TMI Tuesday: August 27, 2019

I disliked the TMI Tuesday questions for this week, so I'm going back a month to a set that we missed.





Ash:
1. If you were a sex worker what kind of sex work would you NOT do?
I would not do anything with fluid exchange. Everything would have to be protected. I've actually wanted to be a sex worker since I was a teenager. I'm not sure where I would fit in though.

2. You are a sex worker and you must have a specialty. Which ONE of the following would be your specialty and why?
a. Live sex shows
b. Professional domination
c. Camming
Well, I suck at domination because I am very submissive. I'm also pretty shit at video chatting, so I'm sure I would be awful at camming (even though I really want to do it). So, I guess the thing I'd be best at is live sex shows.

3. What is your secret fetish?
I sometimes fantasize about watersports. I have never tried it and don't know if I ever will but it pops up in my head every once in a while.

4. Anal sex can be pretty alluring? Tell the truth, which do you prefer, anal or vaginal sex?
I enjoy anal every once in a while but I love vaginal sex.

5. What is the most embarrassing thing you have said during sex?
Probably one of the times that I said I wished there was another person fucking me at the same time that my partner was. My fantasies sometimes slip out at the moment and I don't realize that they may make people feel like they aren't good enough. That's definitely not what I mean though.

Bonus: Is your g-spot in your ass? If no, where is it?
My g-spot is most definitely not in my ass. It is located on the front wall of my vagina.



Husband:
1. If you were a sex worker what kind of sex work would you NOT do?
I don't believe I would have it in me to be a sex worker. It's never been something I've thought about doing. I don't think it would be for me.

2. You are a sex worker and you must have a specialty. Which ONE of the following would be your specialty and why?
a. Live sex shows
b. Professional domination
c. Camming
If I must have one of these specialties, I guess I would choose live sex shows. I've been part of a few group sex adventures and I know it isn't really the same, but I know that I used to be uncomfortable with other people around during those times, but I've reached a point where it doesn't bother me anymore.

3. What is your secret fetish?
I don't have a secret fetish. Anytime I have come across something that excites me I've brought it up with Wife.

4. Anal sex can be pretty alluring? Tell the truth, which do you prefer anal or vaginal sex?
I truly do enjoy anal sex, but despite how much I enjoy it, I do prefer vaginal sex more. Wife has a truly magical pussy.

5. What is the most embarrassing thing you have said during sex?
I get really embarrassed during sex when I am talking dirty and I stumble over words and they come out messed up.

Bonus: Is your g-spot in your ass? If no, where is it?
The g spot is not in the ass, even before I was knowledgeable about sex I didn't think it was in the ass.

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Sinful Sunday: Filth

It was a long hot day. It feels good to wash the filth from our bodies. Well, maybe not all the filth.




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Kink of the Week: Summer

"I remember every moment of those endless summer nights.
I still recall the walks along the beaches
And the way your hair would glisten in the sun
Rising in the afternoon
Making love to you under the moon." - Richard Marx

My favorite season is summer. I am pretty sure that I love it more than the average person. Hot sun, swimming, barbecues, and long days. Those are just a few of the things I love about summer. I may love summer but do I consider summer a kink for me? I'm not sure. Maybe?

I love spending time outdoors in the summer. Going to outdoor nudist events is always fun and my most favorite summer activity is swimming. Naked pool parties are the best! While a lot of people would rather sit inside in the air-conditioned house, I prefer to be outside. So, what do I love so much about being outdoors in the summer? The hot sun makes me feel very warm inside, which in turn makes me feel horny. I love feeling the sun on my skin. The warm weather is like a big hug wrapped around my whole body. It turns me on so much and I just can't get enough.

Summertime definitely puts me in a good mood. I have seasonal affective disorder, which means that I'm very depressed in the winter but very happy in the summer. It could be that I feel extra sexy and turned on in the summer because my mood is better. Or could it be something more?

The hot days of summer mean dressing in less clothing. People show a lot more skin in the summertime, which makes my mind go to dirty places a lot more often. There are many women walking around in summer dresses, which is fantastic. That gets my heart racing for sure. I love wearing summer dresses as much as I love admiring other women in summer dresses. Short shorts, crop tops, bikinis, and sandals. All of these are wonderful things we get to enjoy when the weather is hot.

Not only do I love the hot summer days, but I also love the warm summer nights. I absolutely love to sleep with the windows open on warm summer nights. Lying in bed and feeling the breeze blow across my body feels so erotic. I remember being turned on by this even when I was very young. I would sleep in the nude, toss my blanket off, lie there next to the open window and just get lost in that feeling. This also comes into play when Husband and I have sex outside on our balcony. Feeling the breeze on my skin while he is fucking me is almost too much to take. Fuck, it's just amazing.

