Saturday, November 16, 2019

Kink of the Week: Fisting


The topic for Kink of the Week is fisting. If you're new to this, fisting involves inserting one's whole hand/fist into the vagina or anus for sexual pleasure. For the purpose of this blog post, I will only be discussing vaginal fisting, as I have never experienced anal fisting.

Fisting isn't a topic that I've always thought about in a positive light. In fact, it was a hard limit for me until five years ago. Having my vagina stretched seemed like a painful activity that I would never enjoy. Husband was very into the thought of doing it. He had brought it up multiple times and I always answered in the same way. It will absolutely never happen. End of story.


One night, things got very heated. We were both very aroused. Husband was rubbing my clit with his fingers while I was lying face-down on the bed. I was very wet and his fingers were gliding across my vulva with no resistance. I felt him stick two of his fingers inside me and thrust them in and out of my pussy. He would take his fingers out, suck the juices off of them, and then put them back in. Soon, he added another finger and continued to finger fuck me. It felt so good. I started to move my hips with his thrusts. I was so turned on, the juices were just leaking out of me. My pussy kept feeling fuller and fuller as time went on. It no longer felt like fingers were inside me but something much bigger. I started to feel a little scared about being so full but it felt so good that I didn't want to tell him to stop. I pushed the thought away and just went with it. As the feeling of fullness increased, I started to feel pain. It hurt but it felt good at the same time. I felt confused because I wasn't sure what was happening. I just knew I was enjoying it. I felt him plunge deeper and deeper, making me moan out in pleasure. I could hear Husband breathing hard and ragged. This sure was exciting him. A LOT! That excited me more. Finally, he asked, "Do you like feeling my fist inside you?" What?? The feeling was so intense that I couldn't even allow myself to be worried any longer. I let myself go and began to cum all over his hand. I squirted so much that night that I think I was dehydrated the next day.


That was my first experience with fisting and I ended up enjoying it even though I didn't think I would. I think the fact that Husband has smaller hands than most men helps a lot. They are only a little bigger than my own. I'm not sure that I would be excited to try fisting with a person with large hands. That's actually quite scary to me. I would like to try getting fisted by a woman. I'd also like to try fisting a woman. I'd love to feel what it feels like from the other end.

So, what exactly do I enjoy about fisting?

The feeling of being full is very intoxicating. There is nothing like it. It makes me feel very slutty. I like to imagine that multiple cocks are being shoved inside me and I'm being used by many men. Husband plays on this by calling me a slut or a whore and I get off so hard from it. It also makes me feel brave. I feel scared every time we try it. My anxiety is so high when we start. Will I be able to take it? Is it going to hurt? Will I have to tell him to stop? Though, after it's over, I feel like I have accomplished something. Especially if Husband calls me a good girl after (omg, yes!). All of that is great but honestly, the biggest thing that excites me about fisting is that it's a hand inside me. I have a hand fetish, which means I need hands on me and in me to get off. I love being fingered. It's one of my favorite things. Fingers thrusting deep and hard into my pussy. Mmmm. I can't get enough of that. Of course, the idea of having a whole hand in there is hot as well.

So, what are some things that I don't enjoy as much about fisting?

Fisting is something that I really have to be in the mood for. It's not something I can just convince myself to do if I'm not feeling up for it and sometimes it takes me a few days to get the nerve to go along with it. I would say that most of the time that Husband tries to initiate fisting, I really just prefer to have four of his fingers inside me. It makes me feel full enough that it's enjoyable, but not as painful as sticking the thumb and whole fist in there as well. I do like that he occasionally pushes my limits and goes for the whole thing though. I think I mostly just dislike the painfulness of walking around and sitting with a sore vagina the next day. Sometimes, I just don't want to deal with the mess either. Fisting can be very messy. It makes me squirt a lot, so we definitely have to put a mattress pad down before doing it.


Now that I know that I enjoy fisting, it still isn't something that we do often. I would say that we do it maybe three or four times a year. It's also not something that I talk about much. I am an open book in real life. I talk about my sexual experiences often but I have only talked about fisting twice with people who aren't my sexual partner. Why is this? Well, there is a stigma behind it. If you enjoy fisting, your vagina must be loose. If you allow yourself to get fisted, it will loosen your vagina. These are things that I've heard people say and neither one of them is true. The vagina stretches a lot but it doesn't stay that way. It returns to normal after stretching. As long as you are very careful (trim those nails or use gloves), use lots of lube (more than you think you need), go slowly (prepare for this to take a while), and communicate with your partner (make sure to stop if they are in too much pain), there shouldn't be any long term harm done to the vagina. Relax and enjoy the journey. It's definitely not for everyone but if you enjoy it, don't be embarrassed. There's nothing wrong with you or your vagina.


Tuesday, November 12, 2019

TMI Tuesday: November 12, 2019

This is it! TMI TuesdayTMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. Do you think taking a break in a relationship works? Have you taken a break? Why do you say it worked or did not work?
Sometimes it can work. Husband and I broke up for 3 years and then got married. We are happier now than we were before the break. We both had things that we needed to work on within ourselves and being apart helped with that. Sometimes a break makes you realize how you feel about someone. I say it's worth a try. If it doesn't work, then at least you tried.

