KOTW: Gifting

The discussion topic for Kink of the Week is Gifts. Gift giving/receiving is one of the Five Love Languages.

“You feel loved when people give you 'visual symbols of love,'” ~ The Five Love Languages Explained

I wouldn't consider gifts as one of my love languages. I mean, don't get me wrong. I do feel loved when people give me a gift but I don't ever expect gifts from my partners. I'd much rather receive quality time and touch from them. 

I do enjoy getting a meaningful gift from someone though. It feels good when people think about me. I also love to give gifts to others, especially handmade ones. Not everyone appreciates handmade gifts but I love them because I think about how important the person is to me the whole time while I'm making the gifts. So, those gifts are full of love. I just like to make people feel happy and loved. 

So, maybe gifts are only a small part of my love language, but are they a part of my kink language? Maybe. After reading that quote again, I decided to replace a few words. 

You feel turned on when people give you visual symbols of sexiness.

When I think about it this way, I'm pretty sure receiving gifts is a kink language for me. Getting kinky/sexy gifts from FWBs and fans really makes me feel special. I love that someone was having sexy thoughts about me and they thought I was special enough to send me something to let me know they were thinking of me. That is just hot. 

They are also gifts that keep on giving. Every time I wear or use something that someone sent me, it makes me think of them and I get turned on. I love knowing that people think I'm sexy. I will never get tired of hearing that. Having reminders that people think I'm sexy is fantastic. I will never get tired of getting sexy gifts. 

One year, for Christmas, Husband made up a stocking for me from Krampus. It was full of sexy and kinky gifts. I really enjoyed that. Much more than anything else he got me that year. So, yes, I would definitely say gifts are a kink language for me.

I don't have a d/s relationship right now but if I did, I'm not sure if gifts would be part of it. I have had a fantasy about having a Daddy that would bring me little gifts just because I am his baby girl and he likes to make me smile. That would be hot as hell. I'd definitely be into that!

So, while gift giving and receiving are definitely fun, I much prefer when those gifts are a bit more on the inappropriate side. I'm sure that comes as no surprise to any of you.

*For anyone that would like to send me a sexy gift, my wishlist is on my blogger profile.*

Kiss the lips below and check out who else likes gifts.

TMI Tuesday: December 28, 2021

So long 2021. The final TMI Tuesday for this year is posted.

Ash:

1. My favorite thing about 2021 was _____ .

Finally finding a medication that has helped control my anxiety.

2. What is something that happened to you in 2021 that you never want to forget?

I was given the honor of being number 60 on the Top 100 Sex Blogs 2021 list!

3. What would you like to do differently next year?

I would love to be social again. I'm an extrovert and sitting in this house alone every day is really draining me.

4. How do you honor the past while staying focused on the future?

Talk about it. Sharing memories of the past is an excellent way to honor it but also to remember things that were both good and not so good. Talking about the past can sometimes make it easier to make decisions about the future.

5. Next year I am excited to _____ .

add some new sex partners to my life

Bonus: Do you feel jaded at all?

Oh, for sure.

Husband:

1. My favorite thing about 2021 was _____ .

I think the re-release of HeroQuest is probably going to top this year. Plus also the getting to play some excellent game sessions with my family. This game is my favorite and the best!

2. What is something that happened to you in 2021 that you never want to forget?

Summer Camp with my Scout. I had such a great time and I learned a few new skills. I also was trained as an Assistant Scoutmaster for our troop.

3. What would you like to do differently next year?

Take more chances. Camp a hell of a lot more. Challenge myself more. Communicate more. Be a better husband, father, lover. 

4. How do you honor the past while staying focused on the future?

Talk and tell stories to open up conversations about the past and how we can bring it to the present. Research and learn to gain a better understanding of the past and the present so that we can be better and bring wisdom to the future.

5. Next year I am excited to _____ .

Hopefully spend more time with family. Play more HeroQuest. Paint my miniatures. Try new things! Read more books!

Bonus: Do you feel jaded at all?

Fuck, do I ever.

TMI Tuesday: December 21, 2021

Welcome to a special TMI Tuesday and Titty Tuesday mashup.

Ash:

1. Do you have a favorite author? Who?

I discovered Francesca Lia Block when I was 16. I was living in California at the time and I went into a Barnes & Noble looking for a new book to read. I was getting bored of my boyfriend's Dragonlance books and wanted something different. I came upon the book Violet and Claire and decided to give it a shot. I fell in love with her writing and she's been my favorite author ever since.

2. Do you make your bed each morning? Why?

Hell no. It's a waste of time. The only time I make my bed is when I change the sheets and when I'm doing a photo shoot. Otherwise, what is even the point? You're just going to get back into it that night and mess it up again.

3. What is one recipe that gets you through busy, hectic times?

When it gets really busy around here, I usually make sloppy joes or spaghetti. Those are easy and quick to make. They are also two things that Husband makes really well, so I can put off the cooking to him if I need to get shit done.

