TMI Tuesday: September 26, 2017

Yes, yes…here it is. Another TMI Tuesday.




Me:
1. The last time you had sex, was it urgent or essential? Consider masturbation or sex with a partner.
It felt pretty essential to me. Last night, there was a lot of emotional sharing between Husband and I. We had sex after that. I always feel like when we open up to each other, it needs to end with sex.

2. What should you stop doing? Why?
I should stop putting myself down in my head. I really need to stop being so unkind to myself when I'm so kind to everyone else. I know I don't deserve to be treated the way that I treat myself.

3. What makes you feel strongest? Sexiest?
Every winter, I get very depressed. It can be pretty scary at times because I get so low. Every spring, when the fog of depression finally fades away, that is when I feel the strongest. I made it through another awful winter. I feel like I can do anything in that moment.

I feel sexiest when I am desired. When someone tells me how much they want me, I feel very sexy. There's nothing better than being desired.

4. When do you feel vulnerable?
When I open up and share my feelings with people, I feel very vulnerable. When I share things about my childhood, I feel vulnerable.

5. What is missing from your sex life?
A woman. I need a woman in my life so badly. I don't think I'll ever feel complete without that.

Bonus: If you left your current lover, what would you miss the most?
The only reason I would ever leave my husband would be if he abused me. I don't ever see that happening. However, if he left me, I would miss his touch the most. His touch is like electricity on my skin.



Husband:
1. The last time you had sex, was it urgent or essential? Consider masturbation or sex with a partner.
The last two times have felt both urgent and essential for me. There has been an emotional and spiritual pull I felt and I answered.

2. What should you stop doing? Why?
I should stop putting so much weight upon my shoulders and realize that I can only accomplish so much as one person because the stress I bear is weighing me down and killing me quicker than time.

3. What makes you feel strongest? Sexiest?
Sacrificing my time for my family to provide for them. It is one of the hardest things for me to cope with, and I hate how much time I have been required to give up for them, but I am proud of the life we are able to have right now.

I think I feel sexiest when Wife can't keep her hands off me, when she talks to me about things she wants me to do to her, that she is craving from me. I feel sexiest when I feel desired.

4. When do you feel vulnerable?
I feel vulnerable when I share my demons with my wife, when I share the little hopes and dreams that have little weight to them, but mean so much to me. I feel vulnerable when I tell Wife that I want her to be happy and that I want her to be free to do what she needs to do to reach that happiness. I feel vulnerable when I am alone and lonely. I feel vulnerable when I am dominant for Wife. I feel vulnerable when I ask for the things I need to be happy. I feel vulnerable when I ask for things for myself. I feel vulnerable a lot.

5. What is missing from your sex life?
I used to think that nothing was missing from my sex life, but every year shows me things I never knew were missing. I think I only know some missing when Wife brings a new idea into the bedroom. Wife is like my treasure map to hidden pleasures.

Bonus: If you left your current lover, what would you miss the most?
I would not leave my current lover. Wife is my soulmate, my Bandia, my best friend. If she was gone that means she was taken from me and I will miss everything about her. I will miss the quiet mind she gives me, the magic when our skin touches, the smell of her on my body like the most intoxicating perfume.

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TMI Tuesday: September 19, 2017

Me:
1. Why would you go to a therapist?
a. You need support.
b. You want to take responsibility for your life’s outcomes?
c. You need guidance and to be told what to do.

I think the only one that would apply to me is that I need support. I do have issues with depression, anxiety, and anorexia. I'm sure a therapist could really help but I have deep trust issues with therapists. I hope to get over those issues one day and see a therapist.

2. Thinking of the main male lover in your life, what is sex for him:
a. stress relief, tension reliever
b. a way to show love
c. something exciting he likes to do

Umm. I think all of the above would be correct.

3. Do you feel a partner is being invasive for wanting to know your plans and inner thoughts?

That would depend on how that partner approached the subject. Most of the time I believe it's just curiosity or just wanting to be a part of my life in all areas because they care. I like being asked about my plans and thoughts. It makes me feel important to my partner.

4. In your opinion, what is intimate sharing?

Is that when you fluid swap during sex? Maybe I'm wrong about that.

