TMI Tuesday: December 19, 2017

TMI Tuesday is up! Let’s do this.

How Random




Ash:
1. What was the name of the first person you ever had a crush on? Why did you like them?
I've had crushes since kindergarten, but my first BIG crush was in 6th grade. His name is Tim. He was really sweet, super cute, very funny, and he had long hair. I professed my love to him and told him that I wanted to lose my virginity to him. It freaked him out, of course. So, he broke up with me. I tried to win him back up until 9th grade, then I gave up. I recently saw him at my 15-year high school reunion. Time hasn't been kind to him. I'll just say that I no longer have a crush on him.

2. Which parent do you identify with the most?
I could identify with my mom a lot. She was bisexual and experimented with open relationships, which was really cool to talk about with her. She was very easy going but struggled with depression just like me. My mom was the only person in my family who I could talk to because she was the only one who understood me. I miss her so much. She's been gone for three and a half years now.

3. What food will you absolutely not, under any circumstances, eat?
I could never knowingly eat veal. I would probably feel so guilty that I'd vomit.

4. Would you ever adopt a child?
Yes, I do hope to adopt when my daughter is grown and I am more financially stable.

5. When was the last time you played a board game? What game?
I played Imaginiff with my family on Thanksgiving.

Bonus: What makes you laugh more – dry humor or weird, goofy humor?
I would say that I probably laugh more at dry humor. I'm not easily amused. It takes something really good to make me bust up laughing.



Husband:
1. What was the name of the first person you ever had a crush on? Why did you like them? My first crush was Amanda in 5th grade. I liked her because, after a really crappy week at camp where I was picked on, she consoled me and was nice to me.

2. Which parent do you identify with the most? I honestly have a hard time identifying with either of my parents, but I guess if I had to choose it would be my mom. She feels much more intellectual and in touch with her emotions.

3. What food will you absolutely not, under any circumstances, eat? I am not entirely certain that there is a food that I would not eat. I'm not saying that I could be proven wrong, just that I cannot think of anything off the top of my head.

4. Would you ever adopt a child? It is something that Wife and I discussed and talked about before we were even married or had our daughter. We both hope to one day adopt, I think it would be an amazing thing to give love to a child in need like that.

5. When was the last time you played a board game? What game? I also played Imaginiff with Wife's family on Thanksgiving.

Bonus: What makes you laugh more – dry humor or weird, goofy humor? While I definitely enjoy both kinds of humor, weird and goofy definitely tickles me and makes me laugh the most. I can't help it, I can be very easily amused.
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TMI Tuesday: December 12, 2017

Hi there! TMI Tuesday…

Roll With It!




Ash:
1. With whom would you like to take a bath?
I'd love to take a bath with a woman. I want to feel her soft hands on my body and have her wash my hair, running her fingers through it. I want to lay back on her chest while she holds me from behind. I'd love to wash her body, feeling all of her curves. This is a fantasy I've had for quite a while. I did take a bath with my ex when we stayed in a hotel together but there wasn't much room for the both of us and her wife was in the room as well, so she was distracted. It was mostly just soaking together and not much romantical touching.

2. You are, on a motorcycle, riding hard down a country road, wind in your hair. Who is the hottie on the bike with you? Are you riding or driving?
That sounds hot as fuck. I love motorcycles and I also really love driving around with no purpose. I imagine the driver would be a very sexy person with whom I have a strong sexual chemistry with. As the passenger, I would be sure to hold onto them tightly and press my breasts up against their back. Mmmm.

3. Baking naked–who is kneading your dough? 😉
Oh, please make it be Rachael Ray. I've had a huge crush on her for years. I've had a lot of dreams about us in the kitchen together.

4. Come sail away, come sail away, come and sail away with me! Who is joining you for a sexy sea adventure?
Someone who can make me feel safe and secure because I have a fear of being out in the middle of the ocean where I can't see land. I would probably have a ton of anxiety, so they would really have to work hard to keep me calm.

5. “I got your back.” Hands down who do you fully support, stick by no matter what, Who are you willing to help at all costs?
I will always be here for my husband and daughter no matter what. I'll add my niece and nephew into that as well. At least until they grow up. Then, I'll have to see what kind of people they end up being.

Bonus: Belly button–inny or outty? Are you going to show us? 😀
I have an inny. Sure, I'll show you.




Husband:
1. With whom would you like to take a bath?
I would very much love to take a bath with Wife. We have such a small tub at home and don't often stay anywhere that has a tub for two, it is definitely a luxury that we don't get to indulge often at all. We have plans to return to the hotel we stayed at on our wedding night for our anniversary this year, so there is light at the end of the tunnel!

2. You are, on a motorcycle, riding hard down a country road, wind in your hair. Who is the hottie on the bike with you? Are you riding or driving?
Wife is definitely the hottie with me. I'd love to be the one driving with her arms wrapped tightly around me, but I still have yet to ride on a motorcycle ever and have been ridiculously nervous about trying it out.

3. Baking naked–who is kneading your dough? 😉
The only person who kneads my dough is Wife, it would definitely be a treat to be kneaded soon.

4. Come sail away, come sail away, come and sail away with me! Who is joining you for a sexy sea adventure?
A sexy sea adventure?! Of course, I would be bringing Wife, the mermaid, who loves all the beaches and the ocean, she helps me to relax and enjoy it also. We shall have to bring blankets to spread out so the sand does not venture into all of our crevices!

5. “I got your back.” Hands down who do you fully support, stick by no matter what, Who are you willing to help at all costs?
Wife is someone that I will always support, always stick to, always help. Even before she had earned all of these things through our years together, she had my support because I was willing to give of myself for her. Sometimes I even literally have her back when I am 'kneading her dough.' The other person I support fully would be my daughter. I am not always the best at showing that I have her back, but the intent is there.

Bonus: Belly button–inny or outty? Are you going to show us? 😀
Inny and I just manscaped today so you can actually see it!




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TMI Tuesday: December 5, 2017

Sometimes ya gotta do, what ya gotta do–like play TMI Tuesday!

Sexy Specifics


Ash:
1. What do you find sexiest in a woman?
Physically, I am most attracted to curvy women with long hair. Goth girls are my biggest weakness. I also really love androgynous women. Mmmmm. Personality wise, I am very much into intelligent women who tend to be motherly in a caring way. Confidence is very sexy, as long as they aren't arrogant. Humbleness is also sexy. Also, boobs. I like boobs. Boobs of all sizes.

2. What do you find least sexy in a man?
Physically, I really hate testicles. *shudder* Personality wise, arrogance, bigotry, and stupidity are the worst.

3. Have you ever been the other woman or man? Would you do it again?
For a very short time at the end of my husband's first marriage. We dated when we were teenagers, then broke up for 3 years. When we saw each other again after all that time, the sexual chemistry was just too much to resist. She was awful and had already cheated on him multiple times. He was already in the process of leaving her, so I don't feel bad about it. I would never do it again. I am very against cheating.

4. Who puts more into a romantic relationship you or your significant other?
At this point in time, I would say it's probably me. Husband used to be very romantic and did a lot of amazing things for me. That hasn't happened much in the last few years. I'm especially romantic with the women I date.

5. Do you have a “work wife” or “office husband”?
I don't actually have a job other than being a mom. So, that would be a no.

Bonus: Are you in a healthy relationship? What makes you think so?
I know that I am in a very healthy relationship. So much so, that friends always ask me for relationship advice. We've been told many times that we have the "perfect relationship." I don't know that we are perfect, but I do know that we have a healthy relationship.

Bonus, bonus: Is the “work spouse” strictly a U.S. American anomaly (they do spend an insane amount of hours at work)? One study found 32% of Americans admitted to having a work spouse.
I've never had a "work spouse" so I really don't know anything about this.



Husband:
1. What do you find sexiest in a woman?
Physically I love curves. It is so easy for me to get lost in running my hands over every one pleasantly finding my way back to the starting point, only to get lost again. Mentally I love intelligence and humor and kindness. These qualities make a beautiful mix that is hard to resist.

2. What do you find least sexy in a man?
Um. Overconfidence and arrogance. Two turn offs regardless of gender.

3. Have you ever been the other woman or man? Would you do it again?
I have never been the other person.

4. Who puts more into a romantic relationship you or your significant other?
I think that over the course of our relationship romancing has been this either/or thing where one of us did most of the romantic lifting while the other was being lifted. I do feel like I am a hopeless romantic though, so I am always hungry to be swept off my feet.

5. Do you have a “work wife” or “office husband”?
No, though sometimes it feels like the people I have worked with more hand in hand are strangely close because of how much I don't filter and how much I am willing to overshare.