I've known people who just can't tolerate having sex when it's too warm. I love it, though. In the winter, the house is always cold and I don't want to come out from under the covers to have sex. This always creates an awkward situation where I try to have sex while still wrapped up in a blanket burrito. In the summer, the house is warm, so I can toss the blanket off of me with no problem. We are also nudists, so walking around the house in the nude is a lot easier when it's warm. We tend to wear a lot more clothing in the fall and winter out of necessity.

Now that I've talked about the things that I enjoy doing, maybe I should list a few things that I fantasize about doing in the summertime. I want to have sex on the beach. Sure, it sounds cliché, but I have such a connection with the ocean that I just think it would be really amazing to have sex next to it. I would love to have a romantic picnic that includes some hot outdoor sex. One of my biggest fantasies, though, is having sex while stargazing on a warm summer night. Maybe this outs me as a country girl at heart but I would love to lie in the bed of a pickup truck, listening to music, looking up at the stars, cuddling with my partner, and then having it turn into some hot fucking. Yes, please. I have been fantasizing about that since I was a teenager. Maybe I need to start dating someone who owns a truck!

So, maybe summer isn't exactly a kink for me but I do very much enjoy it. I wish I could live in a place where it's summer all year round. I wouldn't even miss the changing of the seasons. Give me all the sundresses and swimming pools. I'll be quite content.



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TMI Tuesday: August 13, 2019

Welcome to a new week and a new TMI Tuesday.




Ash:
1. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Why? Sex is a difficult topic for partners to discuss, yet sex can draw couples closer together.
Well, I think sex is a difficult topic for most people to discuss. I usually don't have an issue talking about it though. I probably talk about it too much. If I'm discussing a problem with our sex life, that can be a little uncomfortable because I'm not sure how my partner will react. Sex can draw couples together but only if those people have a healthy sex life and actually enjoy having sex. Sex definitely makes me feel closer to my partner and it's something I need with any partner I have. Relationships without sex just don't work for me.

2. Who did you first come out to and why did you choose that person?
I came out as bisexual to my mom first because I knew she would understand. She was also bisexual.

3. Has someone come out to you? What was your reaction?
I have had quite a few people come out to me over the last 20 years. I have had friends come out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender. I've been nothing but supportive of each of them. I always give them all the love.

4. Recent studies show that smartphones are causing decreased intimacy among partners. In your relationship is the smartphone a saboteur or helping hand?
Honestly, smartphones do negatively impact the intimacy level in my marriage. There are times when we have alone time and we use it to play around on our phones instead of communicating with each other. I tend to catch up on Twitter or play a game on my phone at night to wind down and disconnect from the stress of the day. Husband usually takes that as a signal that I'm not interested in sex, which isn't true. I'm sure there are a lot of changes that we could make when it comes to smartphone use to improve the intimacy in our relationship.

5. Tell us something that you do that could cause someone to say “What Will the Neighbors Think?”.
I walk around my house naked with the curtains open. I also have sex on my balcony when the weather is nice.

6. What was your most recent motivation for masturbation?
I saw a very hot video on Twitter and it turned me on.

Bonus: Do you regularly view porn? What’s regular?
Yes, I view porn almost daily on Twitter.



Husband:
1. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Why?
Sex is a difficult topic for partners to discuss, yet sex can draw couples closer together.
I agree. Despite being raised with the understanding that sex is for procreation only, among many other stipulations, I know that sex is a great thing that doesn't just need to be used to breed like the Duggars. Just because I know that sex is just sex doesn't mean all that learning hasn't affected my thought processes. I still have a hard time bringing up sex in conversation. I do most definitely believe sex can draw couples closer together, but that is reliant on how important sex is for that person. Sex for me is the ultimate connection between a partner and myself because touch is my most prominent love language. This I know is only for me speaking, not for any partner.

2. Who did you first come out to and why did you choose that person?
The first person I came out to was Wife, who was then Girlfriend. I chose to come out to her because I felt comfortable with her. I felt comfortable sharing feelings that I had kept private and hidden up until that time.

3. Has someone come out to you? What was your reaction?
I don't think anyone has come out to me. I think I tend to hear about people coming out through the grapevine, never actually firsthand.

4. Recent studies show that smartphones are causing decreased intimacy among partners. In your relationship is the smartphone a saboteur or helping hand?
I feel like at this point me blaming anything on a phone is just me being lazy about dealing with my circumstances. I've been lazy an awful lot lately.

5. Tell us something that you do that could cause someone to say “What Will the Neighbors Think?”.
Being nudists is easily one of the first things I think of that throws people off. I've had so much random negativity about it, that I spend more time sounding defensive than actually being informative for the people who are curious.