5. Would you enjoy a weekend by yourself, without the company of your partner? Where would you go? What would you do?

I don't really care for being alone. I would rather be with a partner or at least a friend. CPTSD tends to make me think bad things when I'm alone. If I had my way, I'd go to the beach. That's my favorite place in the whole world. I would swim in the ocean and listen to the waves. That is definitely my happy place.

Bonus: Would you buy an outfit that you love, knowing that your partner will hate it? Then would you wear it as well?

I would buy it regardless of what my partner thinks. I would not wear it when going out with said partner though. I would wear it when I wasn't with them.




Husband:
1. Why would you go to a therapist?
a. You need support
b. You want to take responsibility for your life’s outcomes?
c. You need guidance and to be told what to do

I don't think I would go to a therapist for any of these reasons. To be honest, I don't even know if I should see a therapist. For the most part I am able to work through my issues, albeit slowly and at my own pace.

2. Thinking of the main male lover in your life, what is sex for him:
a. stress relief, tension reliever
b. a way to show love
c. something exciting he likes to do

The main male lover in my life is me, so I will sidestep this and answer about the main female lover; d. all the above

3. Do you feel a partner is being invasive for wanting to know your plans and inner thoughts?

I don't feel like Wife is invasive at all. It doesn't bother me to share all the things. I have had difficulty sharing in the past, but mostly because I didn't feel like what was in my head was worth sharing. This year I have changed that and have opened myself up completely. I still have times where I don't think to share without some prompting, and it is just because it is new to be forthcoming without a probe.

4. In your opinion, what is intimate sharing?

I am unfamiliar with the phrase, so just going off first impressions I will say that it is sharing my intimacy with others. To me, that means something as simple as hug up to sex. So, in my opinion, I like the sound of it, but I am working up to being able to share higher intimacy if a relationship ever came up other than with Wife.

5. Would you enjoy a weekend by yourself, without the company of your partner? Where would you go? What would you do?

Would I enjoy a weekend by myself, possibly, but not anywhere near the amount of enjoyment I would get with my partner. I prefer to be able to spend time with Wife, being alone leaves me feeling empty. I would go outdoors somewhere, doing something fun. I would love to end it cuddled up on a blanket somewhere, making romance all over the blanket.

Bonus: Would you buy an outfit that you love, knowing that your partner will hate it? Then would you wear it as well?

If I loved an outfit, yes I would buy it. I would definitely not wear it when going out with Wife, because the whole time I would feel like I should be changing outfits rather than enjoying wearing something I love.


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TMI Tuesday: September 12, 2017

Greetings! Have a wonderful week, start it off with TMI Tuesday.



Ash
1. What is your reality?
I'm dealing with a bout of depression. I have been thinking a lot of not nice things about myself and when I look in the mirror, I feel disgusted. I have two amazing guys in my life right now that have been helping me feel better though. My husband and Jack always make me feel beautiful and sexy. Other than that, I'm dealing with always feeling tired because I can't seem to get myself to bed at a decent hour.

2. Will you have sex today? This week?
Well, I just got a text from my husband saying that he is planning on using a new toy on me tonight. So, I think that's a yes. Hopefully that won't be the last time I have sex this week.

3. What did you hate doing this past weekend?
I hated being without my husband all day on Saturday because his boss forced him to work.

4. What did you love doing this past weekend?
I got to go to my niece's birthday party. I love little kid birthday parties! I also watched Lego Batman, which was great. I got fucked really good on Sunday night as well. That was probably my favorite part.

5. Which new technology have you found most helpful in your life? Which do you find to be the most annoying?
Google calendar is amazing. I know it isn't new but I just started using it a couple years ago when I switched from iPhone to Android. I love that I can put things on the calendar and just invite my husband to the events so he knows everything that's going on. I used to just tell him and he would never remember. I have a lot less stress now when he uses it. I guess that is a lame answer. I don't use a lot of technological things. I don't think a technological thing annoys me. Mostly it's just the people using it. Like people who can't enjoy your company without being on their phone.

Bonus: Go do last week’s TMI questions that were posted on Friday. Great questions!

1. You are going to make a sexy weekend with your lover. Which one are you most likely to enjoy? Which of the activities is most likely to happen?
a. Cook dinner together
b. Play a sexy game
c. Take a bath together
I want to choose take a bath together but we would have to find a tub big enough for that. I'm not a small girl and my tub is tiny. I do love playing sexy games though. So, if a big tub isn't available, I'll go with sexy games.