Bonus: Are you in a healthy relationship? What makes you think so?
I do think that I am in a healthy relationship because not only do I love my Wife, but I know that we are always working together on each other. We are willing and able to put time and effort into continually making our lives and relationship together work even/especially when things are difficult.

Bonus, bonus: Is the “work spouse” strictly a U.S. American anomaly (they do spend an insane amount of hours at work)? One study found 32% of Americans admitted to having a work spouse.
I don't have a clue about this.

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TMI Tuesday: November 28, 2017

Getting frisky and bold, are you? Prove it, play TMI Tuesday.


Spice it up!



Ash:
1. Why should you have sex on a first date?
If it is consensual, there's no reason for you to abstain. If you feel it, then go for it. Life is short. Go for it.

2. Why do you dislike giving oral sex?
I love giving oral sex. I do sometimes have anxiety about it because of the time I was sexually assaulted when I was 14. I have mostly healed from that though. It rarely comes up.

3. Tongue or no tongue? Explain.
It depends if they are good with their tongue. I don't want to be slobbered on. I also don't want to feel like my mouth is being assaulted by their tongue. If they are a good kisser, then I'll most definitely take tongue.

4. Would you have a sugar daddy or sugar mama?
I'd love to have one, honestly. As long as they don't think I'm taking advantage of them and they enjoy being my sugar daddy/mama.

5. What’s a sure sign that you need to get laid?
When I am sex deprived, I get very moody. I tend to snap about things and yell a lot. Little things that are not a big deal become a huge deal in my head. That's when I know I need sex.

Bonus: Right this very second, which do you prefer– to make love or fuck like a wild animal?
I would pick making love. I'm not in a good place in my head right now. I really just need to be held and made to feel safe. Hopefully, I'll be better soon.


Husband:
1. Why should you have sex on a first date?
I've never had sex on a first date. I am working on trying to live in the moment more and would go along with sex on the first date if it was brought up by the other person, I would not lead the way.

2. Why do you dislike giving oral sex?
I don't dislike giving oral sex, I personally love doing it. Pleasing my partner is a fantastic feeling for me.

3. Tongue or no tongue? Explain.
I think that as long as that tongue is used well, I am all for it.

4. Would you have a sugar daddy or sugar mama?
This would be incredible. I have probably dreamt silently about this ever since I heard about them.

5. What’s a sure sign that you need to get laid?
I start getting really withdrawn. I get disconnected and my emotions are all over the place. I tend to need a lot of touch and sex to seal it in.

Bonus: Right this very second, which do you prefer– to make love or fuck like a wild animal?
Making love would be magical. This season is always really difficult for so many reasons and a really solid reconnect like this can be essential for survival.

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TMI Tuesday: November 21, 2017

TMI Tuesday is up! Please join us for…

Past & Present



Ash:
1. What was your favorite band in high school?
Marilyn Manson

2. What is your favorite band now?
Blue October

3. What was your go to “make me feel better” food in high school?
Hmmm. I was very anorexic back then. I rarely ate food. If I did eat food, it was usually banana baby food. I'll go with that.

4. What is your go-to “make me feel better” food now? Why?
Ice cream. Ummm...why? Because...ice cream. That's why.

5. Fill in the blank: That _____ was then; this _____ is now.
Drag shows and gay bars; Burlesque shows and gay bars.

Bonus: Where were you and what were you doing on November 21, 2016?
During the day, I was home alone getting things prepped for my daughter's class party the next day. I'm always the room mother for class parties because apparently, I can party plan like a boss. In the evening, I took my daughter to a "Little Medical School" event at the library. Then, I came home and finished prepping for the class party. My life is super exciting.


Husband:
1. What was your favorite band in high school?
Cake or the Offspring

2. What is your favorite band now?
Vast or Remy Zero

3. What was your go to “make me feel better” food in high school?
50 piece bucket of McNuggets with ranch sauce. I think I didn't share this once but shared it every other time. The one time I didn't share was not pleasant later.

4. What is your go-to “make me feel better” food now? Why?
Cheesecake, because cheesecake is fucking amazing when it is well made. The texture and how heavy just sits well as comfort food.

5. Fill in the blank: That _____ was then; this _____ is now.
Back then I had not experienced depression at all; Now I am a high-level depressive.

Bonus: Where were you and what were you doing on November 21, 2016?
I don't remember what I was doing last year, but the year before that I was at the Missouri State Penitentiary for a prison tour with Wife. It was really awesome, other than the fact that it was ridiculously chilly throughout most of the tour.

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TMI Tuesday: November 14, 2017

Here is TMI Tuesday–all about Self-care.




Outside of regular hygiene activities–bathing, brushing teeth, hair care, let’s talk about what you do for self-care*.


Ash:
1. Have you ever had a professional massage? If yes, what type? If no, why not?
I have had a Swedish massage three times. The first time was wonderful. It was done at a really nice spa. It lasted for 90 minutes and it was amazing. It was so good that I signed Husband and myself up for a couples massage a few months later at the same place. That wasn't as great, but it was romantic. The last massage I received was at Massage Luxe and it was really shitty. I'm really sad that the other place closed so I can't go back there. I just get my massages at home now.

2. Do you engage in the following? Tell us all that apply and how often you do it
a. yoga - I do yoga on Tuesday mornings.
b. tai chi - Never done this.
c. float therapy - I did this for the first time on my birthday this year. It was a gift from Husband. It was very nice. I'll probably do it again.
d. run/jog - Haha. No.
e. workout–any that isn’t actually training for something but is for physical fitness maintenance - I have been slacking off in this area, but I try to go to the gym to work out M-F and sometimes Saturday.
f. other – what? -

3. How many hours of sleep do you average on a weeknight? Weekend?
Do you think you need more or less sleep?
My sleep schedule is fucked right now. In a perfect world, I would get to bed by midnight and wake between 8-10am. Lately, I haven't been getting to sleep until sometime between 2-5am. Sometimes I end up sleeping really late in the day and sometimes I get up early and have a hard time functioning throughout the day. My body feels best when I sleep for 10 hours, but I can function alright on 8 hours. Anything less than that is just not good.

4. Which of the following are you most likely to add to your self-care routine and stick with it?
a. Schedule in a planner daily “me time”
b. Acupuncture
c. Take a moment at the end of each day and consciously list a few good things in your life.
d. Turn off phone and step away from computer/tablet for 4 hours a day
I should definitely start doing C. I do D a few times every week, but I could probably stand to do it more often. I doubt I'd stick with it though.

5. What do you do for self-care either physically, spiritually or emotionally?
Yoga is the biggest thing I do for self-care. I can definitely tell a difference in my mood when I get my yoga in every week. I don't really do anything else to take care of myself, unless you count masturbation. I'm not good at being nice to myself.

Bonus: Today, make sure you give yourself some love–self-care.
I'll try to do that.

*Self-care is activities and practices that you do on a regular basis to reduce stress and maintain and enhance our short- and longer-term health and well-being. Source: buffalo.edu




Husband:
1. Have you ever had a professional massage? If yes, what type? If no, why not?
Not counting the minute massages you receive while walking around conventions where chiropractors and other businesses are trying to get your patronage I have only had one professional massage. Wife set up a couples massage and it was wonderfully romantic.

2. Do you engage in the following? Tell us all that apply and how often you do it
a. yoga
b. tai chi
c. float therapy
d. run/jog
e. workout–any that isn’t actually training for something but is for physical fitness maintenance
f. other – what?

F. Other; for the most part sex is the only exercise I get. I do a lot of walking around and doing daily tasks at work that would also count as activity. I miss running and keep meaning to start a workout routine, but motivation seems to be lacking.

3. How many hours of sleep do you average on a weeknight? Weekend?
Do you think you need more or less sleep?
On an average weeknight I get 4-6 hours of sleep. On the weekend I average about 7-9 hours of sleep. I know more sleep during the week would benefit me, however, I tend to be a high functioning sleep deprived person.

4. Which of the following are you most likely to add to your self-care routine and stick with it?
a. Schedule in a planner daily “me time”
b. Acupuncture
c. Take a moment at the end of each day and consciously list a few good things in your life.
d. Turn off phone and step away from computer/tablet for 4 hours a day

I would say D simply because I know that towards the end of the day I most of the time feel like withdrawing anyway. I think I would like to start doing C also.

5. What do you do for self-care either physically, spiritually or emotionally?

Cuddling with my family is self care that spans all three of those areas. Reading works for emotional self care. I get out into nature for any spritual healing.

Bonus: Today, make sure you give yourself some love–self-care.


