutions at the start of 2017? If yes, how did you do at keeping them? What one thing are you still doing?
I wanted to do two things at the start of the year; to get into better physical shape and to learn some practical skill like knitting. I completely blew it with both of those. However, after the year started getting traction I wanted to work on my communication and confrontation issues. This has been a work in progress, and will likely stay that way, but I feel like I have made measureable strides in this and I am proud of myself.

2. Pick three words to describe your year 2017.
Growth. Acceptance. Love.

3. What was your biggest personal change in 2017?
Not letting my emotions build up within me. I finally accepted that I could feel the way I felt and express that without an emotional eruption.

4. What was totally unexpected in your 2017?
I did not have an exact timeline for when I would say I was okay to open our relationship, though it was something that had been stewing for years. I think the fact that it surfaced was unexpected for me.

5. What was the best thing that happened to you in 2017?
Working on my communication and opening up with my emotions. While I still had my emotional ups and downs, my fits and bouts of jealousy, wild rides of anxiety, talking about them before they became deep hurts has been great.

Bonus: Did you make new year resolutions for 2018? Share a few with us? Any of them repeats from 2017?
Getting in shape hits the list again. I would like to continue working on my communication and confrontation issues. I want to really focus on some date nights because I have been horrible at this for more than I am comfortable with.

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Tuesday, December 19, 2017

TMI Tuesday: December 19, 2017

TMI Tuesday is up! Let’s do this.

How Random




Ash:
1. What was the name of the first person you ever had a crush on? Why did you like them?

I've had crushes since kindergarten, but my first BIG crush was in 6th grade. His name is Tim. He was really sweet, super cute, very funny, and he had long hair. I professed my love to him and told him that I wanted to lose my virginity to him. It freaked him out, of course. So, he broke up with me. I tried to win him back up until 9th grade, then I gave up. I recently saw him at my 15-year high school reunion. Time hasn't been kind to him. I'll just say that I no longer have a crush on him.

2. Which parent do you identify with the most?
I could identify with my mom a lot. She was bisexual and experimented with open relationships, which was really cool to talk about with her. She was very easy going but struggled with depression just like me. My mom was the only person in my family who I could talk to because she was the only one who understood me. I miss her so much. She's been gone for three and a half years now.

3. What food will you absolutely not, under any circumstances, eat?
I could never knowingly eat veal. I would probably feel so guilty that I'd vomit.

4. Would you ever adopt a child?
Yes, I do hope to adopt when my daughter is grown and I am more financially stable.

5. When was the last time you played a board game? What game?
I played Imaginiff with my family on Thanksgiving.

Bonus: What makes you laugh more – dry humor or weird, goofy humor?
I would say that I probably laugh more at dry humor. I'm not easily amused. It takes something really good to make me bust up laughing.



Husband:
1. What was the name of the first person you ever had a crush on? Why did you like them?
My first crush was Amanda in 5th grade. I liked her because, after a really crappy week at camp where I was picked on, she consoled me and was nice to me.

2. Which parent do you identify with the most? I honestly have a hard time identifying with either of my parents, but I guess if I had to choose it would be my mom. She feels much more intellectual and in touch with her emotions.

3. What food will you absolutely not, under any circumstances, eat? I am not entirely certain that there is a food that I would not eat. I'm not saying that I could be proven wrong, just that I cannot think of anything off the top of my head.

4. Would you ever adopt a child? It is something that Wife and I discussed and talked about before we were even married or had our daughter. We both hope to one day adopt, I think it would be an amazing thing to give love to a child in need like that.

5. When was the last time you played a board game? What game? I also played Imaginiff with Wife's family on Thanksgiving.

Bonus: What makes you laugh more – dry humor or weird, goofy humor? While I definitely enjoy both kinds of humor, weird and goofy definitely tickles me and makes me laugh the most. I can't help it, I can be very easily amused.
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Tuesday, December 12, 2017

TMI Tuesday: December 12, 2017

Hi there! TMI Tuesday

Roll With It!




Ash:
1. With whom would you like to take a bath?

I'd love to take a bath with a woman. I want to feel her soft hands on my body and have her wash my hair, running her fingers through it. I want to lay back on her chest while she holds me from behind. I'd love to wash her body, feeling all of her curves. This is a fantasy I've had for quite a while. I did take a bath with my ex when we stayed in a hotel together but there wasn't much room for the both of us and her wife was in the room as well, so she was distracted. It was mostly just soaking together and not much romantical touching.