2. What is your ideal “break” in a relationship:
a. we stay monogamous but relax expectations on each other and each other’s time
b. we can see/date other people
c. we can take time to explore sex with other people
d. take a break but there is no discussion about seeing other people

None of these apply to us since we are polyamorous.

3. Currently, how many healthy relationships do you have? How many unhealthy or toxic relationships do you have?
I only have one relationship at this time. I think my relationship with Husband is a healthy relationship.

4. Are there limits to your sexual creativity?
Lately, my mental health has been limiting me. Eventually, I'll snap out of it. I hope.

5. What one item in this life do you want to take to the afterlife? (For the purposes of this questions just assume there IS an afterlife)
Husband

Bonus: What life-altering thing should every human ideally get to experience at least once in their life?
Unconditional love. I waited a long time to experience that and I found it with Husband.



Husband:
1. Do you think taking a break in a relationship works? Have you taken a break? Why do you say it worked or did not work?
I can speak from personal experience that, yes, sometimes taking a break in a relationship works. Back when Wife and I were first dating things got rough and rather difficult for both of us and we took a break. Things weren't very clear for me, and I rebounded right into a marriage that lasted three years. That marriage was a disaster, as I was trying to find a replacement for the person who mattered most to me, which is impossible. Those three years apart though made me older, and I like to think wiser. So when we came together with the second chance, we didn't pass it up. We took that chance and have been keeping at our relationship ever since. We are much happier and evolved since our time apart, and I think that the time apart saved us.

2. What is your ideal “break” in a relationship:
a. we stay monogamous but relax expectations on each other and each other’s time
b. we can see/date other people
c. we can take time to explore sex with other people
d. take a break but there is no discussion about seeing other people

None of these apply to any relationship I have, being polyamorous for us renders this part a moot point.

3. Currently, how many healthy relationships do you have? How many unhealthy or toxic relationships do you have?
I have had many unhealthy relationships throughout my life, but currently, the only relationship I have is a healthy relationship, and that is with Wife.

4. Are there limits to your sexual creativity?
I believe my sexual creativity was stunted growing up by my upbringing, both by family and religion. I feel that now it has left me pretty open to creativity, but it is usually something that is inspired by others and I run with some shade of it that makes sense for me. I guess in short without a muse of some kind my sexual creativity dries up.

5. What one item in this life do you want to take to the afterlife? (For the purposes of this questions just assume there IS an afterlife)
I can't think of anything I would want to take with me. Things don't matter in this scenario for me. People on the other hand do, and I would choose to take people with me or to be there with them.

Bonus: What life-altering thing should every human ideally get to experience at least once in their life?
When I first read this question I thought of how every person experiences death in their life. I felt that witnessing birth as an opposite would be an incredible experience that everyone should be able to experience. Then I snuck a peek at what Wife put for her answer, and I think she has a much better answer. (For what it's worth, I love your answer - Wife)

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Sunday, November 10, 2019

Sinful Sunday: Wash My Sins Away

No matter how much I wash,
I still get out just as dirty.


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Give the lips a kiss below.


Sinful Sunday

Tuesday, November 5, 2019

TMI Tuesday: November 5, 2019

Hello kinksters! Let’s give it a go!



Ash:
1. What are your kinks?

Well, I have a hand fetish but I'm not sure that's considered a kink? I'm submissive but only in the bedroom. I love impact, rope, needle, fire, and age play. I'm very turned on by consensual non-consent.

2. How did a lover last please you?

Husband always pleases me with his amazing cock. It's shaped perfectly for my vagina and always makes me cum. I love it so much.

3. When it comes to giving oral sex would you say you’re:
a. a Rookie – I know the moves but need to develop skill and probably incorporate tricks.
b. a Talented Intermediate – I have had lots of practice, I have some ways-to-make-you-moan tricks. I’m pretty competent and confident in giving oral pleasure.
c. a Proficient and Intuitive lover who knows what to do when, where, and for how long. Guaranteed to make a lover scream, moan, groan with pleasure. You can come from the thrill of my tongue.
d. an Expert at whole body pleasure and oral is merely a thrilling stop on the way to mind-blowing stimulation. The sheer anticipation of what I will do at your nether regions is enough to make you come.


I would say A for cunnilingus.
Husband says that I'm D for fellatio but I have a hard time claiming that. So, I'll say C.

4. Which on-screen sex scene would you like to re-create?
a. The Pottery Scene, ‘Ghost’: Demi Moore and Patrick Swayze
b. Monica’s First Time, ‘Love and Basketball’: Sanaa Lathan and Omar Epps
c. The Train Scene, ‘Risky Business’: Rebecca De Mornay and Tom Cruise
d. The Kitchen Scene, ‘The Postman Always Rings Twice’: Jessica Lange and Jack Nicholson
e. The Nearly Eight-Minute Sex Scene, ‘Blue Is the Warmest Color’: Lea Seydoux and Adele Exarchopoulos
f. Brokeback Mountain iconic love scene: Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal


Probably D. That scene really scratches my consensual non-consent itch. Though E is a very close second.