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TMI Tuesday: October 31, 2017

Let’s do this thing–TMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. What do you think about when you’re alone in your car?
If I'm in a good head space, I usually think about sex. Things I'd like to do. People I'd like to do.
If I'm in a bad head space, I usually think about dark things. Usually bad things about myself. Or things from my past that have happened to me.

2. What advice do you have for your previous lover?
I'm not so sure I'd like to create that drama. I have a feeling that her partners may still read my blog and I'd rather not go there. I hate drama.

3. What inspires you?
People who have had a hard life and struggle with depression. They doubt their strength, but they are the strongest people I know.

4. If you were to get rid of one person in your life, who would it be and why?
I get rid of toxic friends with no problem. The person who is most toxic in my life that I can't get rid of is my sister. She treats me like crap all the time. Every time I hang out with her, she makes me feel worse than I did before. She looks down on me for my poly lifestyle. She says mean things to me and kicks me when I'm down. She expects me to do things for her all the time but will never do anything for me. And I let her walk all over me because she's family. I do love her, but sometimes I wish I didn't have to deal with her. In the last year, I've drastically cut down the time that I spend with her.

5. How do you cope when your level of sexual desire doesn’t match your partners?
You masturbate a lot? I flirt with a lot of people to have an outlet for all of the extra sexual energy. I use Twitter to get it out as well. I don't have much of a filter and I tend to say inappropriate things all the time, but using Twitter to vent that stuff has helped cut that down a lot. My sex drive is crazy high. There aren't many people who can match my level of sexual desire.

Bonus: Are you single, why? Are you married, why?
I'm married. I used to be very against marriage. I thought, "Why would I need a piece of paper to prove my love to someone?" Honestly, I just didn't ever see myself wanting to be with someone forever. Then, I fell in love with my husband. He changed my mind about marriage. When he asked me to marry him, I felt lucky that he wanted to be with me forever. He truly is my soul mate and I love him so very much.




Husband:
1. What do you think about when you’re alone in your car?
I think about everything when I'm alone in the car. I think about 'what ifs', imaginary conversations. A lot of the time my subconscious runs wild and it will stir up things I have going on in my life.

2. What advice do you have for your previous lover?
My last lover was my first boyfriend, and to be honest I cannot think of any kind of advice to offer.

3. What inspires you?
Wife and my daughter are my two biggest sources of inspiration. They inspire me to be a better husband, father, and person constantly. There is always room for improvement.

Books and stories are another source of inspiration for me. To be able to experience other worlds and people in them is an incredibly humbling thing to me.

What can I do, who can I be, where can I go are all things that my family and books inspire me to question.

4. If you were to get rid of one person in your life, who would it be and why?
I would likely get rid of the wastewater operator I have had to deal with for the last five years at work. He has tried to get me fired more times than I can count and we just do not mesh well or get along in general.

5. How do you cope when your level of sexual desire doesn’t match your partners?
My level of sexual desire has never matched Wife's. It can be intimidating for me. Sometimes it can feel overwhelming in the sense of feeling like I fail to deliver what she needs. In the past, it was extremely difficult to not internalize this difference and take it personally, but over this year I have been communicating better about my desires instead of keeping it in my head. This has helped us grow closer together.

Bonus: Are you single, why? Are you married, why?
I am married because I have been so lucky as to have found my soul mate, not just once, but twice in the same person. I chose her and she chose me because we both love each other. We have built a life together and commit to working for our amazing future.

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Just What I Needed

I was sexting with Jack the other day. I got lost deep in a fantasy about him and was inspired to turn it into a short story.



She had been waiting for what seemed like hours. He was supposed to be home 15 minutes ago. He probably needed to make a stop on the way. Didn't he know she was impatient when she's horny? She had been fantasizing about him all day, craving his touch. It felt like torture, just watching the door for his arrival. She giggled to herself, thinking about the face he would make when he walked in and saw her there, lying naked on the couch.

A few more minutes pass and she hears his key in the door. Her breath catches in her throat as she anticipates his reaction. He walks in and stops dead in his tracks. At first, a look of surprise on his face, then it turns into a huge smile from ear to ear. He barely manages to say, "Oh my, you look delicious." She blushes, feeling exposed. For a moment, he forgets that he's holding the door wide open. He stumbles, trying to close it, and then starts to take off his shoes. She says, "I want to feel you against my body." He lets out a moan, throws his socks off, and looks at her again. She's biting her lip. Unf, he loves when she does that. She looks him in the eye and says, "I want to breathe in your scent." He says, "Oh god," and takes his shirt off as quickly as possible. She can tell there's a large bulge in his pants. She licks her lips and says, "I want to taste you." He moans again and takes his pants and boxers off faster than he's ever done before.

As he walks over to her, she spreads her legs, inviting him in. She says, "I want to hear you moan my name as you slide your big cock into my tight wet pussy." He mounts her and kisses her lips, hard. The taste of his lips is so sweet. She runs her fingers through his hair, pulling it a little. He moans out her name and slides his cock inside her swollen pussy. She digs her fingernails into his back and moans back, "Yes! Fill me up!" He bites her lip and she wraps her legs tightly around his waist, pulling him in closer.

Yes! This is what she had been needing all day. His cock filled her up so perfectly. She bit his shoulder as he thrusted into her over and over again. Her pussy was getting wetter, tighter, with every stroke. He moaned out, "Fuck, you feel amazing." Her hips move with his, meeting his thrusts. She needed him deep inside her. She whispers in his ear, "I need your cum inside my pussy." His thrusts get quicker and harder, forcing little moans from her mouth.

He's hitting her g-spot and she can feel it engorging. She can feel his hot breath on her skin. She moans out, "Oh, baby, you're going to make me cum!" He holds her tight against his body and whispers, "That's my good girl." She can't hold it in any longer. She scratches her nails down his back and moans out his name as she reaches orgasm. Her pussy convulses around his cock, squirting all over him. He looks into her eyes with such lust that it makes her blush. Then, he fills her pussy with his hot load.

He collapses on top of her, laying his head on her chest. She starts to run her fingers through his hair once again. They both let out a content sigh at the same time. They lie there together until they catch their breath and go again.

TMI Tuesday: October 24, 2017

This week, let’s have a look inside your relationship by playing TMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. How much time do you spend taking care of your significant other:
a. More than taking care of myself, more than 60% of my time.
b. About 50% of my time.
c. 10% to 49% … I have kids!
d. Not really any time at all, definitely less than 10% of my time.

I would say C is the most accurate one there, but I think it's on the high end of C.

2. How do you sleep at night?
a. With the whole bed to my myself…yaay!
b. I stay on my own side, someone else on other side.
c. We snuggle–start that way or end up that way.
d. We do not sleep together.

We snuggle. Usually, I am the little spoon. If we stop snuggling, at least one part of our bodies is touching all night.

3. What happens when you or your significant other gets home from work?
a. Stop what you are doing to greet and hug each other
b. Engage in conversation about the day
c. No specific acknowledgement of each other, no specific welcoming gesture but go about a household routine
d. Ignore each other

I know that Husband would like for me to do A, but I don't do that as often as I should. Usually he comes to me and we hug/kiss.

4. How many things about yourself would you change? Share 3 things and tell us why.

I'm not very nice to myself, so I could probably come up with quite a few things I would change. Here are my top 3.
1) I would stop putting myself down all the time. I've stopped doing it so much out loud, but I'm always doing it in my head. I know I don't deserve that, but it's really hard to stop thinking that way.
2) I would get rid of my social anxiety. I am an extrovert that really wants to spend time with other people but I just don't know how to talk to people most of the time. I tend to just hide out in a corner and wish someone would talk to me.
3) I would get rid of my anorexia, stop starving myself, lose weight the healthy way, and actually keep it off. I've tried this so many times but always end up failing.

Bonus: How many things would you change about a current significant other.

Not very many. I would definitely make him think more highly of himself and have more self confidence. I also wish he was a little less introverted because I could really use a partner who wants to go out and be social with me.


Husband:
1. How much time do you spend taking care of your significant other:
a. More than taking care of myself, more than 60% of my time.
b. About 50% of my time.
c. 10% to 49% … I have kids!
d. Not really any time at all, definitely less than 10% of my time.

I would say B. She is incredibly self sufficient, I just have a tendency to help out and do things unasked. I enjoy doing things for her and taking care of her without strings attached.

2. How do you sleep at night?
a. With the whole bed to my myself…yaay!
b. I stay on my own side, someone else on other side.
c. We snuggle–start that way or end up that way.
d. We do not sleep together.

