Tuesday, April 17, 2018

TMI Tuesday: April 17, 2018

TMI Tuesday this week is all about YOUR sexual guide.

Lovers Guide





Ash:
1. Write your 3 sexual commandments and share them here at TMI Tuesday.
Thou shalt practice safer sex.
Thou shalt be generous and giving.
Thou shalt not fake orgasms.

2. Tell us your 3 D’s of relationship destruction.
Dishonesty
Disrespect
Distance (emotional)

3. WikiHow lists several steps to seduce someone. What are your top 3 moves of seduction?
I don't think I'm very good at seducing people, but these are my usual moves:
1. Make eye contact.
2. Appear to be cute and innocent.
3. Talk about sexy things.

4. What is your sexual healing?
Intimacy is the biggest thing for me. Usually the intimacy comes before and after the sex though. Sex itself is very healing for me as well if it's really rough. It's kind of like fucking all the bad thoughts out of me. I think impact play is much more healing for me though.

5. Would you attend a class that taught you how to have an orgasm?
I'm having a hard time figuring out how that can be taught as a class. I know some women have a really hard time reaching orgasm but I'm not sure how taking a class could help them. I would think the best way to learn how to have an orgasm would be to explore your own body. Find out what feels good and what doesn't feel good. Figure out how you like to be touched and practice doing it. If you are still having trouble, it may be a good idea to visit a sex therapist.

Bonus: In which areas of your life are you overly confident?
Hmmm. I'm pretty confident in my blow job skills. That's about it. I'm sure I'm failing at everything else in life.



Husband:
1. Write your 3 sexual commandments and share them here at TMI Tuesday.
I. Have sex. II. Have sex often. III. Have fun having sex.

2. Tell us your 3 D’s of relationship destruction.
Distance (emotional and physical rather than spatial), Deceit (this one in my opinion speaks for itself), Differences (sometimes there are too many differences of too grand of a scale for things to continue to work).

3. WikiHow lists several steps to seduce someone. What are your top 3 moves of seduction?
I think being myself works. I know it doesn't work on everybody, which is probably a good thing, because I am more than a little weird. My smile I feel like is my best quality. I know that it makes me squint and tends to lean away from photogenic, but it is genuine. Goofiness would likely be another. I know that it may not always come across that way outwardly, but inwardly I sometimes just have to force myself to be more confident than I am, I think it helps.

4. What is your sexual healing?
Honestly I think just sex in general is a healing thing for me. My love language is touch, and having sex ties really closely into that. Sex can turn a bad day around into something positive.

5. Would you attend a class that taught you how to have an orgasm?
If it was something feasible for me to attend, then yes I would. I would love to see if there was something for me to learn and experience.

Bonus: In which areas of your life are you overly confident?
I think the one thing that I get overconfident about is some areas at work that I feel I have expertise in, I can sometimes come across as cocky when it involves wastewater related things, or big projects/work that I was involved in.

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Friday, April 13, 2018

Kink of the Week: Doggy Style

While I enjoy sex in almost any position I've tried, my favorite sex position is definitely doggy style. There are so many different reasons that I enjoy being fucked from behind. As I write about the things that I love about doggy style, Husband is going to add his comments (in bold) as well.

Sometimes, doggy style really caters to the submissive in me. I love to lie down on the bed, flat on my tummy, while Husband lies on top of me, using his weight to hold me down. He enters me from behind, using my pussy to get himself off. Being used like this makes me feel so dirty. I especially love when he calls me a slut while doing this because then it feels extra filthy. This is the only position that I really like to feel degraded and used in. It feels so hot that the only point of this is to get him off. Though, he always helps get me off after he cums, either using his mouth or his fingers. Over the last few years, this has been a very intense display of dominance from me, and one I thoroughly enjoy. Something about taking her and being in complete control, just because I want to is really enticing for me. I love being really foul mouthed about using her like this, especially when I hold her down with a hand grasping her ass, and my other entwined in her hair holding her head down. Very, very nice.

