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It's time for TMI Tuesday!
The Comfort and Thrill of Sex
Ash:
1. How do you feel about giving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger, or sex toys)?
a. I love it.
b. I enjoy it.
c. I’m ok with it.
d. I don’t really enjoy it.
e. I don’t enjoy it at all.
f. I have never given anal sex.
g. I have never given anal sex but would like to start.
d. I don't really enjoy it. I'm a germaphobe and butt stuff causes me to have so much anxiety. I have pushed past that in the past and explored anal play/pegging with Husband because I wanted to give him pleasure but it's something I haven't done in a long time and I honestly don't miss it. I do, however, enjoy watching Husband have anal sex with other people. I miss that.
2. How do you feel about receiving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger or sex toys)?
a. I love it.
b. I enjoy it.
c. I’m ok with it.
d. I don’t enjoy it at all.
e. I have never received anal sex.
f. I have never received anal sex, but would like to start.
b. I enjoy it. Husband and I usually have anal sex a few times a year and it's something I have grown to enjoy. I just don't want it often. My partner has to be really careful about cross contamination though because of my germ phobia. If your finger was in my butt, please don't touch me until you've washed your hands. And never go from ass to vagina or mouth.
3. How do you feel about getting undressed in front of a new lover, for the first time, as he/she watches you?
a. It’s a turn on for me.
b. It turns me on a little bit.
c. I like it, but only because it gets him/her going.
d. It does nothing for me.
e. I don’t like doing it because I am shy.
f. I don’t like doing it because I think it’s immoral/improper.
e. I don't like doing it because I am shy. Okay, I'm actually not shy. I'm just self-conscious. I don't feel comfortable getting naked until I know they love my body. Otherwise, I just worry that they won't be attracted to me.
4. Do you express your sexual pleasure with moans, groans, sighs, and other noises (provided that you are actually turned on)?
a. Yes, each time I have sex (90-100% of the time).
b. Yes, on most occasions (70-89% of the time).
c. Yes, on some occasions (40-69% of the time).
d. Yes, on a few occasions (10-39% of the time).
e. Yes, but only on special occasions (1-9% of the time).
f. Never, not even when I am really turned on.
a. Yes, each time I have sex (90-100% of the time). If it feels good, I will let you know with lots of little sounds. It's actually pretty easy to know when you're doing something that feels really good for me because I am very vocal.
5. Do you talk to your partner in a sexually explicit way?
a. Talking dirty is one of our favorite activities.
b. Occasionally, I like to talk dirty with my partner, and I do it with ease.
c. I talk dirty with my partner, but it feels awkward.
d. I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but I don’t dare for fear of being judged or ridiculed.
e. I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but she/he isn’t into it.
f. I don’t talk in such a way because I think it is inappropriate.
g. I don’t talk in such a way because I can’t bring myself to do it.
This is a difficult one to answer. I will say b, occasionally. I like to talk dirty with my partner, and I do it with ease...just not often during sex. I find it incredibly difficult to talk during sex. It's like that part of my brain shuts down and I have a very hard time forming words. But when I'm not having sex? I love to talk about all the dirty things.
6. What kind of animal do you most sound like when building to a climax?
a. quiet little mouse
b. low moaning wolf
c. screeching beluga whale
I'm much louder than a quiet little mouse and I definitely don't scream. So, I will go with a moaning wolf. I've gotten a lot of compliments on my moan. So, apparently, it sounds good, whatever animal it sounds like.
Bonus: Which do you prefer: comfort sex or thrill-seeking sex? Why?
Comfort seekers value deep intimacy, quiet engagement, and trust over time of familiar relationships. For them, sex is best as a safe, loving nurturing space.*
Thrill seekers value wild energy, adventure, and novelty; they are willing to try open relationships, testing themselves outside average sexual practices. These folks crave a place to push the boundaries of new experiences.*
I am most definitely a thrill seeker. I love to experience new things and have my boundaries pushed. Adventure and wild energy is exciting and I am here for it.
