TMI Tuesday: March 29, 2022

 Upgrade your happiness– play TMI Tuesday, a simple pleasure in life.

Ash:

1. Tell us your top two simple pleasures.

Hmm. Probably masturbation and 90s music. Could be at the same time but not necessarily.

2. You are being offered a day of pleasure but you must choose one of the following to do. Which would you choose?

a. Sex
b. Watching big sports match/game
c. Fun times with good friends

This is kind of a tough one because I am so desperate for a fun time with good friends. I still think the sex wins out though.

3. The sun shining through your window in the morning–annoyance or pleasure?

Major annoyance. I have black-out curtains on my window to keep the sun out. It's like a crypt in my room. Sunlight is a migraine trigger for me, so I try to block it out as much as possible.

Edit: Now that I am reading Husband's response to this, I am feeling bad about it. 

4. If you uttered the words “pleasure me” to your lover, what would you want to happen?

Hands all over my body, then sliding into my panties. Fingers slipping between my labia and rubbing my clitoris. A couple fingers finding their way inside me. All of these things together until you make me cum.

5. Tell us one thing you were most grateful for last week?

Husband was on vacation all week and we got to spend some time together. 

Bonus: What is the last thing you crossed off your bucket list?

The last thing I crossed off my bucket list was getting a piercing I had been wanting for the last ten years. I finally decided to just do it on Saturday afternoon.

Special bonus question–one of life’s mysteries: Are fig newtons cookies or bars? 

Neither. They are actually pastries.

Husband:

1. Tell us your top two simple pleasures.

Two of the simplest pleasures for me are reading and coffee. Reading has ALWAYS been a simple pleasure for me for as long as I can remember, either reading to myself or being read to. Coffee sort of slowly happened, starting in my early twenties and mostly snowballing since then.

2. You are being offered a day of pleasure but you must choose one of the following to do. Which would you choose?

a. Sex
b. Watching big sports match/game
c. Fun times with good friends

I have never been the best at making my desires known, but somehow doing it through written word makes it easier. I'm going to choose a day of pleasure sex. 

3. The sun shining through your window in the morning–annoyance or pleasure?

I think I actually enjoy the sun shining in through the window in the morning. I feel like it makes waking up easier and less of a difficult thing. Besides if I'm still tired and wanting more sleep I can always cover up or close curtains.

4. If you uttered the words “pleasure me” to your lover, what would you want to happen?

This is seriously short-circuiting my brain. My brain is going in so many directions all at once. Flashes of hands and skin touching my body. Glimpses of warm and wet teasing me. Velvety tight places slipping over me. Yes please, I'll take it all.

5. Tell us one thing you were most grateful for last week?

Spending some quality time with Wife. It was sorely needed and I very much enjoyed being there with her.

Bonus: What is the last thing you crossed off your bucket list?

Signing up for more in-depth Scouting leadership opportunities.

Special bonus question–one of life’s mysteries: Are fig newtons cookies or bars?

Bars; either cookie bars or cake bars, wholely delicious.

Take Me From Behind

Slide the thong aside, grab hold of my hips, and fuck me as hard as you can. As you do that, I’ll be sure to pleasure my clit so I can cum along with you. That’s my favorite thing to do on Sinful Sundays such as this.

Kiss the lips below to see who else is sinning today.

TMI Tuesday: March 22, 2022

 This week TMI Tuesday wants to know– are you a cheat?

1. Have you ever cheated at a board game? Why?

I have attempted to cheat before but failed at it. I'm not capable of lying. So much so that it's kind of a running joke in my family. Even if I attempt to lie or cheat, my face will either give me away or I will snitch on myself because it gives me anxiety. There's actually a Monopoly: Cheaters Edition game that I tried to play with my family and I lost so bad that it just made me frustrated and angry. I hate that game more than any other game I've ever played before.

2. Which board game are you unbeatable?

I don't think I'm really great at any board game in particular. I do enjoy playing them though. Aren't board games usually just about luck anyway?

3. Which mythological creature would be your worst roommate?

A pixie. They are mischievous little pranksters. I'm definitely not the best sport when it comes to pranks. I am sensitive and get my feelings hurt easily.

4. Give us a three-song playlist. You can link to the songs if you wish.

Hmmm. I think I'll pick three of my favorite songs from my Sex Me Up playlist.

1) Sextape by Deftones

2) Desire by Meg Myers

3) I Get Off by Halestorm

I think those three songs say a lot about who I am.

5. What famous person have you met or been within a few feet of (music concerts and book signings do not count).

I'm pretty sure I've only met famous people at concerts (meet and greets) and book/album signings. So, I guess I don't really have a good answer for this. 

Bonus: Is a hot dog a sandwich?

Hmm, I think a hot dog is more of a taco than a sandwich. Especially if you add lots of toppings.