Another way it really pleases the submissive in me is when he's forceful with it. This is my favorite way to have sex in the doggy style position. I love when he takes control of me, pushing me down and pulling my hair. It feels so good when he uses my pigtails as handlebars. When he gets really into it, he grabs onto my hips, pulling me into him, fucking me HARD. I love when I can get into a really great rhythm and just pound the fuck out of her. It gets so loud that it sounds like I am spanking her when it is only our bodies colliding together. The sound of our bodies slamming together, the wetness of her pussy, and the immaculate moaning that she cannot contain is divine! Sometimes he spanks my ass, which always surprises me and makes me moan. He loves to stick his thumb in my ass during this kind of intense sex. Doggy style is my favorite position for many reasons. One of them being that I have a highly sensitive area to play with. Sometimes lightly running my fingers or tongue coaxing the most amazing purring out of her, sometimes a rough kneading of her muscles with my hands getting a deeper satisfied purr. Another reason is that the view is spectacular! A glowing pale skin that can still reflect the barest amount of light, no matter how dark it seems to be. Her curves are laid out in front of me to devour with my eyes. I get to see her beautiful pussy wet and ready for me, and her perfect tight little asshole that when I see it I want to touch it, play with it, be inside of it in some way. Then the best part is actually fucking her when she is bent over. It feels so primal and powerful to me. There is an energy transfer that is always going on, from both of us, a give and take that matches how we are outside of the bedroom. She isn't lying when she says that I love to stick my thumb up her ass when I fuck her from behind, it is intense to have control over her holes that way. Sometimes I try to resist and other times I just melt into it. Mmmm. I can easily rub my clit with my fingers or use a vibrator. We almost always cum together this way, which is really fucking hot. Rough doggy style gets me off so well.

I very much enjoy using butt plugs when having sex in the doggy style position. I like that Husband can look at the plug while fucking me. I know that turns him on so much. I love how I can feel every thrust move the plug in my ass. We often fantasize or role play that someone else is fucking my ass as he is fucking my pussy. DP is a huge turn on for both of us. We fantasize about DP in missionary as well, but he's usually in my ass and a dildo is in my pussy when we do that. Getting permission to put a butt plug, or other toy into her ass ahead of time is like Halloween and Christmas all at once! It is such a turn on that I get chills and can hardly stop myself from shaking with excitement. I love being able to watch the butt plug move every time I thrust in and out of her, it makes it really difficult to hold myself together and not cum really quickly. Even better is when I get myself set up with a strap-on using my cock in her pussy with the dildo in her ass. Being able to fuck both of her holes and fill her up while she gets to fantasize about more than one partner inside of her is exquisite.

I don't often feel very dominant in the bedroom. However, when I am feeling like taking control, doggy style is my favorite way to do it. I'll admit that I'm not the best at cowgirl sex. Because genetics sometimes screw you over, I have really bad knees that like to lock up and feel like they are going to explode. So, I don't often ride on top. Doggy style creates an easier alternative to this. After Husband enters me from behind, I can be the one in charge of the thrusting. I love to thrust back, shoving his cock deep inside my pussy. I can control the depth, speed, and hardness of the thrusts. I love making Husband cum like this. It makes me feel so empowered. I absolutely love when she feels like taking some control in the bedroom, but I have to admit it is best when she is bent over in front of me and I just hold myself readily available for her. I love how much I feel like she really wants my cock inside of her, and she is not afraid to show just how much she wants it by bucking against me.

Doggy style is also the perfect position for sex in random places. I've been bent over in an old abandoned house, grabbing onto a post for stabilization. I've also been fucked in the bathrooms of quite a few of my friend's and family's houses, bent over a sink, trying to not make any noises that would give away what we were doing in there. Sex in public is also great in this position. It's an easy position to do without having to take off too many clothing items and you can stop quickly and look innocent if someone happens to come along. Husband and I like to fuck on our balcony like this. He bends me over the railing and fucks me from behind. Once, a neighbor was sitting in their car right outside and could see everything we were doing. I'm still not sure if they realized what was going on. Fuck, that was so hot. We also tend to fuck in the doggy style position when we have sex on the couch...or in the kitchen bent over the counter or the table. It definitely makes sex easier when fucking in places outside of the bedroom. Having more sex in random places is definitely on my to do list. I love that doggy style makes it more readily able because I can push her up against a sink, a wall, table, chair, or whatever is at hand, then bend her over and just fuck her.

Rear-entry spooning is something that I'm not a big fan of. The cock just doesn't seem to hit all of the sweet spots. It is very useful for when you are both exhausted though. While fucking me in this position, Husband usually lifts my leg up and into my chest as he rubs my clit. You won't hear much moaning from me in this position because it just doesn't feel that great. We usually end up in more of a T shape by the end of it, which does feel slightly better. Really, this position is only good for when I really need to be fucked but neither of us can be bothered to put that much effort into it. So, it will do when times are rough. I wouldn't have thought of including this in doggy style fucking, but essentially it is, just sideways. We definitely do this more when we are exhausted and/or sore and it does the job, but usually takes longer (which could be because of being exhausted in the first place). One thing about rear-entry spooning that I do like is that if I am in the mood for breath play, it is a simpler way of incorporating for me. This was actually how I started breath play with her. It started very slowly, just light pressure, touches and caresses. Then I increased pressure when the noises she was making indicated that she was enjoying herself. From there I found that she was so wet that I couldn't resist sliding my cock into her pussy while holding her throat. That was quite fun.