Husband:
1. How do you feel about giving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger, or sex toys)?
a. I love it.
b. I enjoy it.
c. I’m ok with it.
d. I don’t really enjoy it.
e. I don’t enjoy it at all.
f. I have never given anal sex.
g. I have never given anal sex but would like to start.
a. I love it. I think that anal play was the first deviant thing I encountered and it sank deep inside of me. I love giving anal sex, but sometimes the idea of it gets me revved up yet the act of it (with my cock) doesn't live up to the hype. Wife has a spectacularly magical pussy and it is my absolute favorite place to put my cock. I do treasure any opportunity that I am gifted with Wife's ass, I am not going to turn away any of her holes!
2. How do you feel about receiving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger, or sex toys)?
a. I love it.
b. I enjoy it.
c. I’m ok with it.
d. I don’t enjoy it at all.
e. I have never received anal sex.
f. I have never received anal sex, but would like to start.
a. I love it. / b. I enjoy it. I am unsure about whether I love it or enjoy it. It's been a long time since I've felt the desire to receive anal. Between my overall mental comfort level / health and sexual priorities it hasn't really floated to the top of what I want to do.
3. How do you feel about getting undressed in front of a new lover, for the first time, as he/she watches you?
a. It’s a turn on for me.
b. It turns me on a little bit.
c. I like it, but only because it gets him/her going.
d. It does nothing for me.
e. I don’t like doing it because I am shy.
f. I don’t like doing it because I think it’s immoral/improper.
b. It turns me on a little bit. / e. I don’t like doing it because I am shy. Mostly e. because I AM shy and nervous a lot. I am not self-conscious about my body, I am very much a comfortable nudist. Something about the idea of undressing for the first time while being watched evokes a feeling that I am performing, which I am very uncomfortable with. If I could get that part out of my head I would probably enjoy it quite a lot; knowing someone is interested in me makes me feel sexy.
4. Do you express your sexual pleasure with moans, groans, sighs, and other noises (provided that you are actually turned on)?
a. Yes, each time I have sex (90-100% of the time).
b. Yes, on most occasions (70-89% of the time).
c. Yes, on some occasions (40-69% of the time).
d. Yes, on a few occasions (10-39% of the time).
e. Yes, but only on special occasions (1-9% of the time).
f. Never, not even when I am really turned on.
a. Yes, each time I have sex (90-100% of the time). I remember a time when I was conditioned by previous partners that I wasn't to make any noise because it ruined things for them. So it used to be an e. {Yes, but only on special occasions (1-9% of the time)} because even with that horrible conditioning I couldn't always help myself and would have been punished for it. Along comes GirlFriend, who is now Wife, who values hearing my pleasure and helped me start the journey of vocalizing my pleasure. Now, after many years it is ALL the time!
5. Do you talk to your partner in a sexually explicit way?
a. Talking dirty is one of our favorite activities.
b. Occasionally, I like to talk dirty with my partner, and I do it with ease.
c. I talk dirty with my partner, but it feels awkward.
d. I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but I don’t dare for fear of being judged or ridiculed.
e. I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but she/he isn’t into it.
f. I don’t talk in such a way because I think it is inappropriate.
g. I don’t talk in such a way because I can’t bring myself to do it.
b. Occasionally, I like to talk dirty with my partner, and I do it with ease. / c. I talk dirty with my partner, but it feels awkward. I sometimes feel very awkward about dirty talk, but I very much like it. I think if it came a little more naturally to me it would happen a lot more often. When I am feeling very sure of myself and have excess confidence from somewhere it flows and comes out much more easily.
6. What kind of animal do you most sound like when building to a climax?
a. quiet little mouse
b. low moaning wolf
c. screeching beluga whale
b. low moaning wolf; and now with even more growls!
Bonus: Which do you prefer: comfort sex or thrill-seeking sex? Why?
Comfort seekers value deep intimacy, quiet engagement, and trust over time of familiar relationships. For them, sex is best as a safe, loving nurturing space.*
Thrill seekers value wild energy, adventure, and novelty; they are willing to try open relationships, testing themselves outside average sexual practices. These folks crave a place to push the boundaries of new experiences.*
I have spent more time in my life seeking comfort sex over thrill-seeking because of difficulty knowing what I want and asking for it. I'm trying to learn to go for the things that excite me and seek thrills more. It is still a new and slightly daunting endeavor for me, but I do feel very safe working through all of this now that I am working on myself.
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