Definitely C. I am usually the first one asleep simply because touch with Wife calms my brain and body without much work on my part. She gives me a quiet mind. For some reason after falling asleep I drift away towards the edge of the bed, and I wish I knew why that was. If I wake up in the middle of the night and we are not touching I will roll over and cuddle until I fall back asleep.

3. What happens when you or your significant other gets home from work?
a. Stop what you are doing to greet and hug each other
b. Engage in conversation about the day
c. No specific acknowledgement of each other, no specific welcoming gesture but go about a household routine
d. Ignore each other

Typically A. I clear my pockets, take off my shoes, then go hug my loved ones, followed by B most of the time. I have been guilty of both C and D when I have been in bad head space.

4. How many things about yourself would you change? Share 3 things and tell us why.

a. The biggest thing I wish I could change would be my confidence level. Most of it is forced and I fake it. I am working on trying to internalize this and make it real though. Not being confident has kept me from living to the fullest.
b. I wish I could summon the motivation to improve my physical self. There are things I would very much like to accomplish, and when I think about them I am really worked up, but when it comes to making time it falls apart. I am not in bad shape, but I want to be in better shape, for my health mostly, for doing things the rest.
c. I wish I could attack confrontation better than ducking around the corner and making a hide in shadows skill check. I definitely do not enjoy taking things head on, but I know this has limited me in dealing with all kinds of issues.

Bonus: How many things would you change about a current significant other.

I wish she could see herself through my eyes. To hear the truth from my lips. She is incredible and amazing. This is the only thing I can think of changing.

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TMI Tuesday: October 10, 2017

It’s fill-in-blanks time. Have fun with this TMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. I am me because of all the shit I've gone through in life. Without it, I wouldn't be who I am today.

2. Ash will never, ever do scat play.

3. He was grabbing ice cubes and running them up and down my body, slowly. I could feel the ice melting on my hot skin, the water dripping and causing shivers through my body.

4. Ok, ok I’m really just a big slut, but I know you like me that way.

5. The charming lesbian got in my bed and we fucked for many hours.

Bonus: Tell us about places where you’ve been happiest.
My happy place is a beach on the west coast. I've been told that I glow when I'm there. Watching a sunset on the beach is just happiness in my mind. Especially if I'm doing it with someone special.



Husband:
1. I am me because of my ancestors, my choices, my failures, my successes, every moment up until right now.

2. I will never, ever do a Tahetian Face Mask.

3. He was grabbing ice cubes and running them slowly over her steaming body, trailing lines of wet cold mist and leaving goose bumps rising in the wake.

4. Ok, ok I’m really trying to be a better person, stronger for myself and for you.

5. The charming way she smiled at me with mischief in her eyes got in my head and made me stumble/stutter.

Bonus: Tell us about places where you’ve been happiest.
Canada wilderness, around a campfire, around a bonfire surrounded by friends and family, in the arms of my Bandia.

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Fucking and 69ing on the Couch

Last night, Husband and I were watching porn on my phone while cuddling on the couch. He started to caress my breasts lightly and I took that as a sign that it was time to put the phone away. I tossed my phone on the table and Husband started kissing my chest while massaging my breasts. I closed my eyes and got lost in the feeling of his mouth on my skin. He slowly licked and sucked his way to my shoulder, then up to my neck. When he reached my neck, I moaned out in pleasure. Fuck, it definitely woke my clit up. I grabbed him, pulled him closer and started to suck and bite his neck as well. He squeezed my breasts harder and then started to make out with me.

After a while, he wanted to turn the light off, so he stood up and reached for the lamp. He was hovering over me, his cock right in my face. I licked my lips, thinking about tasting it. Suddenly, he grabbed my head and shoved it down onto his cock. I was surprised and delighted at the same time. After I lubed up his cock nicely with my mouth, he grabbed my head and started to fuck it. I couldn't breathe, but in that moment, I wanted his cock more than I wanted oxygen. He moaned loudly as I took him deep into my throat. He pulled out and put his hand on my throat. He kissed me as he was choking me and it was so fucking hot.

Husband sat beside me on the couch and we started making out. He grabbed my pussy and said, "I want this in my face." Then, he started to rub my clit. It momentarily took my breath away. He told me that he wanted to 69 on the couch, like in the picture he had texted to me earlier that night. I just couldn't say no to that. So, I got up and told him to lie down. Then, I sat on his face and started to lick his cock from the base to the head. I sucked on his balls a bit and then teased his head with my tongue. I took his cock into my mouth and started to suck it, slowly at first. Hearing him moan and feeling the vibration on my clit excited me, so I started to deep throat his cock. I bobbed up and down on it, repeatedly shoving his cock deep into the back of my throat. Tears were streaming down my face but I didn't care. I pushed through the gag reflex and kept going. He started to fuck me with his fingers while he continued to lick my clit. Mmmm. It felt so good and I knew I was getting close to cumming. A few times, I lost focus of what I was doing. It's so hard to enjoy pleasure while also focusing on giving pleasure. I shoved his cock deep into my throat one more time and came so hard. A very muffled moan escaped from my mouth. It's quite hard to moan with a cock in your throat. Husband said, "Fuck, I love when you moan around my cock."

I stumbled off of Husband and then sat down on the couch to catch my breath. He walked over, grabbed my legs, and placed them on his chest. Then, he slid his cock inside my very wet pussy. He started off slow, while moaning about how tight my pussy was. It felt so good to have his cock filling me up. He started to fuck me harder and faster. I moaned out, which I could tell excited him very much. He told me that he wanted me to rub my clit and cum while he fucked me. Of course, I did what I was told. I reached down and started to rub my clit. I needed more lube, so I put my fingers in my mouth. I could taste my pussy juices on my fingers. Mmmm. It was delicious. I continued to rub my clit and tightened my pussy around Husband's cock. He moaned, "I'm going to cum." That put me over the edge. He filled my pussy with his cum as I orgasmed around his cock. Fuck, it was so good. I slept very well after that.



Also, I got another gift in the mail. So, here is a picture of me in it.

TMI Tuesday: October 3, 2017

This week on TMI Tuesday— navigating sex.




Ash:
1. How do you gauge the success of your romantic relationships?
Well, my love language is physical touch, followed very closely by quality time. If my lover touches me often and spends quality time with me, I feel like the relationship is pretty successful. My lover also must be honest and open with me. If not, the relationship will not last.

2. How often do you prefer to talk about sex with your lover?
I love to talk about sex with my lover. It's my favorite thing to talk about. It's a good way to get to know what your lover likes. The only time I don't really like to talk about sex much is during the actual sex itself. My brain gets foggy and I get really caught up in it. So, it's quite hard for me to talk. I do enjoy when my lover throws out some dirty talk though.

3. During sex, what is your top priority?
To please my lover. I want to be sure that they are enjoying it as much as I am.

4. What advice would you like to give your partner to be a better lover? Are you afraid to give that advice?
The only thing I would change about my partner is to have him be more confident in the things that he does, even if he has to fake that confidence until he actually feels confident. Confidence is incredibly sexy and I know he doubts himself a lot. He's amazing in bed and he honestly has no reason to doubt himself. Anxiety is a bitch though. I'm not afraid to give that advice. I've told him that many times over the years.

5. While in the moment of having sex, what is the best way you like to receive feedback from a lover that they are enjoying or are not enjoying sex
a. moans and groans
b. tell me in dirty talk
c. give me direction or be explicit
d. just fuck, tell me later if it was good for you
I will go with "A" because moans and groans definitely excite me. I love hearing my lover make noises because they are enjoying what I'm doing. "B" is a very close second though. Dirty talk is fucking hot. That being said, I would also welcome "C" because giving direction can really be helpful. Especially if I'm having sex with a woman. It can sometimes be hard to make a woman cum because every vagina likes different things done in a different way. So, the first few times I have sex with a woman, a little direction is very helpful.

Bonus: Are you an idiot? Why or why not?
I can't think of any reason why I would be considered an idiot.



Husband:
1. How do you gauge the success of your romantic relationships?
I am having a hard time digesting this question, so I am just going with what I guess this means to me.

I judge the success of my romantic relationship by the attention I get/give, the intimacy shared between us (both physical and emotional), the little things that are done for each other.

2. How often do you prefer to talk about sex with your lover?
I enjoy talking about sex with Wife all the time, it's fun and inspiring and hot.

3. During sex, what is your top priority?
Pleasing my partner. Making them feel wanted, desired, sexy.

4. What advice would you like to give your partner to be a better lover? Are you afraid to give that advice?
I think I miss out on foreplay, and when I say that I don't strictly mean blow jobs, because those have become more frequent. I may be a guy, but I like the touches that build up to actual sex. Making out, hickies, scratches, rubbing, touching. These are things we have talked about though and are working on, so no I am not afraid to tell Wife. I have been in the past though.