2. Will you watch porn this weekend? Alone or with someone?
I watch porn every day on Twitter. Sometimes my husband watches with me, but I mostly watch it by myself.

3. Sexy games–pick one you’d like to play? Why?
a. Naked twister or
b. Strip trivial pursuit
Hmmm. I don't think I would feel comfortable playing Naked Twister. I would be too busy feeling self conscious. I like the idea of Strip Trivial Pursuit. My husband and I played a game of Strip Uno in the past. That was super fun. I'm pretty sure I lost.

3. Friday night you hit happy hour, you meet a super sexy woman/man and the two of you chat and laugh the night away. She/he leans into you and says, “You’re irresistible, can I touch your pussy/cock?’ What is your answer?
"Oh my! Yes, please."

4. What do you really have planned for the weekend?
My husband and I are going camping with a friend on Saturday night. My daughter has soccer pictures and a game right after on Sunday.

5. Does this TMI on a Friday have you changing your weekend plans?
Nope.

Bonus: What you like to do on the weekend but never seem to get the chance?
Rest and relax. I always seem to keep myself very busy. Even when I really just want to take some time to relax. I recently discovered that this may be because of my CPTSD.





Husband
1. What is your reality?
My reality is an ever shifting pathway. Some days I shift closer to madness, other days I feel incredible. I am evolving, in what feels like two steps forward and one step back; cautiously, with the taste of paranoia on my tongue. I struggle with accepting who I am, who I have become, keeping a balance in my mind. My reality is that many times I am not okay inside, but that in itself is not wrong, and that I can ask for help, even when sometimes I don't want to. My reality is confronting the fears and demons and jealousies that I have avoided for years.

2. Will you have sex today? This week?
After work tonight I have plans for Wife and I and some toys, so yes, sex tonight. This week, I can't imagine why not, Wife is hot and I want that body and mine to make music together.

3. What did you hate doing this past weekend?
I hated having to work early after being at work the previous night late, not to mention that it was a long day of work and I felt exhausted mentally and physically.

4. What did you love doing this past weekend?
I gave time to my daughter to practice soccer on Saturday even though I was exhausted. I had some great conversation about reconnection with the Wife, followed up by some good hard fucking.

5. Which new technology have you found most helpful in your life? Which do you find to be the most annoying?
Google is one of my favorite companies for all the services they provide for me. Being able to sign in to any device or computer and have all of my data right there is fantastic. Having Calendar that is shared between myself and Wife for planning, Inbox for it's easy mail sorting and reminder creation, and Keep which I use to jot down random notes, or work on TMI Tuesdays! I also love using Wunderlist for creating lists. Wife and I have shared lists for shopping, movies, books. I keep book lists, have a shared book list with my brother, and many other useful lists.

Bonus: Go do last week’s TMI questions that were posted on Friday. Great questions!

1. You are going to make a sexy weekend with your lover. Which one are you most likely to enjoy? Which of the activities is most likely to happen?
a. Cook dinner together
b. Play a sexy game
c. Take a bath together

Most likely to happen; cooking together. Wife and I work really well together in the kitchen most of the time, and I really enjoy our time when we do. Most likely to enjoy; taking a bath together. We so rarely get the chance to take baths together, but when we do it is such amazingly simple intimacy that I cherish them.

2. Will you watch porn this weekend? Alone or with someone?
I will likely watch some porn on Wife's Twitter feed which I actually really enjoy, though I may not put much emphasis on that. So yeah, EMPHASIS! *grins*

3. Sexy games–pick one you’d like to play? Why?
a. Naked twister or
b. Strip trivial pursuit
I don't think I would enjoy Naked Twister, not being of the nudity, but because I am horribly inflexible and would likely hurt myself playing. I would rather play Strip Trivial Pursuit, that sounds more fun.

3. Friday night you hit happy hour, you meet a super sexy woman/man and the two of you chat and laugh the night away. She/he leans into you and says, “You’re irresistible, can I touch your pussy/cock?’ What is your answer?
First I have to say I would likely be flabbergasted and blown away that someone would actually be interested in me (low self esteem issues, no hating). Secondly I would like to think that I would say yes, but I don't know if I would be too in shock to not be timid about it. Time will tell I guess, right?

