TMI Tuesday: December 19, 2017

TMI Tuesday is up! Let’s do this.

How Random




Ash:
1. What was the name of the first person you ever had a crush on? Why did you like them?
I've had crushes since kindergarten, but my first BIG crush was in 6th grade. His name is Tim. He was really sweet, super cute, very funny, and he had long hair. I professed my love to him and told him that I wanted to lose my virginity to him. It freaked him out, of course. So, he broke up with me. I tried to win him back up until 9th grade, then I gave up. I recently saw him at my 15-year high school reunion. Time hasn't been kind to him. I'll just say that I no longer have a crush on him.

2. Which parent do you identify with the most?
I could identify with my mom a lot. She was bisexual and experimented with open relationships, which was really cool to talk about with her. She was very easy going but struggled with depression just like me. My mom was the only person in my family who I could talk to because she was the only one who understood me. I miss her so much. She's been gone for three and a half years now.

3. What food will you absolutely not, under any circumstances, eat?
I could never knowingly eat veal. I would probably feel so guilty that I'd vomit.

4. Would you ever adopt a child?
Yes, I do hope to adopt when my daughter is grown and I am more financially stable.

5. When was the last time you played a board game? What game?
I played Imaginiff with my family on Thanksgiving.

Bonus: What makes you laugh more – dry humor or weird, goofy humor?
I would say that I probably laugh more at dry humor. I'm not easily amused. It takes something really good to make me bust up laughing.



Husband:
1. What was the name of the first person you ever had a crush on? Why did you like them? My first crush was Amanda in 5th grade. I liked her because, after a really crappy week at camp where I was picked on, she consoled me and was nice to me.

2. Which parent do you identify with the most? I honestly have a hard time identifying with either of my parents, but I guess if I had to choose it would be my mom. She feels much more intellectual and in touch with her emotions.

3. What food will you absolutely not, under any circumstances, eat? I am not entirely certain that there is a food that I would not eat. I'm not saying that I could be proven wrong, just that I cannot think of anything off the top of my head.

4. Would you ever adopt a child? It is something that Wife and I discussed and talked about before we were even married or had our daughter. We both hope to one day adopt, I think it would be an amazing thing to give love to a child in need like that.

5. When was the last time you played a board game? What game? I also played Imaginiff with Wife's family on Thanksgiving.

Bonus: What makes you laugh more – dry humor or weird, goofy humor? While I definitely enjoy both kinds of humor, weird and goofy definitely tickles me and makes me laugh the most. I can't help it, I can be very easily amused.
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TMI Tuesday: December 12, 2017

Hi there! TMI Tuesday…

Roll With It!




Ash:
1. With whom would you like to take a bath?
I'd love to take a bath with a woman. I want to feel her soft hands on my body and have her wash my hair, running her fingers through it. I want to lay back on her chest while she holds me from behind. I'd love to wash her body, feeling all of her curves. This is a fantasy I've had for quite a while. I did take a bath with my ex when we stayed in a hotel together but there wasn't much room for the both of us and her wife was in the room as well, so she was distracted. It was mostly just soaking together and not much romantical touching.

2. You are, on a motorcycle, riding hard down a country road, wind in your hair. Who is the hottie on the bike with you? Are you riding or driving?
That sounds hot as fuck. I love motorcycles and I also really love driving around with no purpose. I imagine the driver would be a very sexy person with whom I have a strong sexual chemistry with. As the passenger, I would be sure to hold onto them tightly and press my breasts up against their back. Mmmm.

3. Baking naked–who is kneading your dough? 😉
Oh, please make it be Rachael Ray. I've had a huge crush on her for years. I've had a lot of dreams about us in the kitchen together.

4. Come sail away, come sail away, come and sail away with me! Who is joining you for a sexy sea adventure?
Someone who can make me feel safe and secure because I have a fear of being out in the middle of the ocean where I can't see land. I would probably have a ton of anxiety, so they would really have to work hard to keep me calm.

5. “I got your back.” Hands down who do you fully support, stick by no matter what, Who are you willing to help at all costs?
I will always be here for my husband and daughter no matter what. I'll add my niece and nephew into that as well. At least until they grow up. Then, I'll have to see what kind of people they end up being.

