TMI Tuesday: October 3, 2017

This week on TMI Tuesday— navigating sex.




Ash:
1. How do you gauge the success of your romantic relationships?
Well, my love language is physical touch, followed very closely by quality time. If my lover touches me often and spends quality time with me, I feel like the relationship is pretty successful. My lover also must be honest and open with me. If not, the relationship will not last.

2. How often do you prefer to talk about sex with your lover?
I love to talk about sex with my lover. It's my favorite thing to talk about. It's a good way to get to know what your lover likes. The only time I don't really like to talk about sex much is during the actual sex itself. My brain gets foggy and I get really caught up in it. So, it's quite hard for me to talk. I do enjoy when my lover throws out some dirty talk though.

3. During sex, what is your top priority?
To please my lover. I want to be sure that they are enjoying it as much as I am.

4. What advice would you like to give your partner to be a better lover? Are you afraid to give that advice?
The only thing I would change about my partner is to have him be more confident in the things that he does, even if he has to fake that confidence until he actually feels confident. Confidence is incredibly sexy and I know he doubts himself a lot. He's amazing in bed and he honestly has no reason to doubt himself. Anxiety is a bitch though. I'm not afraid to give that advice. I've told him that many times over the years.

5. While in the moment of having sex, what is the best way you like to receive feedback from a lover that they are enjoying or are not enjoying sex
a. moans and groans
b. tell me in dirty talk
c. give me direction or be explicit
d. just fuck, tell me later if it was good for you
I will go with "A" because moans and groans definitely excite me. I love hearing my lover make noises because they are enjoying what I'm doing. "B" is a very close second though. Dirty talk is fucking hot. That being said, I would also welcome "C" because giving direction can really be helpful. Especially if I'm having sex with a woman. It can sometimes be hard to make a woman cum because every vagina likes different things done in a different way. So, the first few times I have sex with a woman, a little direction is very helpful.

Bonus: Are you an idiot? Why or why not?
I can't think of any reason why I would be considered an idiot.



Husband:
1. How do you gauge the success of your romantic relationships?
I am having a hard time digesting this question, so I am just going with what I guess this means to me.

I judge the success of my romantic relationship by the attention I get/give, the intimacy shared between us (both physical and emotional), the little things that are done for each other.

2. How often do you prefer to talk about sex with your lover?
I enjoy talking about sex with Wife all the time, it's fun and inspiring and hot.

3. During sex, what is your top priority?
Pleasing my partner. Making them feel wanted, desired, sexy.

4. What advice would you like to give your partner to be a better lover? Are you afraid to give that advice?
I think I miss out on foreplay, and when I say that I don't strictly mean blow jobs, because those have become more frequent. I may be a guy, but I like the touches that build up to actual sex. Making out, hickies, scratches, rubbing, touching. These are things we have talked about though and are working on, so no I am not afraid to tell Wife. I have been in the past though.

5. While in the moment of having sex, what is the best way you like to receive feedback from a lover that they are enjoying or are not enjoying sex
a. moans and groans
b. tell me in dirty talk
c. give me direction or be explicit
d. just fuck, tell me later if it was good for you
I love moans and groans. There have been times before that I have almost got off hearing the noises Wife makes. Audio stimulation of any kind though is incredible and definitely does it for me.

Bonus: Are you an idiot? Why or why not?
I feel like an idiot a lot. I make many mistakes over and over trying to steer myself to the person I would like to be. I know I let down the people I care about more often than I would like.


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