6. What was your most recent motivation for masturbation?
Probably not having sex.

Bonus: Do you regularly view porn? What’s regular?
No. I used to watch it on Wife's phone when she would scroll through Twitter, but lately, I've been falling asleep. I don't even know what "regular" viewing of porn is. I feel like any input I have here would throw off the curve, like having a zero factored into your grade average.

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Sinful Sunday: Struggling

I've been struggling lately.

I found this picture fitting.

Retreating

Things have been difficult lately. I've been having issues with depression and anxiety. My self-confidence is seriously lacking right now. I don't feel sexy or attractive in the least bit. There's been so much stress in my life that I've just retreated from everything.

This all started a year ago. I fell down some stairs last summer and sprained my foot badly. This prevented me from working out in the gym as I normally did every day. I couldn't get out much because of the pain, so I did a lot of sitting around at home. I was lonely and depressed, so I self-medicated with food. I also started having intense anxiety around this time. Just as my foot finally started to feel better, I had to have emergency surgery. So, that put me in the same position as I was just about to get out of. During this time, I gained a lot of weight and I feel so gross. It's been about six months since I've been fully healed and I just haven't been able to motivate myself to get back into the gym. My stamina is way down and I'm basically starting from the beginning. It's painful and I just don't want to do it. I know I need to but I have to push through this depression to make it happen.

My sex life has definitely suffered. I can't bring myself to initiate sex because I feel so undesirable. Husband doesn't like to initiate things because he's convinced that I don't want him for some reason. So, he isn't initiating sex either. I tried to hint to Jacob a couple times that I would like to hook up with him, hoping that maybe he would help me feel attractive again but he declined. That means sex just isn't happening for me.

For a few months, I wallowed in my depression and accepted that this is just how my sex life (or lack thereof) is going to be from now on. Then, summer came and we had 2 weeks child-free. I felt desperate for a spark of excitement. I walked around the house naked every day. I would bend over at just the right moment in hopes that Husband would grab me and just start fucking me. I tried to get his attention every day and it just kept failing. I think we had sex once during that whole 2 weeks and that was because I woke him up with a blow job. So fucking depressing. After that, I basically just gave up. I feel defeated and unwanted.

Of course, because I'm not getting sex, I'm also feeling super irritable. Husband and I have been arguing a lot about stupid shit. That, in turn, makes us feel even further apart emotionally. It's definitely not helping the situation.

I don't really know what the answer to all of this is. Things are just very difficult right now. All I can do is retreat and hide in the dark place in my mind. Hopefully, I find some motivation soon and things turn around. I'm just so exhausted. I guess until I can start to feel sexy again, I'll just fake it.

TMI Tuesday: August 6, 2019

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Ash:
1. Do you or did you have an “our song” with a current or past significant other? What is the song?
Husband and I have a couple songs that mean a lot to us. Tangled Up In You by Staind, Sound of Pulling Heaven Down by Blue October, and Never Stop by SafetySuit.

2. What is your most annoying habit?
I put myself down a lot. I'm really hard on myself.

3. You have been offered free plastic surgery for one part of your body, what will you fix?
I would get a breast reduction and lift.

4. A meteor is headed for your house. You have saved family, pets, your computer, and smart phone. You have time to save one more item, what will you save?
Family photos.

5. Would you reveal a deep dark, shameful or embarrassing secret about your partner for one million dollars?
Never. I keep secrets very well.

Bonus: Which one of these do you have the most of: a sense of humor, sense of time, sense of direction, sense of adventure?
I have an uncanny sense of time. It's like I have a built in stop watch in my head. I know how much time has passed and usually how much time something will take. I know exactly when a timer is about to go off. I can tell you how much time we've spent somewhere or randomly tell you what time it is. It's actually pretty freaky.



Husband:
1. Do you or did you have an “our song” with a current or past significant other? What is the song?
To Make You Feel My Love, The Sound of Pulling Heaven Down, and/or Tangled Up In You. Three songs that have held large spots of emotional song energy in our relationship.

2. What is your most annoying habit?
I make all the food in my mouth crunch ( loud and annoying noises).
***This is true. He can make mashed potatoes crunch in his mouth somehow.

3. You have been offered free plastic surgery for one part of your body, what will you fix?
Can it be my teeth? I would kill to have my teeth made nice.

4. A meteor is headed for your house. You have saved family, pets, your computer, and smart phone. You have time to save one more item, what will you save?
My cigar box of little treasures. It has things from Wife, my daughter, things that belonged to my brother, just lots of things I wouldn't care to lose.

5. Would you reveal a deep dark, shameful or embarrassing secret about your partner for one million dollars?
I wouldn't share any secret of my partners without their say so, regardless of the potential monetary gain.

Bonus: Which one of these do you have the most of: a sense of humor, sense of time, sense of direction, sense of adventure?
Wife says better sense of adventure. I guess I would have to agree with her when she gives me her perspective.

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