5. While in the moment of having sex, what is the best way you like to receive feedback from a lover that they are enjoying or are not enjoying sex
a. moans and groans
b. tell me in dirty talk
c. give me direction or be explicit
d. just fuck, tell me later if it was good for you
I love moans and groans. There have been times before that I have almost got off hearing the noises Wife makes. Audio stimulation of any kind though is incredible and definitely does it for me.

Bonus: Are you an idiot? Why or why not?
I feel like an idiot a lot. I make many mistakes over and over trying to steer myself to the person I would like to be. I know I let down the people I care about more often than I would like.


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Sinful Sunday: Mouthful of Ecstasy

This month's Sinful Sunday prompt is "Fluids". That inspired me to ask for a mouthful of cum. Husband was very happy to oblige.


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TMI Tuesday: September 26, 2017

Yes, yes…here it is. Another TMI Tuesday.




Me:
1. The last time you had sex, was it urgent or essential? Consider masturbation or sex with a partner.
It felt pretty essential to me. Last night, there was a lot of emotional sharing between Husband and I. We had sex after that. I always feel like when we open up to each other, it needs to end with sex.

2. What should you stop doing? Why?
I should stop putting myself down in my head. I really need to stop being so unkind to myself when I'm so kind to everyone else. I know I don't deserve to be treated the way that I treat myself.

3. What makes you feel strongest? Sexiest?
Every winter, I get very depressed. It can be pretty scary at times because I get so low. Every spring, when the fog of depression finally fades away, that is when I feel the strongest. I made it through another awful winter. I feel like I can do anything in that moment.

I feel sexiest when I am desired. When someone tells me how much they want me, I feel very sexy. There's nothing better than being desired.

4. When do you feel vulnerable?
When I open up and share my feelings with people, I feel very vulnerable. When I share things about my childhood, I feel vulnerable.

5. What is missing from your sex life?
A woman. I need a woman in my life so badly. I don't think I'll ever feel complete without that.

Bonus: If you left your current lover, what would you miss the most?
The only reason I would ever leave my husband would be if he abused me. I don't ever see that happening. However, if he left me, I would miss his touch the most. His touch is like electricity on my skin.



Husband:
1. The last time you had sex, was it urgent or essential? Consider masturbation or sex with a partner.
The last two times have felt both urgent and essential for me. There has been an emotional and spiritual pull I felt and I answered.

2. What should you stop doing? Why?
I should stop putting so much weight upon my shoulders and realize that I can only accomplish so much as one person because the stress I bear is weighing me down and killing me quicker than time.

3. What makes you feel strongest? Sexiest?
Sacrificing my time for my family to provide for them. It is one of the hardest things for me to cope with, and I hate how much time I have been required to give up for them, but I am proud of the life we are able to have right now.

I think I feel sexiest when Wife can't keep her hands off me, when she talks to me about things she wants me to do to her, that she is craving from me. I feel sexiest when I feel desired.

4. When do you feel vulnerable?
I feel vulnerable when I share my demons with my wife, when I share the little hopes and dreams that have little weight to them, but mean so much to me. I feel vulnerable when I tell Wife that I want her to be happy and that I want her to be free to do what she needs to do to reach that happiness. I feel vulnerable when I am alone and lonely. I feel vulnerable when I am dominant for Wife. I feel vulnerable when I ask for the things I need to be happy. I feel vulnerable when I ask for things for myself. I feel vulnerable a lot.

5. What is missing from your sex life?
I used to think that nothing was missing from my sex life, but every year shows me things I never knew were missing. I think I only know some missing when Wife brings a new idea into the bedroom. Wife is like my treasure map to hidden pleasures.

Bonus: If you left your current lover, what would you miss the most?
I would not leave my current lover. Wife is my soulmate, my Bandia, my best friend. If she was gone that means she was taken from me and I will miss everything about her. I will miss the quiet mind she gives me, the magic when our skin touches, the smell of her on my body like the most intoxicating perfume.

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TMI Tuesday: September 19, 2017

Me:
1. Why would you go to a therapist?
a. You need support.
b. You want to take responsibility for your life’s outcomes?
c. You need guidance and to be told what to do.

I think the only one that would apply to me is that I need support. I do have issues with depression, anxiety, and anorexia. I'm sure a therapist could really help but I have deep trust issues with therapists. I hope to get over those issues one day and see a therapist.

2. Thinking of the main male lover in your life, what is sex for him:
a. stress relief, tension reliever
b. a way to show love
c. something exciting he likes to do

Umm. I think all of the above would be correct.

3. Do you feel a partner is being invasive for wanting to know your plans and inner thoughts?

That would depend on how that partner approached the subject. Most of the time I believe it's just curiosity or just wanting to be a part of my life in all areas because they care. I like being asked about my plans and thoughts. It makes me feel important to my partner.

4. In your opinion, what is intimate sharing?

Is that when you fluid swap during sex? Maybe I'm wrong about that.

5. Would you enjoy a weekend by yourself, without the company of your partner? Where would you go? What would you do?

I don't really care for being alone. I would rather be with a partner or at least a friend. CPTSD tends to make me think bad things when I'm alone. If I had my way, I'd go to the beach. That's my favorite place in the whole world. I would swim in the ocean and listen to the waves. That is definitely my happy place.

Bonus: Would you buy an outfit that you love, knowing that your partner will hate it? Then would you wear it as well?

I would buy it regardless of what my partner thinks. I would not wear it when going out with said partner though. I would wear it when I wasn't with them.




Husband:
1. Why would you go to a therapist?
a. You need support
b. You want to take responsibility for your life’s outcomes?
c. You need guidance and to be told what to do

I don't think I would go to a therapist for any of these reasons. To be honest, I don't even know if I should see a therapist. For the most part I am able to work through my issues, albeit slowly and at my own pace.

2. Thinking of the main male lover in your life, what is sex for him:
a. stress relief, tension reliever
b. a way to show love
c. something exciting he likes to do

The main male lover in my life is me, so I will sidestep this and answer about the main female lover; d. all the above

3. Do you feel a partner is being invasive for wanting to know your plans and inner thoughts?

I don't feel like Wife is invasive at all. It doesn't bother me to share all the things. I have had difficulty sharing in the past, but mostly because I didn't feel like what was in my head was worth sharing. This year I have changed that and have opened myself up completely. I still have times where I don't think to share without some prompting, and it is just because it is new to be forthcoming without a probe.

4. In your opinion, what is intimate sharing?

I am unfamiliar with the phrase, so just going off first impressions I will say that it is sharing my intimacy with others. To me, that means something as simple as hug up to sex. So, in my opinion, I like the sound of it, but I am working up to being able to share higher intimacy if a relationship ever came up other than with Wife.

5. Would you enjoy a weekend by yourself, without the company of your partner? Where would you go? What would you do?

Would I enjoy a weekend by myself, possibly, but not anywhere near the amount of enjoyment I would get with my partner. I prefer to be able to spend time with Wife, being alone leaves me feeling empty. I would go outdoors somewhere, doing something fun. I would love to end it cuddled up on a blanket somewhere, making romance all over the blanket.

Bonus: Would you buy an outfit that you love, knowing that your partner will hate it? Then would you wear it as well?

If I loved an outfit, yes I would buy it. I would definitely not wear it when going out with Wife, because the whole time I would feel like I should be changing outfits rather than enjoying wearing something I love.


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TMI Tuesday: September 12, 2017

Greetings! Have a wonderful week, start it off with TMI Tuesday.



Ash
1. What is your reality?
I'm dealing with a bout of depression. I have been thinking a lot of not nice things about myself and when I look in the mirror, I feel disgusted. I have two amazing guys in my life right now that have been helping me feel better though. My husband and Jack always make me feel beautiful and sexy. Other than that, I'm dealing with always feeling tired because I can't seem to get myself to bed at a decent hour.

2. Will you have sex today? This week?
Well, I just got a text from my husband saying that he is planning on using a new toy on me tonight. So, I think that's a yes. Hopefully that won't be the last time I have sex this week.

3. What did you hate doing this past weekend?
I hated being without my husband all day on Saturday because his boss forced him to work.

4. What did you love doing this past weekend?
I got to go to my niece's birthday party. I love little kid birthday parties! I also watched Lego Batman, which was great. I got fucked really good on Sunday night as well. That was probably my favorite part.

