Ash:
1. Do you think taking a break in a relationship works? Have you taken a break? Why do you say it worked or did not work?
Sometimes it can work. Husband and I broke up for 3 years and then got married. We are happier now than we were before the break. We both had things that we needed to work on within ourselves and being apart helped with that. Sometimes a break makes you realize how you feel about someone. I say it's worth a try. If it doesn't work, then at least you tried.
2. What is your ideal “break” in a relationship:
a. we stay monogamous but relax expectations on each other and each other’s time
b. we can see/date other people
c. we can take time to explore sex with other people
d. take a break but there is no discussion about seeing other people
None of these apply to us since we are polyamorous.
3. Currently, how many healthy relationships do you have? How many unhealthy or toxic relationships do you have?
I only have one relationship at this time. I think my relationship with Husband is a healthy relationship.
4. Are there limits to your sexual creativity?
Lately, my mental health has been limiting me. Eventually, I'll snap out of it. I hope.
5. What one item in this life do you want to take to the afterlife? (For the purposes of this questions just assume there IS an afterlife)
Husband
Bonus: What life-altering thing should every human ideally get to experience at least once in their life?
Unconditional love. I waited a long time to experience that and I found it with Husband.
Husband:
1. Do you think taking a break in a relationship works? Have you taken a break? Why do you say it worked or did not work?
I can speak from personal experience that, yes, sometimes taking a break in a relationship works. Back when Wife and I were first dating things got rough and rather difficult for both of us and we took a break. Things weren't very clear for me, and I rebounded right into a marriage that lasted three years. That marriage was a disaster, as I was trying to find a replacement for the person who mattered most to me, which is impossible. Those three years apart though made me older, and I like to think wiser. So when we came together with the second chance, we didn't pass it up. We took that chance and have been keeping at our relationship ever since. We are much happier and evolved since our time apart, and I think that the time apart saved us.
2. What is your ideal “break” in a relationship:
a. we stay monogamous but relax expectations on each other and each other’s time
b. we can see/date other people
c. we can take time to explore sex with other people
d. take a break but there is no discussion about seeing other people
None of these apply to any relationship I have, being polyamorous for us renders this part a moot point.
3. Currently, how many healthy relationships do you have? How many unhealthy or toxic relationships do you have?
I have had many unhealthy relationships throughout my life, but currently, the only relationship I have is a healthy relationship, and that is with Wife.
4. Are there limits to your sexual creativity?
I believe my sexual creativity was stunted growing up by my upbringing, both by family and religion. I feel that now it has left me pretty open to creativity, but it is usually something that is inspired by others and I run with some shade of it that makes sense for me. I guess in short without a muse of some kind my sexual creativity dries up.
5. What one item in this life do you want to take to the afterlife? (For the purposes of this questions just assume there IS an afterlife)
I can't think of anything I would want to take with me. Things don't matter in this scenario for me. People on the other hand do, and I would choose to take people with me or to be there with them.
Bonus: What life-altering thing should every human ideally get to experience at least once in their life?
When I first read this question I thought of how every person experiences death in their life. I felt that witnessing birth as an opposite would be an incredible experience that everyone should be able to experience. Then I snuck a peek at what Wife put for her answer, and I think she has a much better answer. (For what it's worth, I love your answer - Wife)
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