KOTW: Biting

Bite mark left by DJ

The Kink of the Week topic is biting. I have a complicated relationship with biting. Both giving and receiving. So, buckle in while I take you on a ride to explain it.

I used to absolutely love biting people. In fact, as a teenager, I used to bite a lot of my guy friends just to tease them. It was just a fun consensual thing between us. I even bit Husband a lot during the first few years of our relationship. He really loved it. I think it was one of his favorite things. I even still get the urge to bite sometimes when I see the smooth bare neck of someone that I'm attracted to.

I’m not sure when it happened but the sensation of biting skin started to feel bad on my teeth, like a dislike of the texture. I can’t even explain it but it just makes me feel icky. So, now, I will bite if asked but I don’t enjoy it. I hate that I don’t enjoy it anymore and I’m hoping that I outgrow it eventually. 

As far as having my own body bitten, that’s complicated as well. How much pain I enjoy is dependent upon a lot of things. For example, my menstrual cycle even affects it. If it's near my period, my skin is more sensitive so I really hate it. If I'm feeling more depressed, I love the extra pain. If I have been very anxious, I fall somewhere in the middle. That makes things complicated for my partner since they have to check with me about how I'm feeling before really attacking me with their teeth.

If everything lines up, I do enjoy being bitten but it also depends on the location on my body and the pressure of the bite. I really like my neck to be bitten but if it's too hard, it gives me anxiety. It sounds a bit different but I like having my arm bitten sometimes. Especially when my partner just grabs my arm and takes a bite. The skin is thicker there, so you can apply more pressure and it doesn't hurt as much.

There are a few places that are always a no when it comes to biting. Breasts, nipples, thighs, and labia are a hard no when it comes to being bitten hard. It's just way too sensitive. I do like nibbles though. Give me all the soft nibbles, please.

To be honest, it's more about the tongue for me than the teeth. I love soft sensations across my body. That drives me wild. That's a sure way to get me very wet.

When my partner bites me, I love admiring the marks left behind. I get butterflies in my tummy every time I feel the soreness or see the bruises. It reminds me about what happened and turns me on. It also makes me feel sexy because people can look at that and know that I've been being naughty. Mmmm.

So, when do I love to be bitten? During a rough/intense scene with power exchange, as long as it has been agreed upon before it takes place. During these scenes, I enjoy it but I'm also usually fighting a lot of urge to push my partner away and make them stop. So, having a safe word is a must. I also melt every time I'm being fucked from behind and I get bitten on the back of my neck. Unf. Soooo good. I think I ALWAYS enjoy that one. Licking, sucking, biting my neck as I get fucked. Yessss, I need that so much.

To sum it up, what I like is communication. Let's talk about it first so we have an idea about what each other likes. I just want to please my partner and I hope that my partner wants to please me. That's what it's all about.

Five Things: Impact Play

Yesterday, I wrote about how I'm not really into real punishment. While that is true, I AM very much into being beaten. Impact play is one of my most enjoyed kinks. The scenes I participate in are never forms of punishment though. Then again, I'm not sure I'd say it is funishment either. It's just...different. Impact play can trigger the release of endorphins and dopamine, which makes people feel good after the scene is done. It can also leave beautiful marks on your body if you're into that kind of thing. Impact play can also get you into subspace, though it has never done that for me. I've been close though!

My first in-person exposure to impact play was at a kinky house party. I watched someone get tied to a Saint Andrew's cross and get flogged. Later, I saw someone on a spanking bench getting beat with lots of kinky toys. It excited me and scared me at the same time. I knew I needed to try it. 

I reached out to the person who was doing the flogging and got some tips about how to do it safely, then I had to convince Husband that we should try it. He was not loving the idea of hitting me with things. We actually attended several other kinky house parties before he felt up for trying it. We started slowly with a flogger that Jacob bought for us. It felt really good but he was definitely taking it too easy on me.

Eventually, over time, he got more into it and started leaving marks, which I was super excited about. I even tried it on him a few times but I found that I am just not capable of being the one to inflict the pain. It is very uncomfortable for me. Then, Husband decided that he just wasn't that into being beaten anyway, so it worked out. 

Over the next few years, we started adding more and more fun things to our big black bag of kinky toys. Floggers, riding crops, belts, paddles, bats, paint stirring sticks, bamboo sticks, a bundle cane, and many pervertables from around the house. After experimenting with it, I realized that I much prefer the "thuddy" feel over the "stingy" feel. So, most of our toys are things that impact with a thud. I still think my favorite thing to be hit with, though, is a bare hand.

For a long time, we would only do impact play in the privacy of our own home. We even talked often about getting our own spanking bench. A few times, though, we've done it at a party. I liked the exhibitionist part of that but honestly, I couldn't get into the zone as much. It's too loud and there are too many distractions. I'm still into that as something I will do occasionally for fun but I prefer a private scene most of the time. 

One thing you absolutely must make sure you have after an impact scene is aftercare. Aftercare is when you nurture the sub. The sub will feel very vulnerable after a scene and needs to be taken care of. Get them water, cover them with a blanket, cuddle them, play with their hair, anything to make them feel good. It's about providing physical comfort and offering emotional support. I've had people in the past who didn't offer me aftercare and it was a horrible experience. It's definitely important.

My favorite part about impact play is the marks that are left afterward. The beautiful purple bruises! I don't mark up easily, unfortunately. So, I really have to take a good beating for them to pop up. It's something I feel proud of. Like, I was super strong and made it through that. It makes me feel good. I also really like to show them off to others who are into it. I so wish I had some new marks to show off to you right now. Oh well, you'll just have to settle for this old photo, with a bonus dildo between my legs.

Impact play used to be something we would do at least once every two months, however, Husband hasn't been into it for the last few years. I haven't gotten a clear answer from him as to why that has changed but it's been quite a while since the last time we did it and I miss it so much. I've thought about looking for a play partner who I could trust to have a scene with. I've done that a few times in the past, so I think I should try it again. I would much rather do it with Husband though. Hopefully, he will want to do it again some day.

Sinful Sunday: Bruised

I went out with G on Friday night. I decided to go to his house afterwards and we had a scene. He beat my ass and left some pretty marks.




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Pain Is a Nice Reminder

Husband and I had a date night Friday. We went to dinner and then to a movie theatre for Rocky Horror Picture Show. We had a great time. When we got home that night, Husband spanked my ass. I'm still sore today but there aren't very many marks. I don't know why my ass doesn't mark well but it's very frustrating. I assure you, this hurt way more than it looks.



After Husband spanked my ass for over an hour, he then bent me over and fucked me very hard from behind. Mmmm. That's the best.


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Throwback Tits

Today, I am revisiting some shots of my boobs for Throwback Thursday. These are some of my favorites.








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