TMI Tuesday: January 30, 2018

Another day, another week, another TMI Tuesday.

ABCs of TMI



Ash:
1. I will never again _____ .
Do electrical sensation play. I tried that once and almost died. Okay, I didn't really almost die but it sure felt like it. My body is super conductive and I can't tolerate electricity running through my body. That's a hard limit for me.

2. I stash _____ in my closet.
Presents that I get for people, board games, old Nintendo Power magazines, and boxes of junk that I don't want to get rid of but don't know why I keep it. Husband says closets are not meant for storing things other than clothes. I guess I won that argument.

3. Are you embarrassed when strangers start talking about their sex life to you?
Not at all! I love when people talk to me about their sex life. It's my favorite thing to talk about.

4. Would you date someone who is celibate?
I think that would be very difficult for me but if I really cared about someone that much, I would be fine without sex as long as there was a lot of cuddly bonding time.

5. What percentage does each of these activities–work, play, household, sex, rest/sleep have in your life? (Must equal 100%)
Work: 10%
Play:15%
Household:30%
Sex: 10%
Sleep: 35%

Bonus: How do you decompress at the end of each day? How would you like to decompress at the end of each day?
I look at Twitter, play the Walking Dead game on my phone, sometimes watch a movie, and sometimes have sex. I like having sex at the end of the day. It helps me sleep.



Husband:
1. I will never again _____ .
Do cliff jumping. A combination of vertigo and fear/dislike of water will probably not end well.

2. I stash _____ in my closet.
HeroQuest game, Magic the Gathering cards, and dress shoes.

3. Are you embarrassed when strangers start talking about their sex life to you?
I'm not embarrassed. I really enjoy talking to people about their sex life, my sex life, and answering questions that other people may be judgemental about.

4. Would you date someone who is celibate?
I would but touch would have to be involved. It wouldn't have to be sexual touch but touch would definitely have to be part of the relationship.

5. What percentage does each of these activities–work, play, household, sex, rest/sleep have in your life? (Must equal 100%)
Work: 40%
Play: 15%
Household: 10%
Sex: 10%
Sleep: 25%

Bonus: How do you decompress at the end of each day? How would you like to decompress at the end of each day?
Cuddling in bed with Wife. Cuddling in bed with Wife, touches, sex, and sometimes reading.

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TMI Tuesday: January 23, 2018

Let’s talk faves, the most, and perfection at TMI Tuesday blog.




Ash:
1. Favorite childhood memory?
I had an awful childhood filled with horrible abuse, so there aren't a lot of good memories to look back on. There is one thing that I have very fond memories about though. I loved riding in my step-dad's 1969 Camaro. He was a mechanic, so he had it all souped up. I would sit in the back seat with my sisters and he would drive really fast. It was so loud that it felt as if my chest may explode. I couldn't stop smiling while riding in that car. I'm sure this is why I have a deep love for muscle cars and driving fast.

2. Favorite moment in the last 3 months?
I saw Evanescence live with an orchestra and it was fucking amazing. When they played Lithium, it made me cry. It was a very beautiful and powerful concert.

3. Favorite drink on a hot summer day?
I love drinking iced tea on hot summer days. Sweet tea or unsweetened tea. Both are very yummy.

4. Perfect day out: what, where, with whom?
Swimming in the ocean, at a beach in California, with my family.

5. Your most unexpected achievement?
I guess I could say getting my husband to agree to opening our marriage. It's something I've wanted for a long time but he was just not on board with it. Then, one night, he just decided that it was a good idea. I was not expecting that.

Bonus: The kindest thing you ever did for a stranger?
I've done a lot of kind things for strangers. I always help when I see an opportunity. The thing that sticks with me the most is something that happened back when I was in college. I used to volunteer at a soup kitchen a few times every month. One night, one of the regulars came in and just seemed off. After I finished my responsibilities, I went over to the table where he was sitting and just talked to him. I didn't talk to him like he was a homeless man. I just talked to him like a person. We had been talking for a while when he reached out and took my hand and thanked me for treating him with such kindness. I could tell I really helped make him feel better that day and I never forgot the smile he had on his face every time he saw me there. All I did was talk to him and that meant the world to him. Never underestimate your ability to change someone's life.



Husband:
1. Favorite childhood memory?
When my family, immediate and cousins, as well as the neighborhood kids would get together and play our own slightly complicated version of dodgeball in my backyard. We spent many summer days over quite a few years playing this game most of the afternoon into the evening hours.