Bonus: Belly button–inny or outty? Are you going to show us? 😀
I have an inny. Sure, I'll show you.




Husband:
1. With whom would you like to take a bath?
I would very much love to take a bath with Wife. We have such a small tub at home and don't often stay anywhere that has a tub for two, it is definitely a luxury that we don't get to indulge often at all. We have plans to return to the hotel we stayed at on our wedding night for our anniversary this year, so there is light at the end of the tunnel!

2. You are, on a motorcycle, riding hard down a country road, wind in your hair. Who is the hottie on the bike with you? Are you riding or driving?
Wife is definitely the hottie with me. I'd love to be the one driving with her arms wrapped tightly around me, but I still have yet to ride on a motorcycle ever and have been ridiculously nervous about trying it out.

3. Baking naked–who is kneading your dough? 😉
The only person who kneads my dough is Wife, it would definitely be a treat to be kneaded soon.

4. Come sail away, come sail away, come and sail away with me! Who is joining you for a sexy sea adventure?
A sexy sea adventure?! Of course, I would be bringing Wife, the mermaid, who loves all the beaches and the ocean, she helps me to relax and enjoy it also. We shall have to bring blankets to spread out so the sand does not venture into all of our crevices!

5. “I got your back.” Hands down who do you fully support, stick by no matter what, Who are you willing to help at all costs?
Wife is someone that I will always support, always stick to, always help. Even before she had earned all of these things through our years together, she had my support because I was willing to give of myself for her. Sometimes I even literally have her back when I am 'kneading her dough.' The other person I support fully would be my daughter. I am not always the best at showing that I have her back, but the intent is there.

Bonus: Belly button–inny or outty? Are you going to show us? 😀
Inny and I just manscaped today so you can actually see it!




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TMI Tuesday: December 5, 2017

Sometimes ya gotta do, what ya gotta do–like play TMI Tuesday!

Sexy Specifics


Ash:
1. What do you find sexiest in a woman?
Physically, I am most attracted to curvy women with long hair. Goth girls are my biggest weakness. I also really love androgynous women. Mmmmm. Personality wise, I am very much into intelligent women who tend to be motherly in a caring way. Confidence is very sexy, as long as they aren't arrogant. Humbleness is also sexy. Also, boobs. I like boobs. Boobs of all sizes.

2. What do you find least sexy in a man?
Physically, I really hate testicles. *shudder* Personality wise, arrogance, bigotry, and stupidity are the worst.

3. Have you ever been the other woman or man? Would you do it again?
For a very short time at the end of my husband's first marriage. We dated when we were teenagers, then broke up for 3 years. When we saw each other again after all that time, the sexual chemistry was just too much to resist. She was awful and had already cheated on him multiple times. He was already in the process of leaving her, so I don't feel bad about it. I would never do it again. I am very against cheating.

4. Who puts more into a romantic relationship you or your significant other?
At this point in time, I would say it's probably me. Husband used to be very romantic and did a lot of amazing things for me. That hasn't happened much in the last few years. I'm especially romantic with the women I date.

5. Do you have a “work wife” or “office husband”?
I don't actually have a job other than being a mom. So, that would be a no.

Bonus: Are you in a healthy relationship? What makes you think so?
I know that I am in a very healthy relationship. So much so, that friends always ask me for relationship advice. We've been told many times that we have the "perfect relationship." I don't know that we are perfect, but I do know that we have a healthy relationship.

Bonus, bonus: Is the “work spouse” strictly a U.S. American anomaly (they do spend an insane amount of hours at work)? One study found 32% of Americans admitted to having a work spouse.
I've never had a "work spouse" so I really don't know anything about this.



Husband:
1. What do you find sexiest in a woman?
Physically I love curves. It is so easy for me to get lost in running my hands over every one pleasantly finding my way back to the starting point, only to get lost again. Mentally I love intelligence and humor and kindness. These qualities make a beautiful mix that is hard to resist.