2. You are, on a motorcycle, riding hard down a country road, wind in your hair. Who is the hottie on the bike with you? Are you riding or driving?
That sounds hot as fuck. I love motorcycles and I also really love driving around with no purpose. I imagine the driver would be a very sexy person with whom I have a strong sexual chemistry with. As the passenger, I would be sure to hold onto them tightly and press my breasts up against their back. Mmmm.

3. Baking naked–who is kneading your dough? 😉
Oh, please make it be Rachael Ray. I've had a huge crush on her for years. I've had a lot of dreams about us in the kitchen together.

4. Come sail away, come sail away, come and sail away with me! Who is joining you for a sexy sea adventure?
Someone who can make me feel safe and secure because I have a fear of being out in the middle of the ocean where I can't see land. I would probably have a ton of anxiety, so they would really have to work hard to keep me calm.

5. “I got your back.” Hands down who do you fully support, stick by no matter what, Who are you willing to help at all costs?
I will always be here for my husband and daughter no matter what. I'll add my niece and nephew into that as well. At least until they grow up. Then, I'll have to see what kind of people they end up being.

Bonus: Belly button–inny or outty? Are you going to show us? 😀
I have an inny. Sure, I'll show you.




Husband:
1. With whom would you like to take a bath?

I would very much love to take a bath with Wife. We have such a small tub at home and don't often stay anywhere that has a tub for two, it is definitely a luxury that we don't get to indulge often at all. We have plans to return to the hotel we stayed at on our wedding night for our anniversary this year, so there is light at the end of the tunnel!

2. You are, on a motorcycle, riding hard down a country road, wind in your hair. Who is the hottie on the bike with you? Are you riding or driving?
Wife is definitely the hottie with me. I'd love to be the one driving with her arms wrapped tightly around me, but I still have yet to ride on a motorcycle ever and have been ridiculously nervous about trying it out.

3. Baking naked–who is kneading your dough? 😉
The only person who kneads my dough is Wife, it would definitely be a treat to be kneaded soon.

4. Come sail away, come sail away, come and sail away with me! Who is joining you for a sexy sea adventure?
A sexy sea adventure?! Of course, I would be bringing Wife, the mermaid, who loves all the beaches and the ocean, she helps me to relax and enjoy it also. We shall have to bring blankets to spread out so the sand does not venture into all of our crevices!

5. “I got your back.” Hands down who do you fully support, stick by no matter what, Who are you willing to help at all costs?
Wife is someone that I will always support, always stick to, always help. Even before she had earned all of these things through our years together, she had my support because I was willing to give of myself for her. Sometimes I even literally have her back when I am 'kneading her dough.' The other person I support fully would be my daughter. I am not always the best at showing that I have her back, but the intent is there.

Bonus: Belly button–inny or outty? Are you going to show us? 😀
Inny and I just manscaped today so you can actually see it!




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Tuesday, December 5, 2017

TMI Tuesday: December 5, 2017

Sometimes ya gotta do, what ya gotta do–like play TMI Tuesday!

Sexy Specifics


Ash:
1. What do you find sexiest in a woman?
Physically, I am most attracted to curvy women with long hair. Goth girls are my biggest weakness. I also really love androgynous women. Mmmmm. Personality wise, I am very much into intelligent women who tend to be motherly in a caring way. Confidence is very sexy, as long as they aren't arrogant. Humbleness is also sexy. Also, boobs. I like boobs. Boobs of all sizes.

2. What do you find least sexy in a man?
Physically, I really hate testicles. *shudder* Personality wise, arrogance, bigotry, and stupidity are the worst.

3. Have you ever been the other woman or man? Would you do it again?
For a very short time at the end of my husband's first marriage. We dated when we were teenagers, then broke up for 3 years. When we saw each other again after all that time, the sexual chemistry was just too much to resist. She was awful and had already cheated on him multiple times. He was already in the process of leaving her, so I don't feel bad about it. I would never do it again. I am very against cheating.

4. Who puts more into a romantic relationship you or your significant other?
At this point in time, I would say it's probably me. Husband used to be very romantic and did a lot of amazing things for me. That hasn't happened much in the last few years. I'm especially romantic with the women I date.