5. Which new technology have you found most helpful in your life? Which do you find to be the most annoying?
Google calendar is amazing. I know it isn't new but I just started using it a couple years ago when I switched from iPhone to Android. I love that I can put things on the calendar and just invite my husband to the events so he knows everything that's going on. I used to just tell him and he would never remember. I have a lot less stress now when he uses it. I guess that is a lame answer. I don't use a lot of technological things. I don't think a technological thing annoys me. Mostly it's just the people using it. Like people who can't enjoy your company without being on their phone.

Bonus: Go do last week’s TMI questions that were posted on Friday. Great questions!

1. You are going to make a sexy weekend with your lover. Which one are you most likely to enjoy? Which of the activities is most likely to happen?
a. Cook dinner together
b. Play a sexy game
c. Take a bath together
I want to choose take a bath together but we would have to find a tub big enough for that. I'm not a small girl and my tub is tiny. I do love playing sexy games though. So, if a big tub isn't available, I'll go with sexy games.

2. Will you watch porn this weekend? Alone or with someone?
I watch porn every day on Twitter. Sometimes my husband watches with me, but I mostly watch it by myself.

3. Sexy games–pick one you’d like to play? Why?
a. Naked twister or
b. Strip trivial pursuit
Hmmm. I don't think I would feel comfortable playing Naked Twister. I would be too busy feeling self conscious. I like the idea of Strip Trivial Pursuit. My husband and I played a game of Strip Uno in the past. That was super fun. I'm pretty sure I lost.

3. Friday night you hit happy hour, you meet a super sexy woman/man and the two of you chat and laugh the night away. She/he leans into you and says, “You’re irresistible, can I touch your pussy/cock?’ What is your answer?
"Oh my! Yes, please."

4. What do you really have planned for the weekend?
My husband and I are going camping with a friend on Saturday night. My daughter has soccer pictures and a game right after on Sunday.

5. Does this TMI on a Friday have you changing your weekend plans?
Nope.

Bonus: What you like to do on the weekend but never seem to get the chance?
Rest and relax. I always seem to keep myself very busy. Even when I really just want to take some time to relax. I recently discovered that this may be because of my CPTSD.





Husband
1. What is your reality?
My reality is an ever shifting pathway. Some days I shift closer to madness, other days I feel incredible. I am evolving, in what feels like two steps forward and one step back; cautiously, with the taste of paranoia on my tongue. I struggle with accepting who I am, who I have become, keeping a balance in my mind. My reality is that many times I am not okay inside, but that in itself is not wrong, and that I can ask for help, even when sometimes I don't want to. My reality is confronting the fears and demons and jealousies that I have avoided for years.

2. Will you have sex today? This week?
After work tonight I have plans for Wife and I and some toys, so yes, sex tonight. This week, I can't imagine why not, Wife is hot and I want that body and mine to make music together.

3. What did you hate doing this past weekend?
I hated having to work early after being at work the previous night late, not to mention that it was a long day of work and I felt exhausted mentally and physically.

4. What did you love doing this past weekend?
I gave time to my daughter to practice soccer on Saturday even though I was exhausted. I had some great conversation about reconnection with the Wife, followed up by some good hard fucking.

5. Which new technology have you found most helpful in your life? Which do you find to be the most annoying?
Google is one of my favorite companies for all the services they provide for me. Being able to sign in to any device or computer and have all of my data right there is fantastic. Having Calendar that is shared between myself and Wife for planning, Inbox for it's easy mail sorting and reminder creation, and Keep which I use to jot down random notes, or work on TMI Tuesdays! I also love using Wunderlist for creating lists. Wife and I have shared lists for shopping, movies, books. I keep book lists, have a shared book list with my brother, and many other useful lists.

Bonus: Go do last week’s TMI questions that were posted on Friday. Great questions!

1. You are going to make a sexy weekend with your lover. Which one are you most likely to enjoy? Which of the activities is most likely to happen?
a. Cook dinner together
b. Play a sexy game
c. Take a bath together

Most likely to happen; cooking together. Wife and I work really well together in the kitchen most of the time, and I really enjoy our time when we do. Most likely to enjoy; taking a bath together. We so rarely get the chance to take baths together, but when we do it is such amazingly simple intimacy that I cherish them.

2. Will you watch porn this weekend? Alone or with someone?
I will likely watch some porn on Wife's Twitter feed which I actually really enjoy, though I may not put much emphasis on that. So yeah, EMPHASIS! *grins*

3. Sexy games–pick one you’d like to play? Why?
a. Naked twister or
b. Strip trivial pursuit
I don't think I would enjoy Naked Twister, not being of the nudity, but because I am horribly inflexible and would likely hurt myself playing. I would rather play Strip Trivial Pursuit, that sounds more fun.

3. Friday night you hit happy hour, you meet a super sexy woman/man and the two of you chat and laugh the night away. She/he leans into you and says, “You’re irresistible, can I touch your pussy/cock?’ What is your answer?
First I have to say I would likely be flabbergasted and blown away that someone would actually be interested in me (low self esteem issues, no hating). Secondly I would like to think that I would say yes, but I don't know if I would be too in shock to not be timid about it. Time will tell I guess, right?

4. What do you really have planned for the weekend?
Sadly the first thing I have to do is work on Saturday morning, but then camping with Wife and friend/s. Outdoor sex. Maybe movie on Sunday?

5. Does this TMI on a Friday have you changing your weekend plans?
Yes! I totally plan on looking into our gaming closet to see which games can be converted into sexy stripping games.

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TMI Tuesday: September 5, 2017

There were no TMI Tuesday questions posted today, so I decided to go back in time and answer some questions that I missed. These are from May 16, 2017.




Wife:
1. If you and your significant other played “sexual truth or dare” with other couples, would you rather watch your s.o. have sex with someone or would you prefer having sex with someone in front of your s.o.?
I would rather us both be having sex if we were both present. I know that isn't the question though. So, my answer is that I would rather be the one having sex. The first reason being that I love sex and always want it. The second reason being that I know Husband enjoys watching me have sex with other people.

2. Would you rather watch your favorite porn with your sibling or read your favorite sexy erotica out loud to your parent(s)?
I would probably want to read erotica to my parents. My mom passed away, but when she was alive, we talked about sex all the time. She told me things about her sex life and gave me tips on mine. I was always open about sex with her. My dad is just like me. He's addicted to sex and is constantly thinking about it. I didn't meet him until I was like 26 though. I am pretty sure I wouldn't care about reading erotica to him.

3. To get sexually aroused, would you rather watch girl on girl porn or guy on guy porn?
I love guy on guy porn! It's fucking hot as hell. There's just something really sexy about seeing a man get fucked by another man. I also love watching men suck cock. Almost every girl on girl porn that I've seen just looks fake and overdone. Girl on girl porn is just made for men to fantasize over. It's not realistic or sexy.

4. Would you rather have sex with your boss, in an office conference room or masturbate at home knowing that your neighbor is watching?
Well, I don't have a boss. If I did, though, I would definitely want to get fucked by him/her. That's actually a really big fantasy of mine. Having the boss bend me over the desk and fuck me. OMG, YES!

5. Based on your current mood, would you rather try out new and kinky sex ideas or have romantic sex?
I almost always prefer kinky sex and I love to try new things.


Bonus: Would you rather have three kids and no money or no kids with three million dollars?
Oh goodness. I hate the thought of not having my kid but I also hate the idea of having two more kids. Ugh. This question sucks. The money doesn't even really factor into my decision because money isn't that important to me. Alright, I think I have to go with no kids. I don't think I could handle three. I would lose my mind.


Husband:
1. If you and your significant other played “sexual truth or dare” with other couples, would you rather watch your s.o. have sex with someone or would you prefer having sex with someone in front of your s.o.?

I would rather watch Wife with someone else. Once I got over being nervous about it, I am sure I would enjoy watching and hearing her enjoy herself.

2. Would you rather watch your favorite porn with your sibling or read your favorite sexy erotica out loud to your parent(s)?

I would rather watch my favorite porn with my sibling/s than read anything erotic to my parents. My parents have always shied away from anything sexual as far back as I can remember. I never got a talk about the"birds and the bees", wet dreams, puberty in general. Anytime sex is mentioned they seem to withdraw, specifically my mom.

3. To get sexually aroused, would you rather watch girl on girl porn or guy on guy porn?

I would rather watch girl on girl porn. I have not seen enough good guy on guy porn for that option to be valid for me.

4. Would you rather have sex with your boss, in an office conference room or masturbate at home knowing that your neighbor is watching?

This is a loaded question for me. All my bosses are men that I do not find attractive in the least bit, and I don't think I would be able to masturbate knowing a neighbor is watching me.

