TMI Tuesday: November 28, 2017

Getting frisky and bold, are you? Prove it, play TMI Tuesday.


Spice it up!



Ash:
1. Why should you have sex on a first date?
If it is consensual, there's no reason for you to abstain. If you feel it, then go for it. Life is short. Go for it.

2. Why do you dislike giving oral sex?
I love giving oral sex. I do sometimes have anxiety about it because of the time I was sexually assaulted when I was 14. I have mostly healed from that though. It rarely comes up.

3. Tongue or no tongue? Explain.
It depends if they are good with their tongue. I don't want to be slobbered on. I also don't want to feel like my mouth is being assaulted by their tongue. If they are a good kisser, then I'll most definitely take tongue.

4. Would you have a sugar daddy or sugar mama?
I'd love to have one, honestly. As long as they don't think I'm taking advantage of them and they enjoy being my sugar daddy/mama.

5. What’s a sure sign that you need to get laid?
When I am sex deprived, I get very moody. I tend to snap about things and yell a lot. Little things that are not a big deal become a huge deal in my head. That's when I know I need sex.

Bonus: Right this very second, which do you prefer– to make love or fuck like a wild animal?
I would pick making love. I'm not in a good place in my head right now. I really just need to be held and made to feel safe. Hopefully, I'll be better soon.


Husband:
1. Why should you have sex on a first date?
I've never had sex on a first date. I am working on trying to live in the moment more and would go along with sex on the first date if it was brought up by the other person, I would not lead the way.

2. Why do you dislike giving oral sex?
I don't dislike giving oral sex, I personally love doing it. Pleasing my partner is a fantastic feeling for me.

3. Tongue or no tongue? Explain.
I think that as long as that tongue is used well, I am all for it.

4. Would you have a sugar daddy or sugar mama?
This would be incredible. I have probably dreamt silently about this ever since I heard about them.

5. What’s a sure sign that you need to get laid?
I start getting really withdrawn. I get disconnected and my emotions are all over the place. I tend to need a lot of touch and sex to seal it in.

Bonus: Right this very second, which do you prefer– to make love or fuck like a wild animal?
Making love would be magical. This season is always really difficult for so many reasons and a really solid reconnect like this can be essential for survival.

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TMI Tuesday: November 21, 2017

TMI Tuesday is up! Please join us for…

Past & Present



Ash:
1. What was your favorite band in high school?
Marilyn Manson

2. What is your favorite band now?
Blue October

3. What was your go to “make me feel better” food in high school?
Hmmm. I was very anorexic back then. I rarely ate food. If I did eat food, it was usually banana baby food. I'll go with that.

4. What is your go-to “make me feel better” food now? Why?
Ice cream. Ummm...why? Because...ice cream. That's why.

5. Fill in the blank: That _____ was then; this _____ is now.
Drag shows and gay bars; Burlesque shows and gay bars.

Bonus: Where were you and what were you doing on November 21, 2016?
During the day, I was home alone getting things prepped for my daughter's class party the next day. I'm always the room mother for class parties because apparently, I can party plan like a boss. In the evening, I took my daughter to a "Little Medical School" event at the library. Then, I came home and finished prepping for the class party. My life is super exciting.


Husband:
1. What was your favorite band in high school?
Cake or the Offspring

2. What is your favorite band now?
Vast or Remy Zero

3. What was your go to “make me feel better” food in high school?
50 piece bucket of McNuggets with ranch sauce. I think I didn't share this once but shared it every other time. The one time I didn't share was not pleasant later.

4. What is your go-to “make me feel better” food now? Why?
Cheesecake, because cheesecake is fucking amazing when it is well made. The texture and how heavy just sits well as comfort food.

5. Fill in the blank: That _____ was then; this _____ is now.
Back then I had not experienced depression at all; Now I am a high-level depressive.

Bonus: Where were you and what were you doing on November 21, 2016?
I don't remember what I was doing last year, but the year before that I was at the Missouri State Penitentiary for a prison tour with Wife. It was really awesome, other than the fact that it was ridiculously chilly throughout most of the tour.