Sinful Sunday: Come and Get Me

The look on my face in this photo makes me smile. That's my "Come and get me" look right there. The look I give when I want you on top of me, all over me, inside me. That sinful look that's perfect for Sinful Sunday.

Photo Credit: Blood Moon Studios

Five Things: Impact Play

Yesterday, I wrote about how I'm not really into real punishment. While that is true, I AM very much into being beaten. Impact play is one of my most enjoyed kinks. The scenes I participate in are never forms of punishment though. Then again, I'm not sure I'd say it is funishment either. It's just...different. Impact play can trigger the release of endorphins and dopamine, which makes people feel good after the scene is done. It can also leave beautiful marks on your body if you're into that kind of thing. Impact play can also get you into subspace, though it has never done that for me. I've been close though!

My first in-person exposure to impact play was at a kinky house party. I watched someone get tied to a Saint Andrew's cross and get flogged. Later, I saw someone on a spanking bench getting beat with lots of kinky toys. It excited me and scared me at the same time. I knew I needed to try it. 

I reached out to the person who was doing the flogging and got some tips about how to do it safely, then I had to convince Husband that we should try it. He was not loving the idea of hitting me with things. We actually attended several other kinky house parties before he felt up for trying it. We started slowly with a flogger that Jacob bought for us. It felt really good but he was definitely taking it too easy on me.

Eventually, over time, he got more into it and started leaving marks, which I was super excited about. I even tried it on him a few times but I found that I am just not capable of being the one to inflict the pain. It is very uncomfortable for me. Then, Husband decided that he just wasn't that into being beaten anyway, so it worked out. 

Over the next few years, we started adding more and more fun things to our big black bag of kinky toys. Floggers, riding crops, belts, paddles, bats, paint stirring sticks, bamboo sticks, a bundle cane, and many pervertables from around the house. After experimenting with it, I realized that I much prefer the "thuddy" feel over the "stingy" feel. So, most of our toys are things that impact with a thud. I still think my favorite thing to be hit with, though, is a bare hand.

For a long time, we would only do impact play in the privacy of our own home. We even talked often about getting our own spanking bench. A few times, though, we've done it at a party. I liked the exhibitionist part of that but honestly, I couldn't get into the zone as much. It's too loud and there are too many distractions. I'm still into that as something I will do occasionally for fun but I prefer a private scene most of the time. 

One thing you absolutely must make sure you have after an impact scene is aftercare. Aftercare is when you nurture the sub. The sub will feel very vulnerable after a scene and needs to be taken care of. Get them water, cover them with a blanket, cuddle them, play with their hair, anything to make them feel good. It's about providing physical comfort and offering emotional support. I've had people in the past who didn't offer me aftercare and it was a horrible experience. It's definitely important.

My favorite part about impact play is the marks that are left afterward. The beautiful purple bruises! I don't mark up easily, unfortunately. So, I really have to take a good beating for them to pop up. It's something I feel proud of. Like, I was super strong and made it through that. It makes me feel good. I also really like to show them off to others who are into it. I so wish I had some new marks to show off to you right now. Oh well, you'll just have to settle for this old photo, with a bonus dildo between my legs.

Impact play used to be something we would do at least once every two months, however, Husband hasn't been into it for the last few years. I haven't gotten a clear answer from him as to why that has changed but it's been quite a while since the last time we did it and I miss it so much. I've thought about looking for a play partner who I could trust to have a scene with. I've done that a few times in the past, so I think I should try it again. I would much rather do it with Husband though. Hopefully, he will want to do it again some day.

KOTW: Punishment

The Kink of the Week topic is punishment. Molly went on to say that for this topic, we are talking about real punishment and not faux-punishment (funishment).  Also, the Wicked Wednesday prompt is Breaking Rules, so that kind of fits in with this topic here.

At one time, I thought that real punishment was something I would be very into. I get a lot of enjoyment out of breaking the rules and thinking about getting punished for that excites me. Husband and I used to play with this in the past. He would ask if I ate that day or drank enough water or did something else he asked me to do, and if I hadn't done those things, I'd get spankings. It really bordered on that edge of punishment and "funishment" but I don't think it quite crossed that line into seriousness. It can be hard to find where that line is though.

I fantasize about having a Daddy that spanks me when I've been naughty and broke the rules he made for me but it would definitely have to be in a fun way. Thinking about it gets me really turned on but I know if it got too real, I'd have to use a safe word. Sometimes I feel kind of bratty during sex, so when Husband tells me to do something, I tell him no. Then, he might spank me or do something forceful but it's definitely in fun. It's not a real punishment.

