KOTW: Biting

Bite mark left by DJ

The Kink of the Week topic is biting. I have a complicated relationship with biting. Both giving and receiving. So, buckle in while I take you on a ride to explain it.

I used to absolutely love biting people. In fact, as a teenager, I used to bite a lot of my guy friends just to tease them. It was just a fun consensual thing between us. I even bit Husband a lot during the first few years of our relationship. He really loved it. I think it was one of his favorite things. I even still get the urge to bite sometimes when I see the smooth bare neck of someone that I'm attracted to.

I’m not sure when it happened but the sensation of biting skin started to feel bad on my teeth, like a dislike of the texture. I can’t even explain it but it just makes me feel icky. So, now, I will bite if asked but I don’t enjoy it. I hate that I don’t enjoy it anymore and I’m hoping that I outgrow it eventually. 

As far as having my own body bitten, that’s complicated as well. How much pain I enjoy is dependent upon a lot of things. For example, my menstrual cycle even affects it. If it's near my period, my skin is more sensitive so I really hate it. If I'm feeling more depressed, I love the extra pain. If I have been very anxious, I fall somewhere in the middle. That makes things complicated for my partner since they have to check with me about how I'm feeling before really attacking me with their teeth.

If everything lines up, I do enjoy being bitten but it also depends on the location on my body and the pressure of the bite. I really like my neck to be bitten but if it's too hard, it gives me anxiety. It sounds a bit different but I like having my arm bitten sometimes. Especially when my partner just grabs my arm and takes a bite. The skin is thicker there, so you can apply more pressure and it doesn't hurt as much.

There are a few places that are always a no when it comes to biting. Breasts, nipples, thighs, and labia are a hard no when it comes to being bitten hard. It's just way too sensitive. I do like nibbles though. Give me all the soft nibbles, please.

To be honest, it's more about the tongue for me than the teeth. I love soft sensations across my body. That drives me wild. That's a sure way to get me very wet.

When my partner bites me, I love admiring the marks left behind. I get butterflies in my tummy every time I feel the soreness or see the bruises. It reminds me about what happened and turns me on. It also makes me feel sexy because people can look at that and know that I've been being naughty. Mmmm.

So, when do I love to be bitten? During a rough/intense scene with power exchange, as long as it has been agreed upon before it takes place. During these scenes, I enjoy it but I'm also usually fighting a lot of urge to push my partner away and make them stop. So, having a safe word is a must. I also melt every time I'm being fucked from behind and I get bitten on the back of my neck. Unf. Soooo good. I think I ALWAYS enjoy that one. Licking, sucking, biting my neck as I get fucked. Yessss, I need that so much.

To sum it up, what I like is communication. Let's talk about it first so we have an idea about what each other likes. I just want to please my partner and I hope that my partner wants to please me. That's what it's all about.

TMI Tuesday: January 18, 2022

 You’re back, very good. Oh, you’re new here? Welcome. Let us play TMI Tuesday.

Bondage and Dwarfs

Ash:

1. What is one thing your significant other could do to you to rock your world?

Sensation play. It's definitely my biggest kink. I love it so much. It's the only thing that will get me to subspace, possibly so deeply that I pass out. I want all of the sensation play, please.

2. You have been granted the superpower you always wanted. How will you abuse that power? Why?

The superpower I have always wanted is teleportation. The only way I can think of to abuse that power is to use it when I'm in a situation that I'd rather not be in. Then *poof* I just teleport to the beach to clear my head. I mean, it might be considered kind of rude. I'm just way too nice to do anything too horrible.

3. For sexy play, would you rather be tied up or tie someone else up? Why?

I'd rather be tied up myself. I am very much a sub. I don't enjoy tying other people up. I've tried it and just wasn't into it. My brain is like, "Okay, you're restrained. Now what?" I would rather my partner be able to use their whole body with me during sexy time.

4. What is your best physical and non-physical asset?

Wow, this is a tough question. My best non-physical asset is probably that I'm a really good listener. People often come to me when they have issues that they need to talk about. I'm not judgy and I often have good advice if that's what they are looking for. If they aren't looking for advice, I also give really good hugs. For my best physical asset, it's probably my eyes. I get a lot of compliments on my eyes. People say they are really deep and soulful. 

5. Referring to Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, if they were naming new dwarfs beyond the seven what would your name be and why?

Sexilicious, of course! I mean, isn't it obvious?

Husband:

1. What is one thing your significant other could do to you to rock your world?

I know this may sound extremely corny and cheesy, but pausing what they are doing to see me when I come home from work, giving me a hug, and being there in the moment welcoming me home.

2. You have been granted the superpower you always wanted. How will you abuse that power? Why?

My superpower would be to alter reality with my imagination, allowing me to be more or less omnipotent. I do not have the time to tell you about all the ways I would abuse that power. I would definitely blow shit up randomly, put it back together, blow it up again. That seems like a nice safe thing to say on the internet. There are many more subtle cases of abuse of having that power that I would enjoy. From conversations over the years about exactly what I would do if I gained my superpower I have no doubts that I would be a supervillain, to begin with, then perhaps later become an anti-hero.

3. For sexy play, would you rather be tied up or tie someone else up? Why?

For sexy play, I would rather tie someone else up. I don't particularly enjoy the feeling of being restrained with ties and/or bonds because of poor experiences when I was younger. I feel like it is always giving me fight and flight responses rather than anything sexy. I do enjoy the feeling of power over someone else when tying them up, even if it is only a symbol of power.

4. What is your best physical and non-physical asset?

The best physical asset that is physically appealing to me is my eyes. I love the color of my eyes. I think the fact that they change color slightly during mood changes or when they change to clothing colors; can be quite intense to see. Non-physically my best asset would be my imagination. While sometimes it can be detrimental to me to have such an overactive imagination, it usually comes in handy keeping me occupied when I'm going about my day. When I daydream or read it's like I am actually there and I've been transported to a different place altogether and it's so incredible.

5. Referring to Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, if they were naming new dwarfs beyond the seven what would your name be and why?

Sneaky of course, because I sneak, and am good at it!