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TMI Tuesday: November 14, 2017

Here is TMI Tuesday–all about Self-care.




Outside of regular hygiene activities–bathing, brushing teeth, hair care, let’s talk about what you do for self-care*.


Ash:
1. Have you ever had a professional massage? If yes, what type? If no, why not?
I have had a Swedish massage three times. The first time was wonderful. It was done at a really nice spa. It lasted for 90 minutes and it was amazing. It was so good that I signed Husband and myself up for a couples massage a few months later at the same place. That wasn't as great, but it was romantic. The last massage I received was at Massage Luxe and it was really shitty. I'm really sad that the other place closed so I can't go back there. I just get my massages at home now.

2. Do you engage in the following? Tell us all that apply and how often you do it
a. yoga - I do yoga on Tuesday mornings.
b. tai chi - Never done this.
c. float therapy - I did this for the first time on my birthday this year. It was a gift from Husband. It was very nice. I'll probably do it again.
d. run/jog - Haha. No.
e. workout–any that isn’t actually training for something but is for physical fitness maintenance - I have been slacking off in this area, but I try to go to the gym to work out M-F and sometimes Saturday.
f. other – what? -

3. How many hours of sleep do you average on a weeknight? Weekend?
Do you think you need more or less sleep?
My sleep schedule is fucked right now. In a perfect world, I would get to bed by midnight and wake between 8-10am. Lately, I haven't been getting to sleep until sometime between 2-5am. Sometimes I end up sleeping really late in the day and sometimes I get up early and have a hard time functioning throughout the day. My body feels best when I sleep for 10 hours, but I can function alright on 8 hours. Anything less than that is just not good.

4. Which of the following are you most likely to add to your self-care routine and stick with it?
a. Schedule in a planner daily “me time”
b. Acupuncture
c. Take a moment at the end of each day and consciously list a few good things in your life.
d. Turn off phone and step away from computer/tablet for 4 hours a day
I should definitely start doing C. I do D a few times every week, but I could probably stand to do it more often. I doubt I'd stick with it though.

5. What do you do for self-care either physically, spiritually or emotionally?
Yoga is the biggest thing I do for self-care. I can definitely tell a difference in my mood when I get my yoga in every week. I don't really do anything else to take care of myself, unless you count masturbation. I'm not good at being nice to myself.

Bonus: Today, make sure you give yourself some love–self-care.
I'll try to do that.

*Self-care is activities and practices that you do on a regular basis to reduce stress and maintain and enhance our short- and longer-term health and well-being. Source: buffalo.edu




Husband:
1. Have you ever had a professional massage? If yes, what type? If no, why not?
Not counting the minute massages you receive while walking around conventions where chiropractors and other businesses are trying to get your patronage I have only had one professional massage. Wife set up a couples massage and it was wonderfully romantic.

2. Do you engage in the following? Tell us all that apply and how often you do it
a. yoga
b. tai chi
c. float therapy
d. run/jog
e. workout–any that isn’t actually training for something but is for physical fitness maintenance
f. other – what?

F. Other; for the most part sex is the only exercise I get. I do a lot of walking around and doing daily tasks at work that would also count as activity. I miss running and keep meaning to start a workout routine, but motivation seems to be lacking.

3. How many hours of sleep do you average on a weeknight? Weekend?
Do you think you need more or less sleep?
On an average weeknight I get 4-6 hours of sleep. On the weekend I average about 7-9 hours of sleep. I know more sleep during the week would benefit me, however, I tend to be a high functioning sleep deprived person.

4. Which of the following are you most likely to add to your self-care routine and stick with it?
a. Schedule in a planner daily “me time”
b. Acupuncture
c. Take a moment at the end of each day and consciously list a few good things in your life.
d. Turn off phone and step away from computer/tablet for 4 hours a day

I would say D simply because I know that towards the end of the day I most of the time feel like withdrawing anyway. I think I would like to start doing C also.

5. What do you do for self-care either physically, spiritually or emotionally?

Cuddling with my family is self care that spans all three of those areas. Reading works for emotional self care. I get out into nature for any spritual healing.

Bonus: Today, make sure you give yourself some love–self-care.


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