2. What do you find least sexy in a man?
Um. Overconfidence and arrogance. Two turn offs regardless of gender.

3. Have you ever been the other woman or man? Would you do it again?
I have never been the other person.

4. Who puts more into a romantic relationship you or your significant other?
I think that over the course of our relationship romancing has been this either/or thing where one of us did most of the romantic lifting while the other was being lifted. I do feel like I am a hopeless romantic though, so I am always hungry to be swept off my feet.

5. Do you have a “work wife” or “office husband”?
No, though sometimes it feels like the people I have worked with more hand in hand are strangely close because of how much I don't filter and how much I am willing to overshare.

Bonus: Are you in a healthy relationship? What makes you think so?
I do think that I am in a healthy relationship because not only do I love my Wife, but I know that we are always working together on each other. We are willing and able to put time and effort into continually making our lives and relationship together work even/especially when things are difficult.

Bonus, bonus: Is the “work spouse” strictly a U.S. American anomaly (they do spend an insane amount of hours at work)? One study found 32% of Americans admitted to having a work spouse.
I don't have a clue about this.

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TMI Tuesday: November 28, 2017

Getting frisky and bold, are you? Prove it, play TMI Tuesday.


Spice it up!



Ash:
1. Why should you have sex on a first date?
If it is consensual, there's no reason for you to abstain. If you feel it, then go for it. Life is short. Go for it.

2. Why do you dislike giving oral sex?
I love giving oral sex. I do sometimes have anxiety about it because of the time I was sexually assaulted when I was 14. I have mostly healed from that though. It rarely comes up.

3. Tongue or no tongue? Explain.
It depends if they are good with their tongue. I don't want to be slobbered on. I also don't want to feel like my mouth is being assaulted by their tongue. If they are a good kisser, then I'll most definitely take tongue.

4. Would you have a sugar daddy or sugar mama?
I'd love to have one, honestly. As long as they don't think I'm taking advantage of them and they enjoy being my sugar daddy/mama.

5. What’s a sure sign that you need to get laid?
When I am sex deprived, I get very moody. I tend to snap about things and yell a lot. Little things that are not a big deal become a huge deal in my head. That's when I know I need sex.

Bonus: Right this very second, which do you prefer– to make love or fuck like a wild animal?
I would pick making love. I'm not in a good place in my head right now. I really just need to be held and made to feel safe. Hopefully, I'll be better soon.


Husband:
1. Why should you have sex on a first date?
I've never had sex on a first date. I am working on trying to live in the moment more and would go along with sex on the first date if it was brought up by the other person, I would not lead the way.

2. Why do you dislike giving oral sex?
I don't dislike giving oral sex, I personally love doing it. Pleasing my partner is a fantastic feeling for me.

3. Tongue or no tongue? Explain.
I think that as long as that tongue is used well, I am all for it.

4. Would you have a sugar daddy or sugar mama?
This would be incredible. I have probably dreamt silently about this ever since I heard about them.

5. What’s a sure sign that you need to get laid?
I start getting really withdrawn. I get disconnected and my emotions are all over the place. I tend to need a lot of touch and sex to seal it in.

Bonus: Right this very second, which do you prefer– to make love or fuck like a wild animal?
Making love would be magical. This season is always really difficult for so many reasons and a really solid reconnect like this can be essential for survival.

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TMI Tuesday: November 21, 2017

TMI Tuesday is up! Please join us for…

Past & Present



Ash:
1. What was your favorite band in high school?
Marilyn Manson

2. What is your favorite band now?
Blue October

3. What was your go to “make me feel better” food in high school?
Hmmm. I was very anorexic back then. I rarely ate food. If I did eat food, it was usually banana baby food. I'll go with that.

4. What is your go-to “make me feel better” food now? Why?
Ice cream. Ummm...why? Because...ice cream. That's why.

5. Fill in the blank: That _____ was then; this _____ is now.
Drag shows and gay bars; Burlesque shows and gay bars.

Bonus: Where were you and what were you doing on November 21, 2016?
During the day, I was home alone getting things prepped for my daughter's class party the next day. I'm always the room mother for class parties because apparently, I can party plan like a boss. In the evening, I took my daughter to a "Little Medical School" event at the library. Then, I came home and finished prepping for the class party. My life is super exciting.