5. Do you have a “work wife” or “office husband”?
I don't actually have a job other than being a mom. So, that would be a no.

Bonus: Are you in a healthy relationship? What makes you think so?
I know that I am in a very healthy relationship. So much so, that friends always ask me for relationship advice. We've been told many times that we have the "perfect relationship." I don't know that we are perfect, but I do know that we have a healthy relationship.

Bonus, bonus: Is the “work spouse” strictly a U.S. American anomaly (they do spend an insane amount of hours at work)? One study found 32% of Americans admitted to having a work spouse.
I've never had a "work spouse" so I really don't know anything about this.



Husband:
1. What do you find sexiest in a woman?
Physically I love curves. It is so easy for me to get lost in running my hands over every one pleasantly finding my way back to the starting point, only to get lost again. Mentally I love intelligence and humor and kindness. These qualities make a beautiful mix that is hard to resist.

2. What do you find least sexy in a man?
Um. Overconfidence and arrogance. Two turn offs regardless of gender.

3. Have you ever been the other woman or man? Would you do it again?
I have never been the other person.

4. Who puts more into a romantic relationship you or your significant other?
I think that over the course of our relationship romancing has been this either/or thing where one of us did most of the romantic lifting while the other was being lifted. I do feel like I am a hopeless romantic though, so I am always hungry to be swept off my feet.

5. Do you have a “work wife” or “office husband”?
No, though sometimes it feels like the people I have worked with more hand in hand are strangely close because of how much I don't filter and how much I am willing to overshare.

Bonus: Are you in a healthy relationship? What makes you think so?
I do think that I am in a healthy relationship because not only do I love my Wife, but I know that we are always working together on each other. We are willing and able to put time and effort into continually making our lives and relationship together work even/especially when things are difficult.

Bonus, bonus: Is the “work spouse” strictly a U.S. American anomaly (they do spend an insane amount of hours at work)? One study found 32% of Americans admitted to having a work spouse.
I don't have a clue about this.

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Monday, November 27, 2017

TMI Tuesday: November 28, 2017

Getting frisky and bold, are you? Prove it, play TMI Tuesday.


Spice it up!



Ash:
1. Why should you have sex on a first date?
If it is consensual, there's no reason for you to abstain. If you feel it, then go for it. Life is short. Go for it.

2. Why do you dislike giving oral sex?
I love giving oral sex. I do sometimes have anxiety about it because of the time I was sexually assaulted when I was 14. I have mostly healed from that though. It rarely comes up.

3. Tongue or no tongue? Explain.
It depends if they are good with their tongue. I don't want to be slobbered on. I also don't want to feel like my mouth is being assaulted by their tongue. If they are a good kisser, then I'll most definitely take tongue.

4. Would you have a sugar daddy or sugar mama?
I'd love to have one, honestly. As long as they don't think I'm taking advantage of them and they enjoy being my sugar daddy/mama.

5. What’s a sure sign that you need to get laid?
When I am sex deprived, I get very moody. I tend to snap about things and yell a lot. Little things that are not a big deal become a huge deal in my head. That's when I know I need sex.

Bonus: Right this very second, which do you prefer– to make love or fuck like a wild animal?
I would pick making love. I'm not in a good place in my head right now. I really just need to be held and made to feel safe. Hopefully, I'll be better soon.


Husband:
1. Why should you have sex on a first date?
I've never had sex on a first date. I am working on trying to live in the moment more and would go along with sex on the first date if it was brought up by the other person, I would not lead the way.

2. Why do you dislike giving oral sex?
I don't dislike giving oral sex, I personally love doing it. Pleasing my partner is a fantastic feeling for me.

3. Tongue or no tongue? Explain.
I think that as long as that tongue is used well, I am all for it.

4. Would you have a sugar daddy or sugar mama?
This would be incredible. I have probably dreamt silently about this ever since I heard about them.

5. What’s a sure sign that you need to get laid?
I start getting really withdrawn. I get disconnected and my emotions are all over the place. I tend to need a lot of touch and sex to seal it in.

Bonus: Right this very second, which do you prefer– to make love or fuck like a wild animal?
Making love would be magical. This season is always really difficult for so many reasons and a really solid reconnect like this can be essential for survival.

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