2. Favorite moment in the last 3 months?
Recently with work being as demanding as it has been something as simple as having a full weekend is a joyous occasion for me. So when I had three days off for Christmas and was able to visit with family I don't see very often it was an outstanding moment.

3. Favorite drink on a hot summer day?
Iced tea with honey and lemon.

4. Perfect day out: what, where, with whom?
It's night and there is a bonfire with my loved ones and close friends all around it. We are enjoying the company and the fire and the closeness something so simply primal brings to us all.

5. Your most unexpected achievement?
I think my most unexpected achievement was discovering a passion and a drive for a career into wastewater treatment. At the time I actually had a mentor for it, and then went on to get an operator's license from the state (which has since expired).

Bonus: The kindest thing you ever did for a stranger?
I used to do a lot of community service in high school, but I don't recall much about it. I've given food to people who didn't have any, helped pay for people's gas when they were stranded, I've listened to people in nursing homes talk when all they needed was someone to talk to. I don't think I could say that any of these things are beyond every day kindness though. So maybe I'm just not a jerk to people and that in itself is the best kindness I offer often.

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TMI Tuesday: January 16, 2018

Hey, what’s a nice person like you doing in a sexy place like this? Oh, playing TMI Tuesday.

Tell the Truth



Ash:
1. A friend gave you a pie touting it as a favorite family recipe, and you ate this pie and got sick–or had an allergic reaction. The friend calls a few days later to ask, “How did you like the pie?” What would you say?
I would tell them that I appreciated the kind gesture but that the pie made me sick. I couldn't lie about it and I'd want them to figure out what they did wrong that caused the sickness so that it wouldn't happen to anyone else.

2. Your significant other really wants to try the “swingers’ lifestyle” but you really do not want to do this. Do you:
a. Tell him/her no, you are not interested
b. Do it, and go along to make her/him happy
c. Say yes, because you’ll try anything once
d. Say no, with no explanation and forbid your significant other from venturing into swinging.
While my first reaction is to say A because I don't think that I would be interested in the swinging lifestyle, I do always say, "I'll try anything twice." So, I would probably try it but then I'd be honest if I didn't like it.

3. Have you texted nude photos to someone and had it come back to bite you in the ass–as is someone taking revenge for your misjudgement?
Not that I know of. I don't share nude photos with many people.

4. Have you or would you ever stop having a relationship with someone who had a weight problem, and their physique drastically changed?
If I was only in a relationship with someone because of the way they looked, the relationship was not very strong in the first place. I would never leave someone because they gained or lost weight.

5. Would you rather find true love or win the lottery with winnings of $10,000 (usd)?
I've already found true love, so I hope that I could keep my love and win the lottery. If I would have to give up my love for the money, I wouldn't do it. Money doesn't mean much to me.

Bonus: Which topic of conversation do you avoid at all costs–politics or religion?
I don't have any problem discussing politics with someone who knows how to have a healthy debate. I actually enjoy discussing politics. Even if the person doesn't know how to debate properly, it feels nice to get rid of all the people who are filled with hate and stupidity after discussing politics with them. I hate discussing religion though. I will do it, but I get anxiety about people judging me for being an atheist. I've been told too many times that I'm an awful person with no morals and that I'm going to hell. I'm just done with all of that talk. I hate religion.



Husband:
1. A friend gave you a pie touting it as a favorite family recipe, and you ate this pie and got sick–or had an allergic reaction. The friend calls a few days later to ask, “How did you like the pie?” What would you say?
I would be honest saying that I did not care for it, but leave it at that. I would not want to make them feel bad.

2. Your significant other really wants to try the “swingers’ lifestyle” but you really do not want to do this. Do you:
a. Tell him/her no, you are not interested
b. Do it, and go along to make her/him happy
c. Say yes, because you’ll try anything once
d. Say no, with no explanation and forbid your significant other from venturing into swinging.
The most likely answer I would give would be A. We have had conversations talking about swinging in general, and it is not something either of us is interested in.

3. Have you texted nude photos to someone and had it come back to bite you in the ass–as is someone taking revenge for your misjudgement?
Thankfully no. I have not sent nudes to many people at all. Lack of direct requests, lack of comfortability, or excessive modesty are all directly related to my not sending nudes.

4. Have you or would you ever stop having a relationship with someone who had a weight problem, and their physique drastically changed?
Never. I am not having a relationship with someone's weight.