Husband:
1. What was your favorite band in high school?
Cake or the Offspring

2. What is your favorite band now?
Vast or Remy Zero

3. What was your go to “make me feel better” food in high school?
50 piece bucket of McNuggets with ranch sauce. I think I didn't share this once but shared it every other time. The one time I didn't share was not pleasant later.

4. What is your go-to “make me feel better” food now? Why?
Cheesecake, because cheesecake is fucking amazing when it is well made. The texture and how heavy just sits well as comfort food.

5. Fill in the blank: That _____ was then; this _____ is now.
Back then I had not experienced depression at all; Now I am a high-level depressive.

Bonus: Where were you and what were you doing on November 21, 2016?
I don't remember what I was doing last year, but the year before that I was at the Missouri State Penitentiary for a prison tour with Wife. It was really awesome, other than the fact that it was ridiculously chilly throughout most of the tour.

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TMI Tuesday: November 14, 2017

Here is TMI Tuesday–all about Self-care.




Outside of regular hygiene activities–bathing, brushing teeth, hair care, let’s talk about what you do for self-care*.


Ash:
1. Have you ever had a professional massage? If yes, what type? If no, why not?
I have had a Swedish massage three times. The first time was wonderful. It was done at a really nice spa. It lasted for 90 minutes and it was amazing. It was so good that I signed Husband and myself up for a couples massage a few months later at the same place. That wasn't as great, but it was romantic. The last massage I received was at Massage Luxe and it was really shitty. I'm really sad that the other place closed so I can't go back there. I just get my massages at home now.

2. Do you engage in the following? Tell us all that apply and how often you do it
a. yoga - I do yoga on Tuesday mornings.
b. tai chi - Never done this.
c. float therapy - I did this for the first time on my birthday this year. It was a gift from Husband. It was very nice. I'll probably do it again.
d. run/jog - Haha. No.
e. workout–any that isn’t actually training for something but is for physical fitness maintenance - I have been slacking off in this area, but I try to go to the gym to work out M-F and sometimes Saturday.
f. other – what? -

3. How many hours of sleep do you average on a weeknight? Weekend?
Do you think you need more or less sleep?
My sleep schedule is fucked right now. In a perfect world, I would get to bed by midnight and wake between 8-10am. Lately, I haven't been getting to sleep until sometime between 2-5am. Sometimes I end up sleeping really late in the day and sometimes I get up early and have a hard time functioning throughout the day. My body feels best when I sleep for 10 hours, but I can function alright on 8 hours. Anything less than that is just not good.

4. Which of the following are you most likely to add to your self-care routine and stick with it?
a. Schedule in a planner daily “me time”
b. Acupuncture
c. Take a moment at the end of each day and consciously list a few good things in your life.
d. Turn off phone and step away from computer/tablet for 4 hours a day
I should definitely start doing C. I do D a few times every week, but I could probably stand to do it more often. I doubt I'd stick with it though.

5. What do you do for self-care either physically, spiritually or emotionally?
Yoga is the biggest thing I do for self-care. I can definitely tell a difference in my mood when I get my yoga in every week. I don't really do anything else to take care of myself, unless you count masturbation. I'm not good at being nice to myself.

Bonus: Today, make sure you give yourself some love–self-care.
I'll try to do that.

*Self-care is activities and practices that you do on a regular basis to reduce stress and maintain and enhance our short- and longer-term health and well-being. Source: buffalo.edu




Husband:
1. Have you ever had a professional massage? If yes, what type? If no, why not?
Not counting the minute massages you receive while walking around conventions where chiropractors and other businesses are trying to get your patronage I have only had one professional massage. Wife set up a couples massage and it was wonderfully romantic.

2. Do you engage in the following? Tell us all that apply and how often you do it
a. yoga
b. tai chi
c. float therapy
d. run/jog
e. workout–any that isn’t actually training for something but is for physical fitness maintenance
f. other – what?

F. Other; for the most part sex is the only exercise I get. I do a lot of walking around and doing daily tasks at work that would also count as activity. I miss running and keep meaning to start a workout routine, but motivation seems to be lacking.