5. On a scale of 1 to 10, how happy are you with the amount of time you have for sex? (10 = super satisfied)

I'll go with a 6. It can definitely use some improvement.



Husband:
1. What are your kinks?

I get really turned on about anal play, something about it just really excites me; more so the giving of anal play than receiving, but I enjoy both. I enjoy the giving of pleasure and pain to Wife, especially when the two blur together. I love being touched. I like to be nuzzled and bitten, especially along my neck. I know that there are other things as well, but my brain is fuzzy at the moment and it is difficult to delve deeper.

2. How did a lover last please you?

Every time with Wife is a pleasure, she has magical sex goddess powers. Seriously everyone, magic.

3. When it comes to giving oral sex would you say you’re:
a. a Rookie – I know the moves but need to develop skill and probably incorporate tricks.
b. a Talented Intermediate – I have had lots of practice, I have some ways-to-make-you-moan tricks. I’m pretty competent and confident in giving oral pleasure.
c. a Proficient and Intuitive lover who knows what to do when, where, and for how long. Guaranteed to make a lover scream, moan, groan with pleasure. You can come from the thrill of my tongue.
d. an Expert at whole body pleasure and oral is merely a thrilling stop on the way to mind-blowing stimulation. The sheer anticipation of what I will do at your nether regions is enough to make you come.


I'd like to think that I am at least a C that borders occasionally on D, and I am going to be positive and stick right there. I do love oral, I love the taste of Wife. She is magically delicious.

4. Which on-screen sex scene would you like to re-create?
a. The Pottery Scene, ‘Ghost’: Demi Moore and Patrick Swayze
b. Monica’s First Time, ‘Love and Basketball’: Sanaa Lathan and Omar Epps
c. The Train Scene, ‘Risky Business’: Rebecca De Mornay and Tom Cruise
d. The Kitchen Scene, ‘The Postman Always Rings Twice’: Jessica Lange and Jack Nicholson
e. The Nearly Eight-Minute Sex Scene, ‘Blue Is the Warmest Color’: Lea Seydoux and Adele Exarchopoulos
f. Brokeback Mountain iconic love scene: Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal


I've only seen two of these movies, and I may change my mind after seeing the other scenes, at this time though I am leaning heavily towards the Pottery Scene.

5. On a scale of 1 to 10, how happy are you with the amount of time you have for sex? (10 = super satisfied)

It's not a 10. My work schedule has recently changed and it is more all over the place rather than a static schedule, which has made timing feel off. I'm not happy with the amount of time available for sex. I know some of the lack of sex time is because of poor scheduling choices on my end, and it is something that I plan on working towards creating a better intimacy outcome.

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Sunday, November 3, 2019

Sinful Sunday: You'll Float Too


"You'll float down here.
We all float down here."


Though it's quite odd, I've accepted the fact that I am very turned on by Pennywise. When I saw that the Sinful Sunday prompt for November was "quote me a Halloween," I knew I had to do something revolving around my sexy clown. I hope you like what I came up with and don't forget to give the lips a kiss below to see more from the other sinners. 

Sinful Sunday

Saturday, October 5, 2019

Sinful Sunday: A Peek Outside

Or a peak outside. Good morning, neighbors. I hope you enjoy the view.



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Sinful Sunday

Tuesday, September 24, 2019

TMI Tuesday: September 24, 2019

How is it already time for TMI Tuesday again? The last week was a blur.

Expectations



Ash:
1. What makes you insecure?
Society's view of the perfect body and my anxiety.

2. What do you expect from a romantic love relationship?
I expect my partner to give as much effort as I do in a relationship. I expect my partner to show that they care. I expect my partner to make time for me. Quality time and touch are my love languages.

3. What do you expect from a friendship?
I expect my friends to show that they care about me when I'm struggling and to make time for me.

4. What do you expect from a Friends-with-Benefits situation?
I expect my FWB to use protection with their other sexual partners so that they don't put me at risk and to get tested for STIs regularly.

5. What expectations do you have for yourself?
I expect myself to be honest, friendly, and helpful to those that deserve it.

Bonus: Post one picture (art, photograph, drawing) that depicts how you feel today.




Husband:
1. What makes you insecure?
Being asked to demonstrate skills, being in front of large groups of people and the center of attention.

2. What do you expect from a romantic love relationship?
I expect love languages to be attempted to be met, meaning trying to accommodate a partner's love language needs. Communication, honesty, intimacy, sex, compassion, support.

3. What do you expect from a friendship?
Basically the same things as with a romantic love relationship, but without the intimacy and sex.

4. What do you expect from a Friends-with-Benefits situation?
I don't even know what I would expect from a friend with benefits situation; I suppose everything from a romantic love relationship, minus the intimacy.

5. What expectations do you have for yourself?
To provide for my family whatever is in my power to give them, to be a decent human being, to always stay young at heart.

Bonus: Post one picture (art, photograph, drawing) that depicts how you feel today.


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