5. Based on your current mood, would you rather try out new and kinky sex ideas or have romantic sex?

Probably new and/or kinky sex ideas. I would enjoy either, but lately my brain has been going more towards playing with new things than romantic sex. I do miss the romantic sex from time to time though.


Bonus: Would you rather have three kids and no money or no kids with three million dollars?

I would rather have three kids with no money. Being a father has been one of the most amazing inspirational things I have ever been part of. I cannot imagine giving that up for anything.

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Dreaming of Jack

I am trying to recover from a terrible plague that my nephew gave me at the moment. I will spare you the details. All I'm going to say is that I'm not sleeping much at night. I toss and turn in a horrible fog of uncomfortable insomnia. Somehow, in the middle of this fog, I managed to have a very hot dream last night.

There's this man, Jack, that has me pretty fucking smitten. We've been internet acquaintances for quite some time but we've been getting closer over the last month and a half. He inspired this sexy dream, so thank you, Jack.


I was driving to the airport to pick him up. His plane would be landing soon and I was filled with so much anxiety. Not just nervousness about meeting him for the first time, but also because I hate airports. They are confusing and overwhelming. I drove around freaking out and hoping that I would be able to find him without much hassle. I would be incredibly embarrassed if I got lost. Then, I saw him. He was standing there on the curb in all of his sexy glory. A smile spread across my face and I couldn't contain my excitement. I pulled up next to him, jumped out of the car, and tackled him with a huge hug. The hug turned into a small make-out session until we snapped out of it and realized that we can't just stand here all day.

We got into the car and I started to drive. I glanced down at Jack's crotch and realized that his cock was very hard. Oh, the excitement I felt at that moment was overwhelming. I found a private area and parked the car. I couldn't wait any longer to taste him. I looked him in the eyes and said, "Pull your cock out." I heard his breath catch in his throat and his eyes ignited with passion. I licked his cock from the tip all the way down the shaft, getting it nice and lubed up with my spit. Then, I took his cock deep into my mouth. It tasted as good as I had imagined. Jack ran his hand through my hair as I continued to suck his cock. I moaned in response, which caused him to moan as well. He started to breathe more heavily and said, "I want to fuck your throat." I moaned again, then I deep throated his big cock. I bobbed up and down, shoving his cock deep into my throat over and over again. I felt the tears start to fall down my cheeks. I could tell he was getting close, so I fought against my gag reflex and kept going. He moaned out, "Oh fuck, I'm going to cum!" I moaned around his cock as he shot his load down my throat. I sat up, wiped my mouth, and licked my fingers. I looked him in the eyes again and said, "Mmmm, yummy."

I quickly got back on the road so that we could get to the hotel and fuck. The need for his cock inside my pussy was intense. When we got there, we didn't even bother bringing anything in with us. There was no time for that. We went to the desk, checked in, and then hurried to the room. As soon as the door closed behind us, Jack grabbed me and pinned me to the wall. He kissed me hard, pressing his erection against me so that I could feel how much he wanted me. Our tongues tangled together in a desperate dance for more. Every flick of his tongue in my mouth was intoxicating. His kiss was driving me mad. He moved down to my neck and started to lick, suck, and bite it. I felt like I couldn't breathe. I was so turned on. I moaned and fought to get my hands free. When he let go, I wrapped my arms around him, grabbed his ass, and pulled him hard into my hips. I whispered into his ear, "I need you inside me. Right. NOW." He moaned, "Fuck, yes!" He grabbed my arms and led me to the bed where we began to hastily take each other's clothes off. He pushed me down on the bed, mounted me, and looked me in the eyes. His gaze was like fire. I bit my lip in anticipation. He slowly slid his cock into my very wet pussy. I wrapped my legs around him tightly, trying to pull him in deeper. He fucked me harder, hitting my g-spot with every stroke. I could feel my pussy juice dripping down my ass. I moaned, "Fuck! You fill me up so well. I love it!" I was getting so close. I reached down and started to rub my clit. He moaned and started to fuck me even harder. He felt my pussy tighten around his cock and said, "I need you to cum for me, Ash." I couldn't hold it back any longer. I exploded all over him. As soon as he felt my release, he shot his load deep into my pussy while moaning my name. Mmmm. It was so fucking hot.

We both collapsed on the bed. Jack reached out for me and pulled me close to him. I put my head on his chest and he held me close. At the same time, we both said, "That was amazing."

TMI Tuesday - August 29, 2017

It’s sexy time! Today is the day, the day you decide to play TMI Tuesday.



Wife:
1. Have you ever had sex in the changing room of a store?
I have never had sex in a changing room at a store but I have masturbated in one. It is definitely a fantasy that's on my bucket list to do though.

2. Ever blindfolded your partner for sex or have you been blindfolded during sex?
Yes to both. I'm not the biggest fan of the blindfold thing. Mostly because it distracts me. It feels so uncomfortable on my eyes and I just keep thinking about how I'd rather take it off. That ends up ruining any sexiness that's going on. I'm still open to trying it when my partner wants to. I haven't blindfolded my partners much. I guess it's just not really my thing.

3. Who out there likes to be tied up for sex?
I love being tied up. Having sex while tied up is very hot. I also like to be tied up while we cuddle and watch a movie. I just love rope and being restrained. I also love handcuffs during sex because I think they hurt more on my wrists, which really turns me on. I like to fight against my restraints.

4. Shower sex…yea or nay? Why?
I love foreplay in the shower. Making out, kissing/touching each other's wet bodies, oral sex, etc. I don't really like actual intercourse in the shower because, interestingly, water has a way of making the vagina dry.

5. Ever done a striptease for a lover?
Yes. The first time I did this, my lover laughed at me. A lot. He was just an asshole but it really scarred me. It took me years before I felt comfortable enough to try it again. I have done it for Husband quite a few times. I've also done it for my ex-girlfriend, Kirsten and Husband's ex-boyfriend, Trystan.

Bonus: What are you thinking?
That I really wish I had a FWB that could come over and keep me company on Friday night. I have a few free hours and I'd love to spend them getting fucked.



Husband:
1. Have you ever had sex in the changing room of a store?

I have not had sex in the changing room of a store, even though it sounds really hot to fuck in such a public place as this. The possibility of getting caught and being tagged forever as a sex offender generally keeps me from exploring sex in public.

2. Ever blindfolded your partner for sex or have you been blindfolded during sex?

I have blindfolded Wife a few times during foreplay, because I enjoy the tension I hear in her voice when she is talking to me when I get toys that I want to play with on her. I enjoy that little hint of fear that she has, because she has to trust me. I think the only time we have actually kept the blindfold on during sex was because the lights were on and I wanted to see the things I was doing to her body.

I think Wife has blindfolded me during foreplay once or twice, but not while we were actually fucking.

3. Who out there likes to be tied up for sex?

I have been tied up for sex a few times. I have had some really unpleasant experiences in the past with a previous partner which has made it difficult to enjoy being tied up during sex often. The few times Wife has tied me up it has been during foreplay, I do not believe we have actually had sex while I was tied up.

I do very much enjoy tying my wife up before and during sex. I enjoy watching her helpless, again knowing that she has to and does trust me. This is something that I think will have to happen again soon.

4. Shower sex…yea or nay? Why?

Yea; with the right shower. With the shower we have; nay. Our shower is too small, too cramped, too just not quite right for most sexy things. That hasn't stopped us from having fun and playing anyways. Plus also, I always get turned on when we shower together, especially if I get to wash her and get her all soapy and wet.

5. Ever done a striptease for a lover?

I believe I have, a few times. I'm strange in that I feel completely comfortable once I am nude, but I don't always feel fantastic about my body getting to that point. Though, now that I have some sexy underthings for my nether regions I will probably feel more inclined to do this in the future.

Bonus: What are you thinking?

I am thinking about how Wife was a very good girl last night, but we talked about doing naughty things while she was being good. I am thinking about all those dirty things that I want to do to her. I am also thinking about my birthday spankings that I am to receive later this week.