3. How many hours of sleep do you average on a weeknight? Weekend?
Do you think you need more or less sleep?
On an average weeknight I get 4-6 hours of sleep. On the weekend I average about 7-9 hours of sleep. I know more sleep during the week would benefit me, however, I tend to be a high functioning sleep deprived person.

4. Which of the following are you most likely to add to your self-care routine and stick with it?
a. Schedule in a planner daily “me time”
b. Acupuncture
c. Take a moment at the end of each day and consciously list a few good things in your life.
d. Turn off phone and step away from computer/tablet for 4 hours a day

I would say D simply because I know that towards the end of the day I most of the time feel like withdrawing anyway. I think I would like to start doing C also.

5. What do you do for self-care either physically, spiritually or emotionally?

Cuddling with my family is self care that spans all three of those areas. Reading works for emotional self care. I get out into nature for any spritual healing.

Bonus: Today, make sure you give yourself some love–self-care.


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TMI Tuesday: October 31, 2017

Let’s do this thing–TMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. What do you think about when you’re alone in your car?
If I'm in a good head space, I usually think about sex. Things I'd like to do. People I'd like to do.
If I'm in a bad head space, I usually think about dark things. Usually bad things about myself. Or things from my past that have happened to me.

2. What advice do you have for your previous lover?
I'm not so sure I'd like to create that drama. I have a feeling that her partners may still read my blog and I'd rather not go there. I hate drama.

3. What inspires you?
People who have had a hard life and struggle with depression. They doubt their strength, but they are the strongest people I know.

4. If you were to get rid of one person in your life, who would it be and why?
I get rid of toxic friends with no problem. The person who is most toxic in my life that I can't get rid of is my sister. She treats me like crap all the time. Every time I hang out with her, she makes me feel worse than I did before. She looks down on me for my poly lifestyle. She says mean things to me and kicks me when I'm down. She expects me to do things for her all the time but will never do anything for me. And I let her walk all over me because she's family. I do love her, but sometimes I wish I didn't have to deal with her. In the last year, I've drastically cut down the time that I spend with her.

5. How do you cope when your level of sexual desire doesn’t match your partners?
You masturbate a lot? I flirt with a lot of people to have an outlet for all of the extra sexual energy. I use Twitter to get it out as well. I don't have much of a filter and I tend to say inappropriate things all the time, but using Twitter to vent that stuff has helped cut that down a lot. My sex drive is crazy high. There aren't many people who can match my level of sexual desire.

Bonus: Are you single, why? Are you married, why?
I'm married. I used to be very against marriage. I thought, "Why would I need a piece of paper to prove my love to someone?" Honestly, I just didn't ever see myself wanting to be with someone forever. Then, I fell in love with my husband. He changed my mind about marriage. When he asked me to marry him, I felt lucky that he wanted to be with me forever. He truly is my soul mate and I love him so very much.




Husband:
1. What do you think about when you’re alone in your car?
I think about everything when I'm alone in the car. I think about 'what ifs', imaginary conversations. A lot of the time my subconscious runs wild and it will stir up things I have going on in my life.

2. What advice do you have for your previous lover?
My last lover was my first boyfriend, and to be honest I cannot think of any kind of advice to offer.

3. What inspires you?
Wife and my daughter are my two biggest sources of inspiration. They inspire me to be a better husband, father, and person constantly. There is always room for improvement.

Books and stories are another source of inspiration for me. To be able to experience other worlds and people in them is an incredibly humbling thing to me.

What can I do, who can I be, where can I go are all things that my family and books inspire me to question.

4. If you were to get rid of one person in your life, who would it be and why?
I would likely get rid of the wastewater operator I have had to deal with for the last five years at work. He has tried to get me fired more times than I can count and we just do not mesh well or get along in general.

5. How do you cope when your level of sexual desire doesn’t match your partners?
My level of sexual desire has never matched Wife's. It can be intimidating for me. Sometimes it can feel overwhelming in the sense of feeling like I fail to deliver what she needs. In the past, it was extremely difficult to not internalize this difference and take it personally, but over this year I have been communicating better about my desires instead of keeping it in my head. This has helped us grow closer together.