5. Would you rather find true love or win the lottery with winnings of $10,000 (usd)?
True love over money every time.

Bonus: Which topic of conversation do you avoid at all costs–politics or religion?
Politics mostly. I can thoroughly enjoy religious conversation, topics, debates. Politics gets me either aggravated because of current situations, or out of my depth because of a lack of understanding.

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TMI Tuesday: January 9, 2018

We’re getting nosy. After all, this is TMI Tuesday!

Nosy

What does a nosy pepper do? Gets jalapeno business. 😀


Ash:
1. How old is your longest living relative?
I'm the black sheep of the family, so there are a lot of people who don't talk to me. The oldest relative that I am in contact with is my grandpa, who will be 81 next week.

2. Do you hope to live to this age? Why?
Sure. As long as I'm not alone and unhappy, I'd love to live for as long as possible. Getting old doesn't sound appealing but it's better than dying.

3. What is your family’s native language? Your native language?
English. We're boring, I guess.

4. How old were you when you started dating?
I was 13.

5. How old were you when you first had sex–any kind of sex?
I was sexually assaulted when I was 14 and forced to perform oral sex on a 22 year old man. If we are talking about consensual sex, I was 15 when I started giving oral sex to guys. I lost my virginity at 16.

Bonus: How would you describe your sense of humor?
My sense of humor is often dark and inappropriate. I'm not easily amused, but when I am amused, I laugh so much that I cry. I enjoy a dry sense of humor.



Husband:
1. How old is your longest living relative?
My uncle is 65. All my grandparents have sadly passed away within the last five years.

2. Do you hope to live to this age? Why?
I hope to live forever. I don't plan to die. There are so many experiences to be part of and places to visit that I could spend the rest of many lifetimes a part of this life.

3. What is your family’s native language? Your native language?
English for both. Nothing fancy to see here, please move along folks.

4. How old were you when you started dating?
I was 17 and extremely naive.

5. How old were you when you first had sex–any kind of sex?
Also 17 and naive.

Bonus: How would you describe your sense of humor?
Dark, morbid, dry.

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TMI Tuesday: January 2, 2018

Happy 2018! Don’t know about you but my year 2017 was less than a blur. I hope your 2018 is healthy, happy, and prosperous. Here’s the first TMI Tuesday of the new year.





As usual, let’s review the past year.


Ash:
1. Did you make any resolutions at the start of 2017? If yes, how did you do at keeping them? What one thing are you still doing?
My only resolution was to give Husband more blow jobs. I started off really well for the first half of the year, but I didn't do so well during the second half. If at first you don't succeed, try try again, right?

2. Pick three words to describe your year 2017.
Fail. Lonely. Overwhelming.

3. What was your biggest personal change in 2017?
I stopped making myself feel bad for the things I need in my life to be happy.

4. What was totally unexpected in your 2017?
My girlfriend broke up with me and I didn't see that coming at all. When that happened, I confided in a friend, Jack. We started talking every day and I fell really hard for him. I didn't see that coming either.

5. What was the best thing that happened to you in 2017?
My LDR with Jack.

Bonus: Did you make new year resolutions for 2018? Share a few with us? Any of them repeats from 2017?
I didn't make any official resolutions for 2018. I plan to continue the blow job one from 2017 and I'm also making it a priority to travel to see Jack at least once this year.



Husband:
1. Did you make any resolutions at the start of 2017? If yes, how did you do at keeping them? What one thing are you still doing?
I wanted to do two things at the start of the year; to get into better physical shape and to learn some practical skill like knitting. I completely blew it with both of those. However, after the year started getting traction I wanted to work on my communication and confrontation issues. This has been a work in progress, and will likely stay that way, but I feel like I have made measureable strides in this and I am proud of myself.

2. Pick three words to describe your year 2017.
Growth. Acceptance. Love.

3. What was your biggest personal change in 2017?
Not letting my emotions build up within me. I finally accepted that I could feel the way I felt and express that without an emotional eruption.

4. What was totally unexpected in your 2017?
I did not have an exact timeline for when I would say I was okay to open our relationship, though it was something that had been stewing for years. I think the fact that it surfaced was unexpected for me.

5. What was the best thing that happened to you in 2017?
Working on my communication and opening up with my emotions. While I still had my emotional ups and downs, my fits and bouts of jealousy, wild rides of anxiety, talking about them before they became deep hurts has been great.

Bonus: Did you make new year resolutions for 2018? Share a few with us? Any of them repeats from 2017?
Getting in shape hits the list again. I would like to continue working on my communication and confrontation issues. I want to really focus on some date nights because I have been horrible at this for more than I am comfortable with.

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