4. For therapeutic venting, who do you call–friend, sibling, parent, significant other?

My husband. I don't really have any friends. Definitely not friends that I can vent to. My mom passed away and my dad doesn't really care about me. My siblings are kind of a mess and always have their own crap to deal with so they don't care about mine. So, really, all I have is my husband.

5. When did you last de-clutter the camera roll/pics on your smartphone?

It's been too long. I need to do that very soon. Thanks for the reminder.

Bonus: What is the subject of your next blog post?

I'm working on writing about something that happened to me in college. Hopefully I can finish it in the next couple of days.

Husband:

1. Do you have a favorite author? Who? 

Yes. Without a doubt, it would have to be Neil Gaiman. The magical chaotic webs of his stories resonate so strongly with me. From the very first Sandman quoted journal I came across to the present everything has drawn me into worlds and imaginings that are too strong for me to deny. I absolutely love his works.

2. Do you make your bed each morning? Why?

Absolutely not. I refuse on principles that when practically applied to almost anything else do not make much sense. There is no harm (as I currently see things) in not making the bed. I'm only going to get back into bed later in the day, why make more work for myself than needed.

3. What is one recipe that gets you through busy, hectic times?

A pureed nut spread with a strawberry relish reduction paired with a brioche bun. 

4. For therapeutic venting, who do you call–friend, sibling, parent, significant other?

For the most part, I don't call Wife to vent, I feel like it gets messy and I don't do well over the phone. Venting with her is usually in person. After this, it is a toss-up between calling my Ma or my brother. Depending on what it is about will dictate who I call first. Recently over the last two years or so though I have found myself calling my brother first before my Ma, not quite sure why though.

5. When did you last de-clutter the camera roll/pics on your smartphone?

I have yet to do this with my current phone. It is desperately reminding me that it should happen quite soon though.

Bonus: What is the subject of your next blog post?

I haven't a clue, it's been a very long time since I wrote in a blog. Let us just be playful and say it will be about Amazon's Wheel of Time series.

Sinful Sunday: Cum In My Mouth Baby

Recently, I had a conversation with a fan about how he has never had the pleasure of cumming in someone’s mouth. Ever since that conversation, I’ve been lost in thought about how hot it would be to be the first woman who swallows his load and I was inspired to take this photo.

Kiss the lips below to see who else is sinning today.

TMI Tuesday: December 7, 2021

Happy December! Just a few more TMI Tuesday blogs to go in 2021.

Ash:

1. Do you consider your sex to be “conventional”? Why or why not?

When you say sex, do you mean gender or sexual behavior? 

If we are talking about gender, I guess I'm kind of conventional. I look very feminine, I did the stay-at-home mom thing, I do most of the shopping and cooking, and I take care of most of the things that need to be taken care of. Though I'm also the dominant person in my marriage (outside of the bedroom), I pay the bills, and I'm definitely not soft-spoken and subservient (outside of the bedroom).

If we are talking about my sex life, I would say it's somewhat conventional these days. I'm very kinky but I really haven't been able to express that in a few years. Husband hasn't wanted to engage in those activities with me for some time and I haven't been able to figure out why. I do have some fetishes and I enjoy rough sex a lot. I wouldn't consider us vanilla but we are definitely much tamer than we used to be. 

2. Gender Identity–How do you describe yourself?

a. Male
b. Female
c. Trans Male/Trans Man
d. Trans Female/Trans Woman
e. Genderqueer/Gender Non­Conforming

f. Different Identity

b. Female

3. Sexual Orientation

a. Heterosexual
b. Gay
c. Lesbian
d. Bisexual
e. None of the above, specify if you wish.

d. Bisexual - I could say pansexual here but I refuse to use that word because it's just another form of bi-erasure. The definition of bisexuality is "the potential to be attracted to people of more than one gender." That includes all genders. Male, female, trans, non-binary, and anything in between. Bisexuality has always been about challenging binaries of all kinds, including gender. There's no need for a new word.

4. Is understanding the causes and effects, and the formation of gender stereotypes important?

Yes. We need to understand why gender stereotypes exist and acknowledge the harm they are doing so that we can crush them. 

Bonus: Your thoughts on this–“I’m in a committed relationship, and it feels like asking for consent every time we have sex is overkill—is that wrong?”

If your partner needs you to get consent before making a move, then you need to do that. Period. I would suggest talking to them to find a comfortable way for you to get that consent that doesn't make you feel so awkward. In my relationship, I'm fine with my partner making a move when they want sex and if I don't feel up to it, I would say so. But if your partner isn't okay with you making a move at all until they have given consent, you better get consent first. If that's too much for you to deal with, then you should just stick with masturbation. Sorry, not sorry.

Husband:

1. Do you consider your sex to be “conventional”? Why or why not?

I think that sometimes my sex may be conventional, but definitely not all the time. 