Bonus: Are you single, why? Are you married, why?
I am married because I have been so lucky as to have found my soul mate, not just once, but twice in the same person. I chose her and she chose me because we both love each other. We have built a life together and commit to working for our amazing future.

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Just What I Needed

I was sexting with Jack the other day. I got lost deep in a fantasy about him and was inspired to turn it into a short story.



She had been waiting for what seemed like hours. He was supposed to be home 15 minutes ago. He probably needed to make a stop on the way. Didn't he know she was impatient when she's horny? She had been fantasizing about him all day, craving his touch. It felt like torture, just watching the door for his arrival. She giggled to herself, thinking about the face he would make when he walked in and saw her there, lying naked on the couch.

A few more minutes pass and she hears his key in the door. Her breath catches in her throat as she anticipates his reaction. He walks in and stops dead in his tracks. At first, a look of surprise on his face, then it turns into a huge smile from ear to ear. He barely manages to say, "Oh my, you look delicious." She blushes, feeling exposed. For a moment, he forgets that he's holding the door wide open. He stumbles, trying to close it, and then starts to take off his shoes. She says, "I want to feel you against my body." He lets out a moan, throws his socks off, and looks at her again. She's biting her lip. Unf, he loves when she does that. She looks him in the eye and says, "I want to breathe in your scent." He says, "Oh god," and takes his shirt off as quickly as possible. She can tell there's a large bulge in his pants. She licks her lips and says, "I want to taste you." He moans again and takes his pants and boxers off faster than he's ever done before.

As he walks over to her, she spreads her legs, inviting him in. She says, "I want to hear you moan my name as you slide your big cock into my tight wet pussy." He mounts her and kisses her lips, hard. The taste of his lips is so sweet. She runs her fingers through his hair, pulling it a little. He moans out her name and slides his cock inside her swollen pussy. She digs her fingernails into his back and moans back, "Yes! Fill me up!" He bites her lip and she wraps her legs tightly around his waist, pulling him in closer.

Yes! This is what she had been needing all day. His cock filled her up so perfectly. She bit his shoulder as he thrusted into her over and over again. Her pussy was getting wetter, tighter, with every stroke. He moaned out, "Fuck, you feel amazing." Her hips move with his, meeting his thrusts. She needed him deep inside her. She whispers in his ear, "I need your cum inside my pussy." His thrusts get quicker and harder, forcing little moans from her mouth.

He's hitting her g-spot and she can feel it engorging. She can feel his hot breath on her skin. She moans out, "Oh, baby, you're going to make me cum!" He holds her tight against his body and whispers, "That's my good girl." She can't hold it in any longer. She scratches her nails down his back and moans out his name as she reaches orgasm. Her pussy convulses around his cock, squirting all over him. He looks into her eyes with such lust that it makes her blush. Then, he fills her pussy with his hot load.

He collapses on top of her, laying his head on her chest. She starts to run her fingers through his hair once again. They both let out a content sigh at the same time. They lie there together until they catch their breath and go again.

TMI Tuesday: October 24, 2017

This week, let’s have a look inside your relationship by playing TMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. How much time do you spend taking care of your significant other:
a. More than taking care of myself, more than 60% of my time.
b. About 50% of my time.
c. 10% to 49% … I have kids!
d. Not really any time at all, definitely less than 10% of my time.

I would say C is the most accurate one there, but I think it's on the high end of C.

2. How do you sleep at night?
a. With the whole bed to my myself…yaay!
b. I stay on my own side, someone else on other side.
c. We snuggle–start that way or end up that way.
d. We do not sleep together.

We snuggle. Usually, I am the little spoon. If we stop snuggling, at least one part of our bodies is touching all night.

3. What happens when you or your significant other gets home from work?
a. Stop what you are doing to greet and hug each other
b. Engage in conversation about the day
c. No specific acknowledgement of each other, no specific welcoming gesture but go about a household routine
d. Ignore each other

I know that Husband would like for me to do A, but I don't do that as often as I should. Usually he comes to me and we hug/kiss.