It's been a very long time since this last happened but sometimes, when I get extremely depressed, I crave a very intense impact play session where I just get the crap beat out of me. Honestly, though, that's just a form of self-harm that I can feel less guilty about. It's not really about punishment at all. It's more of a coping mechanism. Probably an unhealthy one.

So, after trying it out a bit, I have found that even though I do enjoy breaking the rules a lot of the time, I really can't handle serious punishment at all. Not only do I not enjoy the lack of control I feel, but it basically just causes me to get angry and sad. This is because it transports me back to my childhood which was extremely abusive. It quickly turns into something much more serious and puts me in a place mentally that I really don't want to be.

So, in conclusion, while I like the initial thought of it, real punishment is not my kink. It is not for me. I'm much more into "funishment" instead. Let's just roleplay that I've been a bad girl who broke the rules and give me all the spankings that I secretly enjoy. Yum.

      

TMI Tuesday: March 15, 2022

Writing made easy–play TMI Tuesday.

1. When you need to get serious good writing done, where do you go?

I used to go to the library before the pandemic happened. Something about writing smut while sitting in the library just really turned me on.

2. Where do you look for inspiration to write?

My sex life, when it's a lot hotter than it has been. Haha.

3. If you could add anything to your office what would it be?

An actual private space? Right now my desktop computer is in the middle of the house but I'd love to have my own office space to get writing done. Then, I'd probably masturbate while writing as well.

4. Are you an app calendar/planner (ie., g-cal, outlook) kind of person or do you still prefer a physical planner?

I very much rely on my google calendar to keep me on track. 

5. When you jot down notes do you use pen and paper or put it into an electronic device (tablet, smart phone, etc)

My notes usually go in my phone. It's just easier that way and then I know I won't lose them.

Bonus: March 15 is National Shoe World day. a holiday that illuminates the need for quality footwear for millions of people around the world who go without. What quality pair of shoes would you pick to gift to someone? Post a link or pic.

Well, I just got these shoes in purple and I absolutely love them. 

Sinful Sunday: Show and Tell

It's my first time joining in for the SWAP with Floss meme. This week's prompt is Show and Tell. I used to love show and tell when I was a kid, so I figured this was a good time to jump in.

When I thought about what I'd like to share, I thought a toy would be fun. There's one toy that I love that I haven't talked about before. My Lovense Nora bluetooth rabbit vibrator.

A fan bought this for me last year so that they could enjoy some long-distance playtime with me. I am very picky about toys, so I wasn't sure that I would really like this one. I've never had a rabbit vibrator that I really enjoyed before. But let me tell you, this thing is amazing. The first time I played with it, I orgasmed in less than a minute.

I've thought about offering up playtime on the OF for tips but I'm not sure anyone would be interested. Maybe if I get the nerve up, I'll put some feelers out to see if anyone would like that idea. For now, though, I'll just continue to enjoy it alone.

      

Sinful Sunday: Symmetry

The March prompt for Sinful Sunday is symmetry. I originally had a different idea for this prompt but then this idea popped in my head and I couldn’t get it out of my mind. So, here it is. Sexy symmetry in the shower.

      

TMI Tuesday: March 1, 2022

Life, it is what it is. And what it is, is TMI Tuesday!

1. Covid dating behavior:

– Are you choosier?

Hah! I was picky before Covid. I got even pickier since Covid. 

– Are you less choosey?

I'm slowly starting to branch out and be less picky due to constantly being ghosted by people.

– Are you more frank and upfront about what you want?

I've always been very upfront about what I want. I think that's why people have said that I'm intimidating. I don't mean to be though. 

2. What is stable in your life? Answer Yes or No as in “yes, this is stable” or “no this is not stable”. Elaborate if you wish.

– Job

If by job, you mean my 20 different volunteer roles that I can't say no to, then yes. The jobs themselves are stable but myself? Nah, not really. I'm losing my mind.

– Finances

Yes, we are in a good place financially.

– Romantic relationship

Hmm. Not really.

– Economy of your country

Nope.

– Mental health

Hahahaha. Definitely not. My anxiety is mostly controlled now but my depression is consuming me.

– Physical health

It's not great since I had Covid but some things have gotten better in the last 6 months with my long covid symptoms. I'm currently trying to lose weight with a friend, so we will see how that goes. Hopefully, it makes things better.

3. Have you lived in a different country than the one you were born? Did you have to learn the language?

I have never been out of the United States, unfortunately. I'd love to move to a different country though. It's on my list of things to do.

4. Can you speak any other languages?

I used to speak a bit of French but once I stopped using it, I lost it. I can still sing the alphabet though!

5. How do you manage your fears?

With drugs. I take anxiety meds every day to try to deal with my fears. Sometimes they work well and sometimes not so much.

Bonus: What would you pick to add to your coffee, Baileys, Amaretto, or Whisky/Whiskey?

How about Kahlúa?