Tuesday, August 22, 2017

TMI Tuesday: August 22, 2017

It's TMI Tuesday!
"The Psychology of Sex"



Me:
1. For you, can sex be separated from love?
Sex isn't connected to love in my brain. Most of the time, sex is just for pleasure. Pleasure for myself and pleasure for my partner. Every once in a while, Husband and I feel very connected and have a sex session that would probably be described as "making love." That kind of sex is softer and feels very much like a combining of our souls. About 95% of the time, we have rough kinky sex and that doesn't have anything to do with our love for each other.

2. Can sex be separated from caring?
I cannot separate sex from caring. I am not a fan of casual sex. I have to have a connection with someone in some way to have sex with them. It obviously doesn't have to be love but there should at least be a friendship established before I will want to have sex with them. If I don't care about you, then I most definitely don't want to fuck you.

3. Men: Does sex seem to be something that you can never get enough of and are constantly seeking or thinking about?
Alright, I know it says men here but this question really resonates with me. I want sex ALL THE TIME. Did we just have sex? That's great, but I want more. More, more, more. Always. I can't get enough sex and I think about it constantly. It is quite overwhelming actually.

4. Women: Is sex secondary to intimacy, physical closeness, and commitment?
Sex is VERY important to me. Those other things are also imporant to me, however, they aren't as big of a deal as sex is. If I'm not having sex regularly with my partner, I feel very disconnected. I also tend to start falling apart mentally if I'm sexually deprived.


5. Who is more discriminating in choosing sexual partners–you or your significant other?
Well, we are both very picky. Though, I definitely crush on people a lot more than he does.

Bonus: Who is more likely to take on additional sexual partners, you or your significant other?
That would be me for sure. There are a few people he crushes on, but for the most part, he doesn't really care if he has sex with people other than me.


Husband:
1. For you, can sex be separated from love?
Sex is separate from love for me. I used to see sex as something that happens when you love someone, but that was more how I was raised. I have come to see love as an intangible thing that can be expressed tangibly through intimacy among other things, but not necessarily through sex. For me sex has become more about lust or desire and fulfilling those things for both myself and Wife.

2. Can sex be separated from caring?
Like Wife, I cannot separate sex from caring. To me sex is linked with intimacy and is a huge dose of touch, which I need. Without sex I don't feel cared for or about, or rather it becomes extremely difficult to feel that I am cared for. The few times I did have sex with someone without caring it felt like it was taking something away from me instead of adding to me.

3. Men: Does sex seem to be something that you can never get enough of and are constantly seeking or thinking about?
Most of the time I am very much not the typical male when it comes to thinking about sex. I don't think about it very often through the day, if at all sometimes. However when I get inspired and turned on mentally by ideas of things I would like to do to Wife, or things Wife tells me she would like me to do, it becomes a burning inside of me that takes over most of my rational thought. There have been times I have been so turned on by thinking about sex that it felt like I was being smothered and unable to breathe. It becomes all consuming and Desire rides rampant in my head and chest.

4. Women: Is sex secondary to intimacy, physical closeness, and commitment?
I am going to answer this one similarly to Wife with the male question. This question resonates with me a lot. Sex is secondary to intimacy and physical closeness to me, but not by too much. If I don't get touched, and feel an intimacy connection I am less likely to initiate sex. Without intimacy and touch, I do not feel desired and have a difficult time fighting through mental issues. The longer I go without touch the harder it is for me to be turned on and want sex. Wife and I dance this line of intimacy and sex better now with me communicating more freely.

5. Who is more discriminating in choosing sexual partners–you or your significant other?
I think that we are both picky about who we want to join either of us in the bedroom, together or singly. Like Wife says, she definitely crushes on people a lot more.

Bonus: Who is more likely to take on additional sexual partners, you or your significant other?
Wife is more likely to take on more partners for sure. It would be fun for me, but isn't a need.


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3 comments:

  1. I love your answers and that you both have replied. I am so with you both on answer one and many of the TMI female bloggers seem to feel that the male question would suit them better - me included - but at the end of the day to be a sex blogger we ARE likely to think about sex a lot.

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    1. Thank you. You have a valid point about that.

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  2. Welcome to TMI, and great answers from both of you. I'm with 'Me' (Wife) on Q#2

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