TMI Tuesday: October 24, 2017

This week, let’s have a look inside your relationship by playing TMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. How much time do you spend taking care of your significant other:
a. More than taking care of myself, more than 60% of my time.
b. About 50% of my time.
c. 10% to 49% … I have kids!
d. Not really any time at all, definitely less than 10% of my time.

I would say C is the most accurate one there, but I think it's on the high end of C.

2. How do you sleep at night?
a. With the whole bed to my myself…yaay!
b. I stay on my own side, someone else on other side.
c. We snuggle–start that way or end up that way.
d. We do not sleep together.

We snuggle. Usually, I am the little spoon. If we stop snuggling, at least one part of our bodies is touching all night.

3. What happens when you or your significant other gets home from work?
a. Stop what you are doing to greet and hug each other
b. Engage in conversation about the day
c. No specific acknowledgement of each other, no specific welcoming gesture but go about a household routine
d. Ignore each other

I know that Husband would like for me to do A, but I don't do that as often as I should. Usually he comes to me and we hug/kiss.

4. How many things about yourself would you change? Share 3 things and tell us why.

I'm not very nice to myself, so I could probably come up with quite a few things I would change. Here are my top 3.
1) I would stop putting myself down all the time. I've stopped doing it so much out loud, but I'm always doing it in my head. I know I don't deserve that, but it's really hard to stop thinking that way.
2) I would get rid of my social anxiety. I am an extrovert that really wants to spend time with other people but I just don't know how to talk to people most of the time. I tend to just hide out in a corner and wish someone would talk to me.
3) I would get rid of my anorexia, stop starving myself, lose weight the healthy way, and actually keep it off. I've tried this so many times but always end up failing.

Bonus: How many things would you change about a current significant other.

Not very many. I would definitely make him think more highly of himself and have more self confidence. I also wish he was a little less introverted because I could really use a partner who wants to go out and be social with me.


Husband:
1. How much time do you spend taking care of your significant other:
a. More than taking care of myself, more than 60% of my time.
b. About 50% of my time.
c. 10% to 49% … I have kids!
d. Not really any time at all, definitely less than 10% of my time.

I would say B. She is incredibly self sufficient, I just have a tendency to help out and do things unasked. I enjoy doing things for her and taking care of her without strings attached.

2. How do you sleep at night?
a. With the whole bed to my myself…yaay!
b. I stay on my own side, someone else on other side.
c. We snuggle–start that way or end up that way.
d. We do not sleep together.

Definitely C. I am usually the first one asleep simply because touch with Wife calms my brain and body without much work on my part. She gives me a quiet mind. For some reason after falling asleep I drift away towards the edge of the bed, and I wish I knew why that was. If I wake up in the middle of the night and we are not touching I will roll over and cuddle until I fall back asleep.

3. What happens when you or your significant other gets home from work?
a. Stop what you are doing to greet and hug each other
b. Engage in conversation about the day
c. No specific acknowledgement of each other, no specific welcoming gesture but go about a household routine
d. Ignore each other

Typically A. I clear my pockets, take off my shoes, then go hug my loved ones, followed by B most of the time. I have been guilty of both C and D when I have been in bad head space.

4. How many things about yourself would you change? Share 3 things and tell us why.

a. The biggest thing I wish I could change would be my confidence level. Most of it is forced and I fake it. I am working on trying to internalize this and make it real though. Not being confident has kept me from living to the fullest.
b. I wish I could summon the motivation to improve my physical self. There are things I would very much like to accomplish, and when I think about them I am really worked up, but when it comes to making time it falls apart. I am not in bad shape, but I want to be in better shape, for my health mostly, for doing things the rest.
c. I wish I could attack confrontation better than ducking around the corner and making a hide in shadows skill check. I definitely do not enjoy taking things head on, but I know this has limited me in dealing with all kinds of issues.

Bonus: How many things would you change about a current significant other.

I wish she could see herself through my eyes. To hear the truth from my lips. She is incredible and amazing. This is the only thing I can think of changing.

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