2. Gender Identity–How do you describe yourself?

a. Male
b. Female
c. Trans Male/Trans Man
d. Trans Female/Trans Woman
e. Genderqueer/Gender Non­Conforming

f. Different Identity

a. Male

3. Sexual Orientation–Are you exclusively?

a. Heterosexual
b. Gay
c. Lesbian
d. Bisexual
e. None of the above, specify if you wish.

d. Bisexual

4. Is understanding the causes and effects, and the formation of gender stereotypes important?

Yes.

Bonus: Your thoughts on this–“I’m in a committed relationship, and it feels like asking for consent every time we have sex is overkill—is that wrong?”

If my partner felt that it was important to them that I get consent each time we had sex I would do my absolute best to respect their wishes. If it ever got to the point where I felt it was overkill I would discuss that with them then.

Sinful Sunday: Color Splash

It's the first Sunday of the month, which means it's time for the Sinful Sunday prompt. This month's prompt is color splash. Color splash in photography is when you take an image and make most of it black and white while just a small piece of it pops with some color. This is the first time I've ever done this and I'm kind of in love with it. 

Kiss the lips below to see who else is sinning.

I Need More

Husband and I had some really great sex Wednesday night. I wasn't expecting it at all because I knew he was really tired from having to go in to work extra early that morning. I sure am glad he had the energy for it though because I've been lost in thought about it ever since. So, I thought I'd write about it.

As we got comfortable in bed, he started to massage my back. I thought he was just being nice since I have been complaining of bad back pain lately. So, I just laid there on my tummy and enjoyed it, moaning as he hit the sore spots and worked them out. 

After a few minutes, he made his way down to my ass. Now, I love ass massages, so I still wasn't sure this was going to lead to sex. As he rubbed my cheeks, I could feel him getting closer and closer to my ass crack. Maybe this actually was more than just a massage. 

When his fingers slipped into my ass crack and found their way down between my thighs, that's when I knew this was going to be much more pleasurable than I first thought. He rubbed my vulva, putting just enough pressure that I felt it in my clitoris. I rocked my hips a bit in motion with his hand. Then, his finger slipped between my labia. I could tell he was excited to feel how wet I was. 

Suddenly, he grabbed my leg and forcefully pulled it aside so that my legs were spread, giving him easier access. He rubbed my clit a bit before slipping a finger inside me. I moaned softly as he played with my pussy. Then, he went back to rubbing my clit some more. His fingers slid across it so smoothly. It felt incredible. I was so turned on.

I felt his lips kissing my back, his beard gently tickling me. He kissed his way down to my ass, where he started to lick my asshole. Then, he put two fingers inside me while he continued to rub my clit. I arched my back, lifting my ass higher. I wanted more. He put another finger inside me. I took a deep breath and it caught in my throat. My pussy felt very full and I was loving it. 

As he fucked me with his fingers, I could feel them hitting my g-spot over and over. There was so much pleasure, I felt like I was going to lose my mind. I moaned and rocked my hips in rhythm with his thrusts. My pussy got tighter, signaling that I was going to cum soon. He stopped licking my asshole and started to fuck me harder with his fingers. My breathing quickened and my body tensed up. He slid a finger into my ass and I moaned out in pleasure. He laid his body on top of mine and continued to fuck my holes and rub my clit with his fingers. Fuck, it was so good. I buried my face in my pillow, gripped the bed with my hands, and moaned loudly as I came all over his fingers.

After I orgasmed, Husband quickly shoved his cock inside my pussy and fucked me for a moment. I could tell he was very turned on. He got up and asked me to get on my knees. Then, he slowly slid his cock inside my very wet cunt. I could feel it grip around him, needing him deeper inside me. He fucked me a bit harder and faster. He kept hitting all the right spots and it made me want to cum again.

I grabbed my vibrator, turned it on, and placed it on my clit. Almost immediately, I felt like I was close to cumming. He put his cock inside me once more. I was so tight and swollen from being so turned on that I couldn't help but moan as he entered me. He started fucking me again, more slowly this time. It was so good that I had to keep taking the vibrator off of my clit to prevent myself from cumming too soon. His pace quickened a bit and my pussy started sounding VERY wet, a clue that I was about to squirt. I wanted to stop. We didn't put anything down on the mattress to protect it. If we kept going, I'd get the bed all wet. I couldn't stop. It felt too good to stop. I needed this. My pussy clenched down on his cock and he said, "Yes, cum for me!" I immediately started to cum and he said, "Good girl!" Oh, fuuuuuck. As soon as he said that, my pussy exploded and squirted all over him, which made him cum as well. 

I collapsed and tried to catch my breath. I didn't want to move. My whole body was in a state of ecstasy. When I finally got up to go to the bathroom, I saw the mess I made. "Oops, I'm sorry." He replied, "I'm not." Then, he got a towel to cover it up so I didn't have to sleep in the wet spot.

I couldn't stop thinking about how good it felt all day yesterday. I tried to get more last night but he was too tired and ignored my advances. I'm hoping I can get more this weekend though. My pussy is such a needy bitch sometimes. Never satisfied. Always wanting more.