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Playing With My Food and Getting Punished

Ever since Friday, I've been super spunky almost to the point of being bratty. Husband has been tolerating it but taking note of it (honestly, he's been loving it). Today, he decided that he'd had enough and said, "You've been teasing me all day and you're spunky as hell. You're getting a spanking when I get back home. Be ready for it. Also, you better have something inside you by the time I get back. Bonus points for creativity." Oh my, I was so excited. My mind felt all jumbled. I looked around the room thinking about what I should put inside me. Which hole should I fill? It would be too easy to put something in my mouth. Besides, if I did that, he'd probably punish me more for being so cheeky. I thought about putting something in my ass. After all, that would excite him the most. We don't really have any really good butt plugs though. I quickly decided that I should just fill my pussy. I ran around my bedroom trying to find something good. I only had about 10 minutes and I already wasted 3 of those minutes trying to decide what hole to choose. I rummaged through drawers and shelves but I couldn't find anything good in there. Sure, there are a lot of sex toys to choose from but that wouldn't be very creative. I gave up on the bedroom and went to the kitchen. Surely I could find something in there. I looked in the drawers but nothing caught my attention. I looked in the pantry and thought, "What would I find in here?!" I was stumped. Then, it hit me. I had a very creative idea that made me giggle. I opened the refrigerator, checked in the vegetable drawer, and hoped to see a cucumber. Damn, no such luck. Apparently they had all been eaten. Then, I saw a bag of carrots. Brilliant!

I grabbed the biggest carrot in the bag and ran to the sink to wash it off. The carrot was so very cold and I was hoping that the hot water would warm it up. I ran back to the bedroom with the carrot, jumped on the bed, took a deep breath, and slowly slid it inside my pussy, which was already very wet. While the hot water had taken the chill off the outside of the carrot, it was still very cold inside and I could feel all of that coldness transferring. It was so cold but I just took a deep breath and decided to tough it out. I closed my legs to hide the carrot and waited for Husband to come home. When he walked into the bedroom, I couldn't stop giggling. I had amused myself so much and I just couldn't hide it. He asked me which hole I filled and I told him. Then, he told me to open my legs and show him. When he saw it, his eyes lit up. I think it was a combination of being shocked, amused, and turned on all at the same time. He said, "Well, now I have to fuck you with this carrot." Then, he proceeded to slip the carrot in and out of my pussy, slowly. It sounded very wet and he moaned, "Mmmm, I love that sound." After he had fucked me with the carrot for a while, he took it out and said, "This looks like a very tasty carrot." He took a big bite of it and I asked, "How does it taste?" He responded with, "Delicious." Then, he put the carrot back inside my pussy and fucked it some more. When he took it out again, he put it in my face and said, "Taste it." So, I took a big bite as well. Pussy and carrot. It's an interesting combination.

Husband told me that it was time for my spanking and that I needed to get into position. So, I got up and bent over the bed. He started smacking my ass lightly with his strong hands. Slowly, he progressed to harder smacks. I started to moan out. He said, "You need something inside your ass while I do this." I groaned, "But I don't want to." He said, "Well, since you were so creative with the carrot, I'll let you decide." So, I asked if he could put something in my pussy instead. He asked, "Can I put the glass cock in there?" So, I put my ass up in the air and spread my legs. He moaned, "Good girl" and ran his fingers through my hair. I melted into a pile of goo at that moment. He slipped the toy inside my pussy and grabbed a paddle. He smacked my ass with it and then he started hitting my back with it as well. It was stingy and thuddy all at the same time. Next, he grabbed the cane bundle and started hitting me with that on my calves, moving up to my thighs, then to my ass. He hit me on my back really hard over and over. I moaned and squirmed around. Then, he spanked my ass with that for a long time. He started to use his hands again, which very much pleased me. As my ass started to hurt more and more as he continued to beat it, I squirmed around a lot. That caused him to grab a handful of my hair and pull. I tried to stop squirming but it hurt so bad...er, good. As he hit me really hard, I could feel the toy pushing on my g-spot. I moaned every time he hit me, which caused him to hit me even more. My ass was hurting so much that it started to go numb.

After an hour of spanking me, I told him that I wanted his cock in my pussy instead of that toy. So, he took the toy out and shoved his cock in hard. As he fucked me, I felt his body pressing against my sore ass and it felt so amazing. I told him to fuck me even harder, so he did. I could feel his cock ramming inside me over and over again. Fuck, it felt so good my knees were going weak. I asked him to cum on my ass. He said, "If I cum on your ass, I'm going to fuck you more after I cum." I moaned, "Yes, do it!" He fucked me so hard that he was forcing moans out of my body. Then, he pulled out and came all over my asshole. It felt so warm and gooey. Mmmm. He started to fuck me again and told me to play with my clit and make myself cum. I started to rub my clit and felt that I was already so close to cumming. My hand kept cramping up as soon as I was about to climax. I told him I needed a toy, so he grabbed a vibrator. I put the vibrator on my clit and he proceeded to finger fuck me. Oh god, I needed that so bad. Husband rammed his fingers into my g-spot over and over again while I held the vibrator to my clit. It took about 30 seconds and I was cumming all over his hand. It was such an intense orgasm.

An hour later, Husband was sitting on the couch playing a video game. When I walked into the room, he looked at me and took a big bite of that carrot and smiled. Since our daughter was sitting close by, I couldn't say anything about it. I just smiled and blushed. He finished eating that whole carrot and I had no regrets about choosing it.

TMI Tuesday: August 22, 2017

It's TMI Tuesday!
"The Psychology of Sex"



Me:
1. For you, can sex be separated from love?
Sex isn't connected to love in my brain. Most of the time, sex is just for pleasure. Pleasure for myself and pleasure for my partner. Every once in a while, Husband and I feel very connected and have a sex session that would probably be described as "making love." That kind of sex is softer and feels very much like a combining of our souls. About 95% of the time, we have rough kinky sex and that doesn't have anything to do with our love for each other.

2. Can sex be separated from caring?
I cannot separate sex from caring. I am not a fan of casual sex. I have to have a connection with someone in some way to have sex with them. It obviously doesn't have to be love but there should at least be a friendship established before I will want to have sex with them. If I don't care about you, then I most definitely don't want to fuck you.

3. Men: Does sex seem to be something that you can never get enough of and are constantly seeking or thinking about?
Alright, I know it says men here but this question really resonates with me. I want sex ALL THE TIME. Did we just have sex? That's great, but I want more. More, more, more. Always. I can't get enough sex and I think about it constantly. It is quite overwhelming actually.

4. Women: Is sex secondary to intimacy, physical closeness, and commitment?
Sex is VERY important to me. Those other things are also imporant to me, however, they aren't as big of a deal as sex is. If I'm not having sex regularly with my partner, I feel very disconnected. I also tend to start falling apart mentally if I'm sexually deprived.


5. Who is more discriminating in choosing sexual partners–you or your significant other?
Well, we are both very picky. Though, I definitely crush on people a lot more than he does.

Bonus: Who is more likely to take on additional sexual partners, you or your significant other?
That would be me for sure. There are a few people he crushes on, but for the most part, he doesn't really care if he has sex with people other than me.


Husband:
1. For you, can sex be separated from love?
Sex is separate from love for me. I used to see sex as something that happens when you love someone, but that was more how I was raised. I have come to see love as an intangible thing that can be expressed tangibly through intimacy among other things, but not necessarily through sex. For me sex has become more about lust or desire and fulfilling those things for both myself and Wife.

2. Can sex be separated from caring?
Like Wife, I cannot separate sex from caring. To me sex is linked with intimacy and is a huge dose of touch, which I need. Without sex I don't feel cared for or about, or rather it becomes extremely difficult to feel that I am cared for. The few times I did have sex with someone without caring it felt like it was taking something away from me instead of adding to me.

3. Men: Does sex seem to be something that you can never get enough of and are constantly seeking or thinking about?
Most of the time I am very much not the typical male when it comes to thinking about sex. I don't think about it very often through the day, if at all sometimes. However when I get inspired and turned on mentally by ideas of things I would like to do to Wife, or things Wife tells me she would like me to do, it becomes a burning inside of me that takes over most of my rational thought. There have been times I have been so turned on by thinking about sex that it felt like I was being smothered and unable to breathe. It becomes all consuming and Desire rides rampant in my head and chest.

4. Women: Is sex secondary to intimacy, physical closeness, and commitment?
I am going to answer this one similarly to Wife with the male question. This question resonates with me a lot. Sex is secondary to intimacy and physical closeness to me, but not by too much. If I don't get touched, and feel an intimacy connection I am less likely to initiate sex. Without intimacy and touch, I do not feel desired and have a difficult time fighting through mental issues. The longer I go without touch the harder it is for me to be turned on and want sex. Wife and I dance this line of intimacy and sex better now with me communicating more freely.

5. Who is more discriminating in choosing sexual partners–you or your significant other?
I think that we are both picky about who we want to join either of us in the bedroom, together or singly. Like Wife says, she definitely crushes on people a lot more.

Bonus: Who is more likely to take on additional sexual partners, you or your significant other?
Wife is more likely to take on more partners for sure. It would be fun for me, but isn't a need.


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