4. How many things about yourself would you change? Share 3 things and tell us why.

I'm not very nice to myself, so I could probably come up with quite a few things I would change. Here are my top 3.
1) I would stop putting myself down all the time. I've stopped doing it so much out loud, but I'm always doing it in my head. I know I don't deserve that, but it's really hard to stop thinking that way.
2) I would get rid of my social anxiety. I am an extrovert that really wants to spend time with other people but I just don't know how to talk to people most of the time. I tend to just hide out in a corner and wish someone would talk to me.
3) I would get rid of my anorexia, stop starving myself, lose weight the healthy way, and actually keep it off. I've tried this so many times but always end up failing.

Bonus: How many things would you change about a current significant other.

Not very many. I would definitely make him think more highly of himself and have more self confidence. I also wish he was a little less introverted because I could really use a partner who wants to go out and be social with me.


Husband:
1. How much time do you spend taking care of your significant other:
a. More than taking care of myself, more than 60% of my time.
b. About 50% of my time.
c. 10% to 49% … I have kids!
d. Not really any time at all, definitely less than 10% of my time.

I would say B. She is incredibly self sufficient, I just have a tendency to help out and do things unasked. I enjoy doing things for her and taking care of her without strings attached.

2. How do you sleep at night?
a. With the whole bed to my myself…yaay!
b. I stay on my own side, someone else on other side.
c. We snuggle–start that way or end up that way.
d. We do not sleep together.

Definitely C. I am usually the first one asleep simply because touch with Wife calms my brain and body without much work on my part. She gives me a quiet mind. For some reason after falling asleep I drift away towards the edge of the bed, and I wish I knew why that was. If I wake up in the middle of the night and we are not touching I will roll over and cuddle until I fall back asleep.

3. What happens when you or your significant other gets home from work?
a. Stop what you are doing to greet and hug each other
b. Engage in conversation about the day
c. No specific acknowledgement of each other, no specific welcoming gesture but go about a household routine
d. Ignore each other

Typically A. I clear my pockets, take off my shoes, then go hug my loved ones, followed by B most of the time. I have been guilty of both C and D when I have been in bad head space.

4. How many things about yourself would you change? Share 3 things and tell us why.

a. The biggest thing I wish I could change would be my confidence level. Most of it is forced and I fake it. I am working on trying to internalize this and make it real though. Not being confident has kept me from living to the fullest.
b. I wish I could summon the motivation to improve my physical self. There are things I would very much like to accomplish, and when I think about them I am really worked up, but when it comes to making time it falls apart. I am not in bad shape, but I want to be in better shape, for my health mostly, for doing things the rest.
c. I wish I could attack confrontation better than ducking around the corner and making a hide in shadows skill check. I definitely do not enjoy taking things head on, but I know this has limited me in dealing with all kinds of issues.

Bonus: How many things would you change about a current significant other.

I wish she could see herself through my eyes. To hear the truth from my lips. She is incredible and amazing. This is the only thing I can think of changing.

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TMI Tuesday: October 10, 2017

It’s fill-in-blanks time. Have fun with this TMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. I am me because of all the shit I've gone through in life. Without it, I wouldn't be who I am today.

2. Ash will never, ever do scat play.

3. He was grabbing ice cubes and running them up and down my body, slowly. I could feel the ice melting on my hot skin, the water dripping and causing shivers through my body.

4. Ok, ok I’m really just a big slut, but I know you like me that way.

5. The charming lesbian got in my bed and we fucked for many hours.

Bonus: Tell us about places where you’ve been happiest.
My happy place is a beach on the west coast. I've been told that I glow when I'm there. Watching a sunset on the beach is just happiness in my mind. Especially if I'm doing it with someone special.



Husband:
1. I am me because of my ancestors, my choices, my failures, my successes, every moment up until right now.

2. I will never, ever do a Tahetian Face Mask.

3. He was grabbing ice cubes and running them slowly over her steaming body, trailing lines of wet cold mist and leaving goose bumps rising in the wake.

4. Ok, ok I’m really trying to be a better person, stronger for myself and for you.

5. The charming way she smiled at me with mischief in her eyes got in my head and made me stumble/stutter.

Bonus: Tell us about places where you’ve been happiest.
Canada wilderness, around a campfire, around a bonfire surrounded by friends and family, in the arms of my Bandia.

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