4. What do you really have planned for the weekend?
Sadly the first thing I have to do is work on Saturday morning, but then camping with Wife and friend/s. Outdoor sex. Maybe movie on Sunday?

5. Does this TMI on a Friday have you changing your weekend plans?
Yes! I totally plan on looking into our gaming closet to see which games can be converted into sexy stripping games.

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TMI Tuesday: September 5, 2017

There were no TMI Tuesday questions posted today, so I decided to go back in time and answer some questions that I missed. These are from May 16, 2017.




Wife:
1. If you and your significant other played “sexual truth or dare” with other couples, would you rather watch your s.o. have sex with someone or would you prefer having sex with someone in front of your s.o.?
I would rather us both be having sex if we were both present. I know that isn't the question though. So, my answer is that I would rather be the one having sex. The first reason being that I love sex and always want it. The second reason being that I know Husband enjoys watching me have sex with other people.

2. Would you rather watch your favorite porn with your sibling or read your favorite sexy erotica out loud to your parent(s)?
I would probably want to read erotica to my parents. My mom passed away, but when she was alive, we talked about sex all the time. She told me things about her sex life and gave me tips on mine. I was always open about sex with her. My dad is just like me. He's addicted to sex and is constantly thinking about it. I didn't meet him until I was like 26 though. I am pretty sure I wouldn't care about reading erotica to him.

3. To get sexually aroused, would you rather watch girl on girl porn or guy on guy porn?
I love guy on guy porn! It's fucking hot as hell. There's just something really sexy about seeing a man get fucked by another man. I also love watching men suck cock. Almost every girl on girl porn that I've seen just looks fake and overdone. Girl on girl porn is just made for men to fantasize over. It's not realistic or sexy.

4. Would you rather have sex with your boss, in an office conference room or masturbate at home knowing that your neighbor is watching?
Well, I don't have a boss. If I did, though, I would definitely want to get fucked by him/her. That's actually a really big fantasy of mine. Having the boss bend me over the desk and fuck me. OMG, YES!

5. Based on your current mood, would you rather try out new and kinky sex ideas or have romantic sex?
I almost always prefer kinky sex and I love to try new things.


Bonus: Would you rather have three kids and no money or no kids with three million dollars?
Oh goodness. I hate the thought of not having my kid but I also hate the idea of having two more kids. Ugh. This question sucks. The money doesn't even really factor into my decision because money isn't that important to me. Alright, I think I have to go with no kids. I don't think I could handle three. I would lose my mind.


Husband:
1. If you and your significant other played “sexual truth or dare” with other couples, would you rather watch your s.o. have sex with someone or would you prefer having sex with someone in front of your s.o.?

I would rather watch Wife with someone else. Once I got over being nervous about it, I am sure I would enjoy watching and hearing her enjoy herself.

2. Would you rather watch your favorite porn with your sibling or read your favorite sexy erotica out loud to your parent(s)?

I would rather watch my favorite porn with my sibling/s than read anything erotic to my parents. My parents have always shied away from anything sexual as far back as I can remember. I never got a talk about the"birds and the bees", wet dreams, puberty in general. Anytime sex is mentioned they seem to withdraw, specifically my mom.

3. To get sexually aroused, would you rather watch girl on girl porn or guy on guy porn?

I would rather watch girl on girl porn. I have not seen enough good guy on guy porn for that option to be valid for me.

4. Would you rather have sex with your boss, in an office conference room or masturbate at home knowing that your neighbor is watching?

This is a loaded question for me. All my bosses are men that I do not find attractive in the least bit, and I don't think I would be able to masturbate knowing a neighbor is watching me.

5. Based on your current mood, would you rather try out new and kinky sex ideas or have romantic sex?

Probably new and/or kinky sex ideas. I would enjoy either, but lately my brain has been going more towards playing with new things than romantic sex. I do miss the romantic sex from time to time though.


Bonus: Would you rather have three kids and no money or no kids with three million dollars?

I would rather have three kids with no money. Being a father has been one of the most amazing inspirational things I have ever been part of. I cannot imagine giving that up for anything.

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