Ash:
1. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Why? Sex is a difficult topic for partners to discuss, yet sex can draw couples closer together.
Well, I think sex is a difficult topic for most people to discuss. I usually don't have an issue talking about it though. I probably talk about it too much. If I'm discussing a problem with our sex life, that can be a little uncomfortable because I'm not sure how my partner will react. Sex can draw couples together but only if those people have a healthy sex life and actually enjoy having sex. Sex definitely makes me feel closer to my partner and it's something I need with any partner I have. Relationships without sex just don't work for me.
2. Who did you first come out to and why did you choose that person?
I came out as bisexual to my mom first because I knew she would understand. She was also bisexual.
3. Has someone come out to you? What was your reaction?
I have had quite a few people come out to me over the last 20 years. I have had friends come out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender. I've been nothing but supportive of each of them. I always give them all the love.
4. Recent studies show that smartphones are causing decreased intimacy among partners. In your relationship is the smartphone a saboteur or helping hand?
Honestly, smartphones do negatively impact the intimacy level in my marriage. There are times when we have alone time and we use it to play around on our phones instead of communicating with each other. I tend to catch up on Twitter or play a game on my phone at night to wind down and disconnect from the stress of the day. Husband usually takes that as a signal that I'm not interested in sex, which isn't true. I'm sure there are a lot of changes that we could make when it comes to smartphone use to improve the intimacy in our relationship.
5. Tell us something that you do that could cause someone to say “What Will the Neighbors Think?”.
I walk around my house naked with the curtains open. I also have sex on my balcony when the weather is nice.
6. What was your most recent motivation for masturbation?
I saw a very hot video on Twitter and it turned me on.
Bonus: Do you regularly view porn? What’s regular?
Yes, I view porn almost daily on Twitter.
Husband:
1. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Why?
Sex is a difficult topic for partners to discuss, yet sex can draw couples closer together.
I agree. Despite being raised with the understanding that sex is for procreation only, among many other stipulations, I know that sex is a great thing that doesn't just need to be used to breed like the Duggars. Just because I know that sex is just sex doesn't mean all that learning hasn't affected my thought processes. I still have a hard time bringing up sex in conversation. I do most definitely believe sex can draw couples closer together, but that is reliant on how important sex is for that person. Sex for me is the ultimate connection between a partner and myself because touch is my most prominent love language. This I know is only for me speaking, not for any partner.
2. Who did you first come out to and why did you choose that person?
The first person I came out to was Wife, who was then Girlfriend. I chose to come out to her because I felt comfortable with her. I felt comfortable sharing feelings that I had kept private and hidden up until that time.
3. Has someone come out to you? What was your reaction?
I don't think anyone has come out to me. I think I tend to hear about people coming out through the grapevine, never actually firsthand.
4. Recent studies show that smartphones are causing decreased intimacy among partners. In your relationship is the smartphone a saboteur or helping hand?
I feel like at this point me blaming anything on a phone is just me being lazy about dealing with my circumstances. I've been lazy an awful lot lately.
5. Tell us something that you do that could cause someone to say “What Will the Neighbors Think?”.
Being nudists is easily one of the first things I think of that throws people off. I've had so much random negativity about it, that I spend more time sounding defensive than actually being informative for the people who are curious.
6. What was your most recent motivation for masturbation?
Probably not having sex.
Bonus: Do you regularly view porn? What’s regular?
No. I used to watch it on Wife's phone when she would scroll through Twitter, but lately, I've been falling asleep. I don't even know what "regular" viewing of porn is. I feel like any input I have here would throw off the curve, like having a zero factored into your grade average.
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Ash
ReplyDelete3. Excellent. Clearly you are someone people feel they can trust, and receive understanding.
4. In the two articles I read on the subject, your experience is pretty common. People did not intentionally ignore their partners but our lifestyles with smartphones had partners disconnecting from one another and not sharing their lives, which of course affects intimacy.
5. Sex on the balcony? Ooooh what a rush that must be :-)
Husband
I like reading both points of view and experiences. Thanks for sharing.
-H