There is one thing that I really dislike about doggy style. I am not a size queen. Bigger is not always better in my book. While there is such a thing as too small, I'm more happy with an average cock than an above average one. If a cock is 8+ inches long, doggy style can sometimes be too much. It goes way too deep and hits my cervix. I have a VERY sensitive cervix and if it's hit, it hurts a lot and I bleed. So, I try to avoid that whenever possible. That doesn't mean that I won't do doggy style with someone with a huge cock. It just can't be super rough.

Doggy style will always be my favorite. It's just a very versatile position and it feels absolutely amazing. I second this, also my favorite.






Sunday, April 1, 2018

Friday, March 30, 2018

Kink of the Week: Fishnets

I have been a fan of fishnets since I was a young teenager. I started wearing them on my legs when I got into the goth scene. I preferred them to be new and perfect but I also wore them occasionally when they were ripped up. Eventually, I started wearing fishnet shirts as well. I loved the feeling of them on my arms and I would run my hands all over them. The truth is, I felt like a sexy badass when I wore fishnets.



I loved having sex while wearing fishnet stockings and a great pair of boots. I would pull them down a bit, just enough so that my partner could get their cock in my pussy. Soon, I got the idea to rip the crotch so that I could just leave them on while getting fucked. Eventually, I found out about crotchless fishnet stockings but I could never find them in my size.



As an adult, I've branched out a bit. Not only do I still wear fishnets on my legs and arms, but I've also started wearing fishnet body stockings. They take the sexiness of fishnets to a whole new level. Especially when they are crotchless, which I've now been able to find easily thanks to online shopping. I love when my partner runs their hands over the fishnets while fucking me. The sensation is so wonderful. Fishnets will always be my favorite piece of sexy clothing.




My First Experience with Eating Pussy

The first girl I had sex with was my ex-best-friend, Olivia. I enjoyed sex with her but it always felt like it was lacking something. I loved her very much as a friend and it was fun to mess around. I just didn't have strong feelings for her otherwise. So, I never felt comfortable enough to go down on her. I got so caught up in the idea that my first time should be with someone special, that I didn't allow myself to go there with her.

The second girl I had sex with was Kirsten. She was beautiful and I wanted her so badly right from the beginning. I couldn't wait to have sex with her but she wanted to take things very slowly because she had a lot of anxiety (I found out later that she's actually asexual so that explained a lot). The first couple times we had sex, she didn't want me to go down on her. So, even though I wanted to, I respected her wishes. When she was finally feeling more comfortable with everything, I started feeling too nervous about doing it. Would I even know what I was doing? I talked to Husband about the anxiety I was feeling and he made me feel better. I finally felt ready to do it. That was when we ended up breaking up. Fuck.

I dated another girl, Erica, for a short time. She talked a lot about wanting to have sex with me but every time I tried, there was some excuse to prevent it from actually happening. After months of trying to no avail, I gave up. I definitely would have gone down on her if I were given the chance though.

The third girl I had sex with was Sasha. I fell VERY hard for her. It actually took a while for me to act on it because I was so terrified of getting hurt. I knew my feelings for her were very strong and I didn't want to put myself out there to get hurt. Her wife kept pushing us together and I finally let my guard down. We started dating but we didn't rush the sex part. There was lots of making out and heavy petting but it took a couple months to finally get to the sex. The first time we had sex was at a kink play party in front of four other people. We were lying on a bed, half naked, and making out. Things were getting really hot and she whispered, "Can I taste you?" I said yes, so she did. I wanted to do the same for her but there was no way I was going to be able to convince myself to eat pussy for the first time in front of four other people who were watching us.

A couple weeks later, Sasha came over to my place. We were sitting on the couch talking and I couldn't keep my eyes off of her body. I wanted her so badly. We started making out and playing with each other's boobs. We were both very turned on. Hands were wandering and kisses were turning into neck nibbles. She asked if I'd like to go to the bedroom. I was excited and nervous all at the same time. I knew I was ready to finally do it but I was still afraid that I wouldn't know what I was doing. I silently promised myself that I would not back out this time.

We laid down on the bed together and started making out again. My hands kept making their way up her shirt. She had the most amazing tits and I wanted my hands all over them. As our hands continued to wander, our clothes started to come off. Once our bras were removed, I rubbed my breasts against hers. Our nipples touched and I moaned out in pleasure. That has to be one of my favorite things to do with a woman. Mashing our tits together. Mmmm. I can't get enough of that. Sasha started to suck on my nipples while rubbing my clit gently. I was so turned on that it felt like I could cum any second. She stopped and kissed me one more time before moving her mouth down to my thighs. She kissed, licked, and nibbled her way down the inside of my thigh until she reached my pussy. She licked the outside, teasing me. I arched my back, aching for more. She opened my pussy lips and started to lick my clit. I felt her fingers slide into my very wet cunt. As she finger fucked me and licked my clit, I ran my fingers through her hair. It wasn't long before I was cumming hard, grabbing a handful of hair and pulling on it as I did.

Sasha laid down next to me again and I kissed her hard. I could taste my pussy on her lips and it excited me. I nibbled her neck, down to her collar bone, then licked and kissed my way to her nipples. While massaging her breast, I sucked on her nipple until she moaned. I continued down to her belly. I caressed her hips while I kissed around her belly button. I moved down to her thighs, licking, kissing, nibbling. I caressed her lower legs, down to her feet. As she moaned louder, I got even more turned on. I caressed her vulva gently with my fingers, softly tracing the line where her legs meet her crotch. I put my face so close that she could feel my hot breath, teasing her. I was very excited to taste her. So, I swallowed my nervousness, took a deep breath, and went for it. I parted her lips and gave a long, slow, gentle lick from the opening of her pussy to the top of her clit. I buried my face in her cunt, inhaling her sweet smell. I licked her clit slowly, occasionally stopping to stick my tongue inside her. She started to arch her back, so I licked faster and slid my fingers inside her. I massaged her g-spot as I ate her pussy. She started to cum all over my face, squirting her juices into my mouth, and I moaned as I drank them. She didn't seem to want me to stop, so I continued to lick her clit. I made her cum once more, then I collapsed next to her.

As we were cuddling, I told her that was my first time and she said I did an amazing job. I felt such pride in that moment. I couldn't wait to do it again. I ate her pussy every time I had the chance after that. She ended up breaking my heart but I'm glad I finally got my first pussy eating experience out of the way. Now, hopefully I won't get so caught up when doing it with other women. If I ever get the chance to be with other women, that is. I really miss eating pussy. So very much. There has to be someone out there that needs a tongue on their clit...

Tuesday, March 27, 2018

TMI Tuesday: March 27, 2018

Are you ready? Get set…Go do TMI Tuesday! 🙂




Ash:
1. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, your future, what would you want to know?
I would want to know the truth about myself as a person. Am I really as worthless as I feel I am? Am I better than my brain makes me believe I am? Am I honestly a good person? I would want to know these kinds of things. I would like to keep everything else a mystery though.

2. What do you value most in your sex life?
I love that I feel 100% comfortable with my husband and that I'm not afraid to try anything with him.

3. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
Suicide is not funny. It should never be taken lightly or joked about. Ever.

4. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one in which you currently live, where would you move and why?
If I could choose any state to live in, it would be California. I've been in love with that state since I was a child. Though, I'd much prefer to move out of this country. I would jump at the chance to live in the United Kingdom.

5. Are you too nice?
Oh god, yes. I am way too nice. I am a people pleaser and I have a hard time saying no. I'm working on it though.

Bonus: Falling in love is _____ . (one word only)
Breathtaking.


Husband:
1. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, your future, what would you want to know?
I would use the crystal ball to find all the truth that is hiding within myself. I would like to shine light on all the hidden corners of my mind and memory so that I could have an even better understanding of my self and how best to work through anything that comes my way.

2. What do you value most in your sex life?
I value the fluidity of my sex life, it grows and changes and evolves. I would never have imagined I would be where I am now in regards to sex. I love that I am still learning and finding myself, no matter how bumpy the road may be.

3. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
Suicide is very touchy for me, it hits really close to home and strikes waves of mental pain for me most of the time.

4. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one in which you currently live, where would you move and why?
I would move to Europe. I know it says country, and I am protesting this because there are so many places I think I would love to live and the majority of them are overseas away from the Americas.

5. Are you too nice?
I can be, and generally am unless taken advantage of. At that point people generally find out the advanced level of asshole I can be.

Bonus: Falling in love is _____ . (one word only)
Falling in love is breathtaking.

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Sunday, March 25, 2018

Sinful Sunday: Bruised

I went out with G on Friday night. I decided to go to his house afterwards and we had a scene. He beat my ass and left some pretty marks.




Kiss the lips and see who else is sinning.

Sinful Sunday